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post #181 of 655
hi, mamas and otherwise-identified parents!

welcome to our newcomers, and big hurrahs! :

DP and I completed our crash-course Birthing from Within classes on Monday night. The other couple, an awesome woman and man from WI, are expecting any day now and wanted to complete the course before their due date, and we were happy to be along for the ride. I think that DP found it a little touchy-feely, but the general feedback she's given me has all been positive, and we feel like we're more prepared and know what questions to be asking ourselves, one another, and our HCP.

At my OB appt on Monday afternoon, I saw a different dr. from the same practice. I have been really loving these doctors - they're all so positive and caring and empowering to me as a mom. Dr Levitan said that the chances of my marginal previa not resolving by term are about 1%, "So go back to worrying about wearing your seat belt, eating omega-3s, and taking your prenatals!" I like her.

Our finances are looking pretty tight, too. DP is getting tired of being home so much since basically getting laid off, and there just isn't any business in this economic downturn for personal assistant/concierge/chef services. I think she's starting to look for something part-time until I go back to work after the baby is born, and she has talked about going to culinary school, which I would love for her to do. My father has offered to help out even more with $, for which I am so grateful. He's a ridiculously generous man.
post #182 of 655
pranava- big, big

got a kid in my arms, so can't type much, but know that i'm thinking of you. i have faith that you'll find a way to make things work, financially and emotionally. and as someone who was very ambivalent about pregnancy for quite awhile (and also unexpectedly single at three months), i can promise you that things on this side are so, so worth it. you are going to love that kid so much that you won't even remember not being 100% excited about this.
post #183 of 655
OT to Angela:

Big props to Providence for being brave and coming to the Eastern Regional Women's Flat Track Derby tournament in Madison this last weekend and putting on a good showing even though they have 8 rookies and little experience. They were amazingly good sports and really, really positive
post #184 of 655
Can you add me?? EDD June 19th
Hey y'all!! Glad to be here after 17months TTC (though I took at least 5 of those months off)

I had 3 BFPs and had it confirmed by the doc yesterday--I am 4 weeks 4 days pregnant!!

I am delighted to be slightly nauseous and to be very tired--I'm still too excited to nap, but I try to take it easy in the afternoons.

My fears around the single mom stuff is starting to creep in. For those not in the know--I began TTC with DP of 3+ years, 1 year into TTC DP decided that baby making was NOT in DP's plan. We had a sad split and are currently working on building a non-monogamous/polyamorous model for our relationship. It is Really Hard Work!!! Especially after 4+ years of monogamy (though DP always wanted/pushed for poly)

So yeah sleeping alone has been getting to me. I think I need to find a cuddle pal to hold on these cold nights when DP can't/doesn't want to be there--this mama needs some warm hugs and lots of attention right now as my body works so hard to make space for my little Kale sprout.:
post #185 of 655
holy crap kjm!!!! yeah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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post #186 of 655
Congrats Kjm!! That's very exciting TTC is stressful enough on it's own without relationship issues... I'm glad your finally growing your "Kale sprout"!
I hope you're able to work out some form of a relationship that works for both of you! :
I'm due about a week before you, June 13 so we'll be nauseous and excited together!:
Take care... and again... CONGRATS!
post #187 of 655
Yeah KJM!!!!! : : : Welcome!!


I had a great OB visit this morning. Got to hear the baby's heartbeat for the first time. It was fabulous! The OB let DP use the doppler on me. She really enjoyed that! The OB had said that my retroverted uterus should pop up into its proper place by the end of my first trimester. Well... yesterday was the last day of my first trimester and last night, I noticed that my cervix was no longer hanging out real low (or sticking out at times). It just magically popped up where its supposed to be! I was thrilled! So, all is well and normal now.
post #188 of 655
Welcome Nnejy and Kjm! I'm also due in June. I'm coming up on the 7 week mark. I've been blessed up until the past couple of days with no nausea. Given how I feel now, I'm certainly thankful for the few weeks it waited to start!
post #189 of 655
Welcome Nnejy! Always nice to see another Canadian babymaking queer around these parts.

And congrats to you kjm! Woo hoo!

For some reason, morning sickness seems to have hit me yesterday. At 12 weeks. I am not a very happy camper.
post #190 of 655
Nnejy ... welcome from another fellow Canuck, albeit a West Coaster.
I hear you about the food aversions. DP is a chef, and it just about broke her heart when I'd run fleeing from the room whenever she cooked meat.
It does get better! We went out to dinner last night and I had venison, which I couldn't have even considered fleetingly in the first trimester.
post #191 of 655
Hello lovelies - after losing our little Caden earlier this year, K and I couldnt wait to try again.

We were thrilled and shocked when our one try worked and we are now 16 weeks pg with #3. I havent been on MDC much in the past yr but I see some familiar faces and would love to join back in here!

