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Well, all back labor isn't created equal. There's feeling contractions in your back and then there's feeling like your back IS BEING RIPPED APART. Neither is fun, but one extreme is definitely do-able longer than the other!
So true. For most of those 30 hours I had what I'd consider to be 5s or 6s on the pain scale that I could get down to 3s or 4s with coping techniques. For the 5 or 6 hours before transferring they'd gone to 7s/8s with peaks in the 9s/10s and nothing made any difference.

Hmm, positive things?

Discovering that dh is a fantastic labor partner--he kept his mouth SHUT (except when I needed talking) and didn't project worry at all.
Dh announcing the gender by saying "here's Lina, dear."
How calm Lina was when I first saw her, that part was actually just as I had pictured it being.

And I daresay that in a year or so I'll be able to look back at those first exciting moments of "I think this might be real labor!" without dredging up what came afterwards.
post #22 of 22

I mourn the loss of my home-birth too!

We transferred to the hospital and it was not traumatic in any of the ways that I'd imagined... staff were nice, nobody said anything negative about our home birth attempt, no interventions were forced, they allowed my midwife to direct my care and just checked in with the OB on call, & they were very supportive of bonding and breastfeeding.

I did end up having a cesarean birth, and fortunately or unfortunately, it was MY decision. Our baby was big, posterior and I'd spent 12 hours fully dilated, trying to push, with her head caught on my public bone. We had tried so many different ways to get her to move down, but nothing helped. Our midwife thought IV Pitocin would do the trick and that's why I agreed to go to the hospital. I had no idea that after a few hours on Pitocin, I'd be asking for a cesarean.

Everyone on my birth team has told me over and over that it was a necessary c/s and that we'd done "everything" to get the baby to move down, but I still feel like I gave up.

Like the OP, I had wanted a home-birth for years & this was our first baby.
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