The Queer & Pregnant Thread --- mid-Sept. till Dec. 2008 - Page 33

[indigoscot]

lemurmommies, i am so very sad to read your news. i can't imagine how devastating...life sucks so bad sometimes.

i agree that it has been a terrible month in our board community. i wish i had a magic wand so i could make things better again. instead i offer my thoughts and prayers to all.

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[JennM1021]

Lemurmommies...I am so very very sorry. There are no words.

[tigermiep]

I am trying very hard to cause there to be some good news for you all, but the baby is stubbornly insisting that he'd like to show up closer to his edd, or after. sigh. and I was hoping to provide a distraction. I've tried jumping up and down a lot, but it just makes my belly ache.

this is my attempt at levity in the face of all this sadness. I can't figure out why all these little ones are making their time with us so very, very short.

[lemurmommies]

Hi everyone.

We're home from the hospital. Since I was fairly far along, they induced labour yesterday around noon. I gave birth to our little girl, Noelle, just after 7pm yesterday, and was released to come home not long after 1am.

The hospital staff was truly excellent and kind and compassionate. As hard an experience as it was, eveyone was lovely and caring. We were really happy to get to know that it was a girl, and to get to name her. I didn't want to have to spend the rest of my life referring to her as "it."

Because it had been a while (they were thinking three weeks) since she had passed, Ru and I chose not to see or hold her. I'd rather imagine her as just perfect in my mind. It turns out that for all outward appearances, there wasn't anything wrong with her. She somehow got herself tangeled up in her cord, and that is what caused her to pass. Just a fluke. A really crappy fluke.

We are holding up remarkably well, all things considered. I'm not feeling angry, or particularly hurt. I'm sad that she had to leave us so early, but also happy that I got to know her for the few short weeks she was inside me. And I know we'll always have someone looking out over us now.

Many hugs to all of you. Thanks so much for all your kind words.

[smartycat]

lemurmommies, ru and E: How just incredibly sad. : It sounds like you are handling this with amazing amounts of grace. I'm just not sure what to say. You are in our thoughts. Take good care of one another.

Sending you lots of love.

[starling&diesel]

Noelle...

[heart-n-bones]

Lemurmommies - I'm so glad that your hospital experience was so good, considering the circumstances. May you continue to find support, love and peace in all of this.

[Photochef]

I haven't posted anything in a long time, but I knew JeninMpls was due recently and I thought I would check in....

wow, what a board right now.

Jen, I am so glad the choices made were YOURS this time, that is a triumph on its own. Bless you and your new baby, and please know that he chose you, and in a way, you chose him too. You all knew on a cosmic level that you were all meant to be with each other. And how incredibly lucky you are to have each other. Sending you super-powered nursing success vibes

And to all those who have had other losses, my heart breaks for you all. I am so sorry, as I always am, that mommies and their babies have to be parted this way.

Love and healing to all of you,

[JenInMpls]

It sounds like what we need here is a good Irish wake, and baby E, with his Irish name (but complete lack of Irish ancestry, I'm German and English and the donor is German and Polish), fully supports that idea.

So... there's all-natural organic apple cider for the pregnant, nursing and otherwise abstaining mamas, and a bottle of Jameson for those of you who might like something stronger. I think I have a bottle of Guinness in the fridge, but we'd have to split it many ways. I had a bottle of port, but I gave it away to a local mama who needed it for a Thanksgiving recipe. Anyway, a toast:

Here's to the mamas who have lost, may peace and strength be theirs; to the babies who have left us before their time, for whatever reason, may they keep an eye on us from afar; to the babes in utero, may they continue to grow healthy and strong and come out before they drive their mothers crazy with waiting; to the mothers who will give birth to them and their families, that they may have an empowering experience; and to the mamas and families with babies on the outside, that everyone may grow and thrive in their own ways.

And to this group, how great that we have each other for support, and may our run of sorrow be tempered by lots of good news soon.

*clink*

(I'll go work on the sandwiches now, and miep, I'll put extra marmite on yours.)

[starling&diesel]

Perhaps some savvy someone could start a new thread in honour of our wake?Hard goodbyes, new beginnings ...?

[MujerMamaMismo]

Originally Posted by JenInMpls

It sounds like what we need here is a good Irish wake, and baby E, with his Irish name (but complete lack of Irish ancestry, I'm German and English and the donor is German and Polish), fully supports that idea.

So... there's all-natural organic apple cider for the pregnant, nursing and otherwise abstaining mamas, and a bottle of Jameson for those of you who might like something stronger. I think I have a bottle of Guinness in the fridge, but we'd have to split it many ways. I had a bottle of port, but I gave it away to a local mama who needed it for a Thanksgiving recipe. Anyway, a toast:

Here's to the mamas who have lost, may peace and strength be theirs; to the babies who have left us before their time, for whatever reason, may they keep an eye on us from afar; to the babes in utero, may they continue to grow healthy and strong and come out before they drive their mothers crazy with waiting; to the mothers who will give birth to them and their families, that they may have an empowering experience; and to the mamas and families with babies on the outside, that everyone may grow and thrive in their own ways.

And to this group, how great that we have each other for support, and may our run of sorrow be tempered by lots of good news soon.

*clink*

(I'll go work on the sandwiches now, and miep, I'll put extra marmite on yours.)

I sure hope the omission of chocolate was an oversight! Irish or not, there must be chocolate at this wake - even if I'm the only one who eats it!!!

Cheers to healing, love and good news very soon. xox

[JenInMpls]

Originally Posted by MujerMamaMismo

I sure hope the omission of chocolate was an oversight! Irish or not, there must be chocolate at this wake - even if I'm the only one who eats it!!!

Oh! You know, I was so sugar-free during pregnancy that it barely occurs to me

OK! We shall add a pile of chocolate. Belgian, Swiss, milk and dark!

And perhaps some hot chocolate and some Bailey's to spike it if needed?

[lemurmommies]

Originally Posted by JenInMpls

And perhaps some hot chocolate and some Bailey's to spike it if needed?

Now you've got me!

[simcon]

lemurmommies, I'm so sorry for your loss

Noelle

[lemurmommies]

Blogged a little about Noelle and our experience, should anyone like to read it.

Hope all is well with everyone. We're getting prepared for E's second birthday party this afternoon. I'm looking forward to a little joy and distraction right about now.