The Queer & Pregnant Thread --- mid-Sept. till Dec. 2008 - Page 3

[lemurmommies]

Originally Posted by JenInMpls

Baby-in-belly had a GREAT time at the Dar Williams concert last night. He danced a great deal of the time, much to my discomfort! But it was a great venue and we had very, very good seats. Nice to feel like a grown-up :

Oooh, you saw Dar Williams last night? Count me in as officially jealous.

[pigirl]

Hey, Pranava, how you doing? I feel like it's been a while since you posted, and I've been wondering. Hope all is well.

[pranava]

Hey Pigirl, thanks for thinking of me And Angela, I don't know if you're still checking in here, but thanks so much for your message a while back. It was very helpful.

I'm trying to focus now on the fact that I get a baby that I don't have to share or compromise my parenting style with anyone. I'm 15.5 weeks today. I almost passed out in line at the store on sunday, and this morning I lost another pound. That makes 10 total and I don't really have another to lose. I'm almost back to my 23 year old smoking weight. I'm trying to eat calorie dense foods, but it doesn't seem to be enough and I don't want to feed the baby on nothing but fat, white flour, and sugar. I haven't been eating well enough to take my pre-natals. I haven't had one since 10 weeks preggo. Anybody know what kind of damage that might cause. I took them for a year while TTC. Does that make up for anything?

I put the smack down on X-DP this past weekend. Told her to get the truck and boat out of my name by Oct. 1. She got pissed like a big child and retaliated by stealing my bike. Real mature. Anyway, she's bringing the bike back tomorrow and we had a decent conversation today, so I'm feeling pretty strong. I've been going out to the bar with friends once a week just to make an appearance. X-DP is the DJ there. Her new girlfriend (17 years her junior might I remind you) is a major hoochie slut and not even very attractive. I can't imagine this will be a lasting relationship.

I've told X-DP that I'm going to the Dr. alone tomorrow and she has 4 weeks till the ultrasound to give me and her child a good reason why I should let her be in the child's life, and a good reason why she wants the child in her life. She is thinking about it for a bit and will call me with an answer. She said she does not want to be like her dad - distant and cold. We'll see what happens.

Fed-ex delivered the crib today, so I'm going to spend the evening putting that together. Anyone have a good suggestion for keeping my cats out of the crib and bassinet? They love the bassinet already :

[JenInMpls]

Keeping cats out of stuff - get a canopy, for real - worked for us. There's also a product called feliway or something like that that is a natural cat repellent. It was difficult for the cats to get into the crib so that wasn't an issue but the canopy kept 'em out (mostly) of the co-sleeper. Perhaps if you drape some netting over the bassinet it might work??

I couldn't take my prenatals until about 24 weeks along and my midwife told me to take sublingual folic acid which you can get at a co-op or at Trader Joe's. Can you stomach milk? Good protein + calorie source right there. I lost 13 lbs with my first one, so I know how you feel. I have only lost 2 with this one but I also haven't put any weight on yet, and I'm almost 31 weeks.

good for you putting the smack down w/ your XP.

[Beccalina]

Originally Posted by pranava

Hey Pigirl, thanks for thinking of me And Angela, I don't know if you're still checking in here, but thanks so much for your message a while back. It was very helpful.

I'm trying to focus now on the fact that I get a baby that I don't have to share or compromise my parenting style with anyone. I'm 15.5 weeks today. I almost passed out in line at the store on sunday, and this morning I lost another pound. That makes 10 total and I don't really have another to lose. I'm almost back to my 23 year old smoking weight. I'm trying to eat calorie dense foods, but it doesn't seem to be enough and I don't want to feed the baby on nothing but fat, white flour, and sugar. I haven't been eating well enough to take my pre-natals. I haven't had one since 10 weeks preggo. Anybody know what kind of damage that might cause. I took them for a year while TTC. Does that make up for anything?

I put the smack down on X-DP this past weekend. Told her to get the truck and boat out of my name by Oct. 1. She got pissed like a big child and retaliated by stealing my bike. Real mature. Anyway, she's bringing the bike back tomorrow and we had a decent conversation today, so I'm feeling pretty strong. I've been going out to the bar with friends once a week just to make an appearance. X-DP is the DJ there. Her new girlfriend (17 years her junior might I remind you) is a major hoochie slut and not even very attractive. I can't imagine this will be a lasting relationship.