We didnt tell anyone about ttc again, and still no-one IRL knows of our secret bub (except our mums) so if you read my blog...please no congrats on our blog page!!! lol
post #192 of 655
Thanks for the welcome from my fellow canadians It's so great to be here!
Thanks for the reassurance that the food aversions will go away! This week has been particularly challening...and very... green Still loving every second though and knowing it will all be worth it when our little Junebug gets here!
How's everyone's week been?
post #193 of 655
Wow ... this place is hopping!
Welcome to Kim and Brooke.
Sending out a prayer for your Caden and oodles of sticky, healthy baby vibes and long-life blessings for your little one on the way/
post #194 of 655
Just got back from the ultrasound appointment followed by lunch at Panera's.

I am very pleased (overjoyed, in fact) to report that there is only ONE baby in there. One. Thank goodness! Just like last time, people had me all worked up that it might be twins because my tummy popped out so quick. But I guess I just like to pop out there.

We didn't have an ultrasound this early with E, so it was really cool to get to see the baby so soon this time around. I got to see and hear the heartbeat, look at its little face, and see all its parts (minus the sex, of course.) It was a lot of fun, and I am feeling more relaxed now. The ultrasound placed my due date three or four days later that I had estimated, so it looks like we're on track for an early May baby.

Now to start building a newborn cloth diaper stash... :
post #195 of 655
Welcome back Kim&Brooke! :

Congrats on "only one" baby to lemurmommies! I had that very same relief upon learning (via u/s) that we were only having one baby the second time around.

We just got back dw's beta hcg levels from yesterday's blood test, and her level was 255 (at 14 dpo). Sounds good to me! She has to have another test on Monday (clinic protocol) so that we can schedule an early u/s to see the heartbeat (which we want to do before telling the kids).

Speaking of telling . . . I think we're going to tell dw's parents this weekend. They will be SHOCKED beyond belief because they don't even know we were ttc (last they knew dw was still adamant about never getting pregnant). I'm really excited to see their reaction.

I feel like I'm getting a flu or something. I hope dw has a super pregnancy immune system and doesn't catch it from me. :

Lex
post #196 of 655
*Please be advised of the rambling nature of this post. I know that science isn't terribly exact, but I got to thinking last night, and wanted to post to get any/all opinions you might have on the subject.*

Okay. I posted yesterday about the fact that I went in for a dating ultrasound at the request of my midwife, and that they pushed my due date back a few days. Yesterday I didn't really think much of it, but last night in bed I got to thinking, and now I'm really confused. And thinking I'm damn lucky to have gotten pregnant.

The ultrasound had the baby measuring at 11w3d, roughly. All fine and dandy. I have had longer cycles since having E, so I was thinking I was right around 12w. Off by about 4 days. But having a baby measuring at 11w3d would mean an ovulation date of approximately 8/11. Why is this odd? Well... our KD was in town and we inseminated 7/31, 8/1, 8/2, and 8/3.

Is it even possible that sperm survived from 8/3 to 8/11 just a-swimming inside me? Or is the babe just measuring small? I'm definitely going to bring this up to the midwife, as maybe she'll want to keep my original due date instead of the one from the untrasound. What do you think? Small baby? Or just a really, really, really lucky conception?
post #197 of 655
Sorry you are stressing about this Lemurmommies. It is also quite likely that there is just "normal variation". Depending on how the baby was positioned when they took a crown-rump measurement it could be off a few mm. Each mm=1 day gestation. So a few mm "off" on the measurement and a few days off on your ovulation estimation could give you a difference of 4 days.

I think you are just very blessed to have a healthy baby, and a super fertile combo between you and your KD that makes super cute babies (as evidenced by E). : And that is what I would focus on.
post #198 of 655
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Originally Posted by lemurmommies View Post
Is it even possible that sperm survived from 8/3 to 8/11 just a-swimming inside me? Or is the babe just measuring small? I'm definitely going to bring this up to the midwife, as maybe she'll want to keep my original due date instead of the one from the untrasound. What do you think? Small baby? Or just a really, really, really lucky conception?
I think it's possible that the sperm survived that long, but more likely that the baby is just a little small (or that the measurements were a little off). My babies have all measured big, even on "early" ultrasounds (that are supposed to be more accurate for dating). With Zeb I had an u/s at 13 weeks because they couldn't find a heartbeat, and he measured over a week big. The ultrasound technician wanted to change my EDD, but since I did an IUI with frozen sperm, I was 100% sure of the date of conception. When Zeb was born at 40 weeks, he weighed 10-10, so he was just BIG.

I wouldn't worry about it at all either way (if they change your date or not). The due date is such an approximation anyway.

Hooray for a healthy baby! :

Lex
post #199 of 655
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I think it's possible that the sperm survived that long, but more likely that the baby is just a little small (or that the measurements were a little off).
Thanks Lex. Like I said before, I didn't have an early ultrasound with E, so this is all new territory for me. If they do change my due date, it'll give me even more wiggle room for my VBAC, so that's okay in my books. I am just a little flabbergasted by the idea that 1) maybe the sperm really did hang out that long or 2) I might have a baby measuring small!
post #200 of 655
Hi all! Congrats on the new pregnancies, hope all is well with everyone, just wanted to share my news! I had my daughter Phoebe Joy on the 9th of October! Yay! I posted a thread about it on the main queer parenting board with a link to pics!
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