Weekly Chat: Sept 15 - 21 - Page 3

[Peony]

Originally Posted by SimplyRochelle

I had my first prenatal today. Just talked and got paperwork to fill out. My edd got moved up a few days putting me at exactly 12 weekss today. I was so disappointed that we didn't get to hear the heartbeat. I have to have a risk assessment done at the health clinic and I was going to put it off a few weeks but my midwife told me if I want to do it sooner rather than later I can kinda fib and tell them I'm not sure how pregnant I am and I might get a free u/s to make me not feel so worried. I go back to her on October 8th and that seems like a long time to have to wait to make sure everythings ok in there. I was really looking forward to hearing the h/b because I feel like it would make me actually feel pregnant and I'd start to feel bonded to this baby. Now that my m/s and sore boobs are fairly non-existent I find it much easier to worry.

I couldn't hear DD1's heartbeat at 12 weeks, but we could at 14 or so weeks.

Originally Posted by mamato2boys

My symptoms have been waning as well, and then last night I had some bleeding. I'm really trying NOT to freakout. My midwife is out of the country for another month. I could see her back-up but I'm not sure she would really do much. I'm 10w 4d so she may not even be able to hear a heartbeat; right? I've bled in previous pregnancies, but never this far along.

I hope everything is ok.




I feel human today! : Today is the first day in 6 days that I don't feel like death. I've started coughing some, but the other cold symptoms are getting better.

[wobblykate]

how do you feel about ultrasounds? Because she could order one of those. . sorry, this sucks.

[mamato2boys]

Glad to hear you're feeling a bit better Peony.

I had planned on not getting any ultrasounds this time around unless medically warranted. I'm not sure that I want one just because I'm bleeding. An u/s isn't going to change the outcome, good or bad. Although seeing a heartbeat would be reassuring. I think at this point as long as there is no more bleeding I'm going to assume all is well and hopefully hear the heartbeat when I see the midwife at the end of October....although that seems REALLY far away!

[ms.shell]

that's a good attitude, mama. I am glad you stopped bleeding, and i bet all is well. to you, though, that is a long time to wait!

I woke up this morning hurting really bad. I couldn't figure out why i would have extreme muscle soreness in legs and butt- we havent dtd and i could not think of any exertion from yesterday. I think i figured out it is from working in the garden yesterday. I have neglected it a while and now it is cool and time for some work. I must have been more than an hour crouching/ squatting to pull weeds and direct strawberry and sweet potato runners. Like, my feet flat on the paving stones, my legs bent with my bottom balanced just over the ground. I dont know if my uterus being enlarged caused this to be a particular problem, or what. It seems crazy to be feeling so sore from just squatting like that, but it is the only thing i can think of to explain it. I just sat on the floor to sort some seeds and it was a major PITA to get up off of the floor. Now I gotta go to school (I skipped my 1st 2 classes but cant miss the other 2) and am not looking forward to carrying my backpack on a cross campus hike.

a hospital in town is having a "baby expo" tonight and claims to be giving out lots of door prizes and freebies. My sister, who is due w her 1st in December, asked me to go with her. I dont like going into crowds, but it will be worth it to hang out w her (we never do), and for a chance to win something useful.
i sure will be ready for bed tonight, lol.

I hope you all have a wonderful day.

[corikodjo]

Hi all. I'm back from my vacation in Europe and probably ate all the things I wasn't supposed to - but I'm still alive.

My m/s is exhausting. When I think about at the moment how I feel it's not that bad - except it doesn't go away. It's all day long and it's just exhausting. So I'm really tired.

I went to my RE for the last time on Monday and so the babe and heard and saw the heartbeat and everything is going well.

I'm still on progesterone suppositories which I'll be able to stop at the end of next week. I can't wait! They are disgusting.

Anyway, that's it from me.

Hope you are all doing well.

-c

[michanders4]

Welcom back Cori!

Oh and Happy Anniversary!

[Wildwomyn]

So I’ve told no one in my real life except DP and my mother. I had hoped to be able to wait for the second trimester, but DP’s parents, who live very far away, are going to be in town (to see their newest grandchild, who was born in July) and we decided that we should tell them when we see them. They are coming over on Sunday – we moved and they’ve never seen the new place.

Because we’re telling them, I’m planning to call my father and tell him this weekend, just because it seems unfair for him to be the only grandparent who doesn’t know. And, tonight I am planning to call a friend and tell her because (long story of entanglements), she’s likely to find out through our telling DP’s parents, and she will be pissed that they heard it before she did.

I don’t want to tell anyone! I feel like I’m not even sure I’m still pregnant because I haven’t heard the heartbeat in two weeks! Of course, I haven’t been checked for the heartbeat in two weeks, and I have no reason to think anything happened, but I still feel that way.