I've told X-DP that I'm going to the Dr. alone tomorrow and she has 4 weeks till the ultrasound to give me and her child a good reason why I should let her be in the child's life, and a good reason why she wants the child in her life. She is thinking about it for a bit and will call me with an answer. She said she does not want to be like her dad - distant and cold. We'll see what happens.

Fed-ex delivered the crib today, so I'm going to spend the evening putting that together. Anyone have a good suggestion for keeping my cats out of the crib and bassinet? They love the bassinet already :

Good for you standing your ground!

As for kitty's in the crib...no such luck with me trying to keep my kitty out. He thinks I put the crib up for him lol. I read somewhere that if you put foil in the crib, when the cat jumps in it will startle him and he'd never go back in. Again, no such luck for me. I tried that, and my little Gus loves the way it sounds and feels.

Maybe you can try the foil idea and your cats might be different? Good luck!

[MujerMamaMismo]

Go Pranava!! Glad to see you've found some clarity.

My calorie suggestion for you is full fat, high protein, yummy yummy yoghurt. That's where I've been getting a lot of my calories from. I don't think you need to beat yourself up too much about the vitamins. If you've been taking them for a year, I'm sure your folate levels are fine which would ordinarily be my biggest concern. PLenty of people have poor diets and don't take any supplements and still wind up with happy, healthy babies.

Tigermiep: How'd you go? I did mine on Monday. It was a mighty treat again and again with my crappy reflux.: Midwife said she's only call me if there was a problem so it looks like I'm all clear. Yay! I was worried because there have been a few weeks where I've eaten more than my share of chocolate.

Jen: Love that babe loved Dar. Squeak dances around to music too. I don't know if that means he loves it or hates it??? I've got tickets to see Joan as Policewoman in a few weeks and also Martha Wainwright in mid November. I'm excited but they're both standing room only gigs so I'm slightly worried too.

[tigermiep]

Hi, pregnant folk,

my glucose was at 70 and my hemoglobin at 12.5, so I am all systems go. ob had good responses to all our questions, and I feel pretty confident that all the doctors in the practice will listen to our desires. i have a follow-up US next week to make sure the marginal previa has resolved...

glucose drink = the yuck! we had to go out for bad mexican food (well, good bad mexican food) at Little Tijuana to keep me from getting sleepy and shaking.

pranava, way to stay strong. you sound really clear and fierce.

jen -- :jealous

[JenInMpls]

Originally Posted by tigermiep

jen -- :jealous

yeah well it wasn't as good as the zoo to be honest and we did think of you since we saw you at the last one. She didn't sing 'Iowa' and we had to whine at her to sing 'The Babysitter's Here' for her encore song. btw let me know about those pants I mentioned per e-mail, ja?

I am sleepy but I am going to go be social with my wifey since she and the bambino are going to TX tomorrow...

[heart-n-bones]

Pranava - Glad you are taking some control of the situation and asserting yourself. Good for you!


Well, we got to see our little kumquat on the ultrasound today! The reason for the ultrasound was not so good. We had a slight problem that the doc doesn't seem too worried about but wants to keep an eye on till it resolves. But it was so cool to see that there really is a baby in there!!

We're trying to figure out now what to do. We had originally gone to a homebirth midwife and were excited about having the baby at home. But when this problem came up the midwife recommended we see an OB about it. Good thing is I totally liked the OB (which was soooo surprising because the OB is a man)! We can't afford to go to both the OB and the homebirth midwife. So since we need to keep an eye on things, we might just switch to this OB's practice. He has two midwives and his practice is well known in the area for being the best for natural childbirth. But it still means delivering at a hospital... I don't know, we're still trying to decide...

[JenInMpls]

The OB who ended up delivering my son was a man and I swear, if I had had him throughout my labor instead of the ice queen midwife, I think I would have had a different outcome. He was so sweet, warm and kind.

Can I ask what the problem was/is that the OB doesn't seem worried about?

