Originally Posted by EFmom
Nobody has said these aren't "good" people, but in my book they are inconsiderate people.
Okay ... I do agree that they should have said something. But it seemed to me that the OP was asking where to go from here. Some are saying she should end the friendship over it, or at the very least not allow the kids to play together 'til the neighbors' kids are lice-free.
I'm not sure how long it would take to know if they're lice-free. In my book, it would be so precious to have a next-door neighbor with children close to my children's ages, who my children loved playing with, that I wouldn't be so quick to call this incident a deal-breaker.
I'd use the tea-tree-oil, and/or possibly coat my child's hair with olive-oil, and talk with my child about the increased risk of getting lice through sharing hair accessories and brushes and hats and pillows -- basically anything that goes on someone else's head ... and I wouldn't just focus on the neighbors, but talk about how anyone
can have lice, and it's just a good idea to take some simple precautions.
Since the OP's son was obviously traumatized by the lice, it sounds like he'll listen and take these suggestions to heart. And if he wanted to keep playing with his friends, I wouldn't stop him. I'd just do what I could to make it less likely for him to get lice, and, as others have suggested, go through his hair frequently.
Ultimately, it's up to the OP to do what she feels is best for her family and child. I don't fault her for not enjoying lice -- we didn't enjoy them either, though I wouldn't exactly say that the only things worse would be the plague or ebola (now I need to go look up ebola ...
Okay, just looked it up ... hemorrhagic fever and can cause death, huh? ... yeah, I stand by my previous assertion that there are lots of things worse than lice, that would be less severe than the plague or ebola ... i.e. tooth decay, severe teen acne, 2 hours of homework every night as young as age 12, etcetera, etcetera).