[catballou24]

ww - i know how you feel. dh's parents are coming over on saturday and he is feeling like we should tell them since we'll be almost 11 weeks along. but i want to wait. the problem is, they are leaving for australia the next week and we won't see them for close to 2 months, so i'm torn. i am afraid to tell them and then something happen, you know? it's hard after having a m/c to think normal i guess...i don't know...we'll see what happens. i am leaning towards waiting right now...but we'll see....

[dawncayden]

I decided to tell people early. If I had/have a m/c I want people to know so they know whats wrong and maybe we can get support from family and friends.
I have a friend that told everyone really early and m/c'd and I know that they were wishing they hadn't told everyone but at the same time they got food delivered everyday and childcare help came for their toddler.

[Wildwomyn]

The friend I'm planning to call tonight is someone I told about having my miscarriage, even though she didn't know I was pregnant then! (I didn't know before) So it's not like I wouldn't tell people if something happened, I suppose I've just become superstious about not telling people yet.

We will not see DPs parents after now and before the baby is born, however. I imagine the next time we see them will be when they come to see our baby, and if we weren't having a baby, it would be the next time we were willing to go to Arizona (or if we actually had a wedding). They wouldn't be coming out here if it wasn't for the new granddaughter.

[JoyFilled]

Both sets of our parents live out of town. We told them when we went to visit for 2 weeks in August. I am so glad we did because seeing the tears on my Dad's face was worth it even if something happens.

[wobblykate]

I called my parents the morning I peed on a stick

[michanders4]

I called my Mom the last time the moment I peed on the stick. Sadly after that loss I decided to wait a little longer although it was next to impossible and I ended up giving in at 6 weeks!!!! : We told my inlaws as we were still in the hospital parking lot the day of our first u/s when we saw that beautiful !! DH had a few too many drinks one night and called his brother to tell him when I wasn't even home a few weeks ago and that is all who knows so far! My plan is to tell work and the family next week . I'm so nervous! I think its like what I read on another post - I'm feeling superstitious about it. I like that its all mine and the people I surround myself with daily don't know about it. Anyone else share the same feelings??

[Wildwomyn]

Originally Posted by wobblykate

I called my parents the morning I peed on a stick

That’s when I called my mom. My parents aren’t together, and while my father and I get alone fine, she’s the one I’m telling things like ‘this is how my nipples feel today.’ I did give her permission to tell her partner, since it’s too big a thing to keep from someone you live with, and one of my aunts, who is functionally her best girlfriend (but said aunt is not yet permitted to tell her children – her place in the cone of knowledge is based on her relationship with mom, not with me).

And I never called my friend last night! Mostly because my schedule sucks ass – I get home around 7ish, am exhausted by 8, and in bed between 9-10. It just seems impossible to fit in a phone call what with dinner and a shower.

[wobblykate]

I have to admit, other than my parents, I haven't told many people. I've left it to rumor and my DH, who can't keep anything in . I can't figure our why, but I'm shy or reluctant to tell people, unless they're really good friends.

[JoyFilled]

After the ultrasound on Tuesday I am telling the world! I told work yesterday. I started emailing people too. I am 13 weeks on Saturday though so the first trimester is done and that is the biggest risk.

[corikodjo]

Originally Posted by wobblykate

I called my parents the morning I peed on a stick

Me too!

[Polgara1111]

I told all my family and close friends last night. They're all excited.

My brother in law is getting married when I'll be 34 weeks along. My doc told me I can't travel out of state after 32 weeks in case something happens. But I gotta be at that wedding. I've waited 15 years for someone else in my husband's family to get married!

What do you guys think? Would you travel by car to another state 5 hours drive away when you're 34 weeks along? I do have the diabetes issue but I intend to have that all okay long before then. She's just worried that if I have the baby prematurely I will be stuck in another state for 6 weeks and of course my insurance will charge me out of network rates so that is something to consider.

[wobblykate]

Golly, that's a tough one. Did either of your other two go early? Will BIL consider a location wedding? GL

[*Amy*]

I think if it's just five hours, I'd probably risk it and drive.

So I'm 11w1d today and am finally getting the breast soreness, which I thought I'd be able to avoid altogther. I seriously hoped my breasts wouldn't be getting *bigger* for god's sake, but yeah. I now have only one bra that fits comfortably, and I wear such a weird size that I can't buy cute inexpensive bras at Target. Or even Victoria's Secret for that matter! But I am getting a stash of my friend's maternity clothes today, so that should definitely help in terms of my overall daily comfort!

Are any of y'all in maternity clothes yet?