DD (6yo) has started growling and giving me the Bronx cheer nearly every time I say something or ask her to do something she doesn't agree with. Then she'll stomp around and do them again.
It could be anything or anytime: bedtime, bathtime, homework time, teeth brushing time, end of playtime, whatever.
I cannot describe how irritated and disrespected I feel when she does this. I'm not angry or upset when telling her or asking her to do something; she just doesn't want to do or listen to whatever I'm saying. I've also told her several times that it hurts my feelings and makes me sad when she does it, calmly and matter of fact, but to no avail.
I've tried ignoring her, but I've reached my limit to the point where I'm ready to tell her, "If you do that to me one more time today, I'll take away xxx until tomorrow." I DON'T want to be that kind of mom, but my wits are at an end here.
Anyone BTDT? Got some help or ideas?
It could be anything or anytime: bedtime, bathtime, homework time, teeth brushing time, end of playtime, whatever.
I cannot describe how irritated and disrespected I feel when she does this. I'm not angry or upset when telling her or asking her to do something; she just doesn't want to do or listen to whatever I'm saying. I've also told her several times that it hurts my feelings and makes me sad when she does it, calmly and matter of fact, but to no avail.
I've tried ignoring her, but I've reached my limit to the point where I'm ready to tell her, "If you do that to me one more time today, I'll take away xxx until tomorrow." I DON'T want to be that kind of mom, but my wits are at an end here.
Anyone BTDT? Got some help or ideas?
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: I could totally have written that about my almost 6 DD! What we have found that works best (currently) w/behavior is a Behavior/Chore List. She has a list of agreeable and disagreeable behavior and she gets stars for agreeable behavior and an x for disagreeable. We do this at the end of each day and if she has more stars then xes she gets 25 cents. When she's growling or whatever I usually ask her if she needs to tell me why she's unhappy or I remind her that that is under disagreeable behavior and if she continues she'll need to put up an x. This has curbed some disagreeable behavior really well and we have found that she is expressing her disappointment/anger/unhappiness in really good ways, like drawing or telling us she needs to talk and then telling us why she's upset. BTW I also have a list and we go over it as well not so much to be on equal footing w/her but I definitely can improve my behavior at times as well. My DD really relishes the times when Mommy has more xes then she!