[Beccalina]

I had my first real contraction last night....I think! It felt like a pain that went around from my back to down in my pelvic area....and felt like a menstrual cramp. It didn't last very long but it was definitely not a braxton hick contraction like the ones I have been getting for the last month. I have an OB appointment tonight and will find out if there is any progress.

I don't know what compelled me to share this, but I am just so excited!

[Beccalina]

Originally Posted by heart-n-bones

Pranava - Glad you are taking some control of the situation and asserting yourself. Good for you!


Well, we got to see our little kumquat on the ultrasound today! The reason for the ultrasound was not so good. We had a slight problem that the doc doesn't seem too worried about but wants to keep an eye on till it resolves. But it was so cool to see that there really is a baby in there!!

We're trying to figure out now what to do. We had originally gone to a homebirth midwife and were excited about having the baby at home. But when this problem came up the midwife recommended we see an OB about it. Good thing is I totally liked the OB (which was soooo surprising because the OB is a man)! We can't afford to go to both the OB and the homebirth midwife. So since we need to keep an eye on things, we might just switch to this OB's practice. He has two midwives and his practice is well known in the area for being the best for natural childbirth. But it still means delivering at a hospital... I don't know, we're still trying to decide...

I am going to try to have a ncb and my ob is being very supportive of it. I will be having my baby in a hospital....and I am confident they will be supportive of my wishes....I hope you can get what you want!

[Beccalina]

wow I sure am posting a lot today!

My appointment gave me good news and bad news

The good news is I was GBS negative and I am 1 cm dilated and 50% effaced!

The bad news is, my blood pressure was abnormally high (they took it twice) and there was some protein in my urine. These are the beginning signs of preeclampsia.

I have an appointment on Monday and if my bp is still high and there is still protein in my urine she will order blood work done.

I think that she must not be too concerned if she is not doing blood work now right?

[smartycat]

Becca: How exciting! And a little nerve wracking having to wait over the weekend but still, exciting!

Hope your appointment goes well. I really think you should hold out for an Oct 13th birthday... I think it is a very excellent day to be born.

[heart-n-bones]

Originally Posted by JenInMpls

Can I ask what the problem was/is that the OB doesn't seem worried about?

Yeah, it was a mildly prolapsed uterus. He seems to think it should correct itself in a couple weeks as my uterus gets bigger. If not, then he'll do a pessary.

Becca - Sounds like that baby girl is going to be here any moment!! : that you don't have pre-eclampsia and all the tests come back a-ok on Monday.

[jodybird511]

Can I be added????

Can we June 09-due girls start to be added???

Due 6/4/09

[pleasantlyfurious]

CONGRATS, JODYBIRD511!!!! :::

Beccalina - that is exciting! I hope all works out perfectly!

Pranava - good for you! I'm so impressed with how much strength and grace you've handled this situation. Really. Incredible.

JenInMpls - oh how wonderful! We lovelovelove Dar - and hope the baby does, too!

[frog]

Originally Posted by JenInMpls

There's also a product called feliway or something like that that is a natural cat repellent.

Feliway's not a cat repellant--it's cat happy pheromones.

Y'all are in my thoughts every day.

[ellie74]

I saw my peanut's heartbeat today! :

Turns out I'm only 5 weeks 6 days along (thought I'd be 6w/1day) and the hb was only about 94bpm. From what I've read (including on this thread!) that's ok, right? When can I start breathing again? When the kid turns 18?

Beccalina: I'm rooting for a 10/10 birthday!

jodybird511: : I'm really glad the Junebugs are finally busting out.

heart-n-bones: F/X that your uterus pops right back into place soon. Sounds like you have a good doc.

Everyone else:

Edited to add...This presidential debate is making me even more nauseous than I already was. Sorry to inject presidential politics into this nice board, but I dread the idea of bringing a new baby into the world during a McCain administration.

[JenInMpls]

Originally Posted by frog

Feliway's not a cat repellant--it's cat happy pheromones.

hrm. I hate being wrong. And doesn't the name make it sound like a cat repellent? I mean, feliway? Like away, feline! oh well

Welcome jodybird!

Oct 13 is not only a fine day for a birthday, it's a good day to get married, too. (7 years this year!) October's just an all-around great month, in my book.