I spoke with my donor today!

[madison]

Hey all,

Guess what? I spoke with my donor today!

It was a bit surreal, but kinda nice to put a face on him. Ian looks like me, hahaha.

I'm very glad I went with the bank, and have the information. Maybe one of these days we'll even get to meet him! That'll be a trip!

madison

[indiegirl]

Cool!!! I bet it was odd, eh?

Jesse

[Irishmommy]

Good for you! Ian will thank you some day.

[Sierra]

(((Madison))) I wrote you a note already, but I just wanted to say that I'm excited for you that you feel so glad about having this information.

Sierra

[robynberkley]

Awesome...I love the way this challenges the old views of "family" and redefines it in a way that is so much more open and embracing...congrats...I hope you are able to build a positive relationship with him.

[mamacate]

I think we used the same bank---Rainbow Flag. We have talked a few times by email, and he just sent a picture of himself, his two siblings, and his parents. Really cool. I'm really glad we went this way too. I don't think we're going to have much of a relationship beyond us sending him occasional updates, but it's so neat to see what he and his family look like (my dd looks a lot like his sister), and to know that we can keep in touch with him and the kids can contact him if they have questions they want to ask him. I'm really happy with our decision.

Cate

[madison]

UPDATE:

Hey all, it's been a while since I've been here... life's been busy.

Yep, I used Rainbow Flag and am so, so glad I did it this way! Our donor is really nice (and surprisingly one of the few straight & married guys who donated there), and we've exchanged several emails and had several phone calls now. We also did a picture/holiday letter exchange at Christmas, which was nice! My son (age 8 months) and his boys (ages 1 & 3 years old) look very similar, though Ian looks like me mostly yet has the donors coloring. It's so good knowing what the other half of his genetic material looks & acts like, lol. I think we'll get to meet him & his family this summer - he lives a couple of hours away from my parents only, which is convenient. I'm looking forward to it.

I've also been really fortunate to meet another lesbian couple who are currently pregnant with another half-sibling. At RFHS, the donors are limited to helping create four families only. And usually with RFHS, you get the information about the donor/families after a baby is born, but this family made the info available and I am delighted to get to know them sooner! Their daughter is due this spring, in two months or so. Since the donor and I both have sons, it'll be interresting to see & meet this little girl! Her moms are nice, and it's neat having instant family.

We are all hoping to all work it out so that the kids have a "cousin" type relationship as they grow up. I am refering to our interresting family tree as "our growing family bush"

My family is getting used to the idea that I know who the donor is, and that Ian will know who the donor is and have an "uncle" type relationship with him. It won't be a close relationship, though, since we live 500 miles apart (at least). But I really like having the information & potential relationship available for my son if he wants it!

Yeah, I'm glad I did it this way I highly recommend Rainbow Flag and if anyone has any more questions, you can email me at childrenaremylife - at - hotmail.com.

[lexbeach]

That's so great that everything is working out so well, donor-wise! I can't believe Ian is already 8 months old! It seems like just yesterday you were sharing the news of your pregnancy!

I just wanted to add on that we've been in contact with three of Luke and Jasper's half-brothers (whom we think of sort-of like cousins), and it's been so lovely! They were all born within 8 months of each other, although Luke and Jaz are the oldest. I'm really glad that we're getting to know them all while the boys are still so young. I think it will be fun for them to grow up knowing this pack of "brothers." One of the other families is a two-mom family, and I feel closest with them. The other two families are SMBC, I don't know if they're straight or gay, but I think they're straight. Everyone is really open to having our kids know each other.

I found out about the half-sibs at www.donorsiblingregistry.com if anyone else is interested in locating some half-sibs for their kids! More matches are being made everyday!

Lex

[Kimlee]

Hi again Lex.....so glad that your experience with the donorsibling registry was good! So far we have found a half-sister and 2 half-brothers. Two parents are SMBC and there is also a lesbian couple who just came forward with the youngest boy. Seems like our donor has a good year We are just amazed at how similar 3 of them look. Emily and her half-sister (Emma) are just 3 month apart and they look so alike it's hard to believe they are not full siblings. We are even meeting her this summer during a trip to NJ (we live in Maine). Again, I'm just so happy for the connections you have made....

Madison.....We've been gone from these boards for a while but a big CONGRATULATIONS on your baby boy! Last I remember you were TTC. We just finished building a house that took about 9 months (another huge birth) which explains our absence. I'd like to find our more about the donation center you mentioned.....the donor we used for our daughter is no longer available and I'm not thrilled with the prospect of using the Calif. Cryobank again. You can find me here or my private e-mail is [e-mail]. Thanks!

[scd1978]

Did any of you use donor 46 by any chance? We used him and are having twins! Hark...

[Satori]

Originally Posted by scd1978

Did any of you use donor 46 by any chance? We used him and are having twins! Hark...

Madison hasn't posted in about 3 years, anyone heard from her? She's the one who inspired me to become a SMC and now I have a 21mo old from DI

[madison]

Hey there everyone! Long time no talk A friend who posts here regularly alerted me to this post.

Hi Satori! Ohmygosh, congratulations!!!! That is fabulous news.

Life has been busy. Ian is now 4 1/2 and nearly 5 years old, he'll be going to kindergarten in the fall. How did he get so old so fast, lol??? Since then we've relocated three times and are now in a small town in rural Oregon instead of metropolitan Los Angeles and life is very different. Ian has been diagnosed as ADHD, and possibly bi-polar and Oppositional-Defiant. He is also profoundly deaf in one ear.

I will have to come back later and post again, and get updated - I'm on my lunch break, lol.

madison

[Satori]

Originally Posted by madison

Hey there everyone! Long time no talk A friend who posts here regularly alerted me to this post.

Hi Satori! Ohmygosh, congratulations!!!! That is fabulous news.

Life has been busy. Ian is now 4 1/2 and nearly 5 years old, he'll be going to kindergarten in the fall. How did he get so old so fast, lol??? Since then we've relocated three times and are now in a small town in rural Oregon instead of metropolitan Los Angeles and life is very different. Ian has been diagnosed as ADHD, and possibly bi-polar and Oppositional-Defiant. He is also profoundly deaf in one ear.

I will have to come back later and post again, and get updated - I'm on my lunch break, lol.

madison

Wow! I can't believe he's gotten so big! How are you liking Oregon? I lived in Monmouth by Salem for several months about 10 years ago and loved it. Its interesting you mention the deafness, I know of another DI baby who is also profoundly deaf in one ear if I remember right. They really need to start tracking these issues, My dd was also born with a lot of issues as well. My older one has an ADHD dx and I'm sure they will add ODD at some point (I was given the same dx as a teen, I know better, I did what I did to get a reaction out of people and my dd does the same and admits to it).. Anyway I'd love to talk to you more if you ever get the time about our kids and there dx's!