Originally Posted by fourlittlebirds
My plan: smile unthreateningly, look apologetic, and say, "I know you're just doing your job so please believe me that this is not personal, but it would be irresponsible of me as my children's mother to trust a total stranger to make decisions about them, so I need to have some protective safeguards in place before you do the investigation. What that means is that I need to have witnesses here while it's taking place, including a lawyer, and it will be videotaped. Please let me know when it would be convenient for you to come back. Meanwhile, let me get my children so that you can see that they're all right."
What an excellent idea! I think this is exactly what I'll do if they ever knock on my door again.
I'm glad everything went okay. I don't know what the vax laws are like in Scotland, but where I live (Missouri, USA), I've learned that you can get a religious exemption without even having to specify your religion. We've never bothered to get the card, since like you we homeschool, but now whenever we see a new medical person for one of our girls, when they ask the vax question, I just say --
"We don't vaccinate." If they ask why (sometimes they do, but not always), I say, "Religious exepmtion."
We saw a new doctor for my youngest the other day, and she actually followed up by asking our religion, and I just said, "I know I don't have to answer that, and it's personal." And she dropped it.
Yeah, since we've already had a CPS visit (because of toxic relatives who don't like our homeschooling), I felt a little scared that the doctor might find my refusal to discuss my religion "snarky" or something, and look for some reason to report us --
I've just learned that in "discussions" of why we don't vax, the doctors always come off as more knowledgeable than me, and I can't really "win" or be respected in such a discussion, so it's better to say as little as possible.
So even though I was kind of scared to refuse to answer a question, for all I know it could have gone even worse if I'd told her we were Christian, and, no, we're not part of any sect that prohibits vaccination, we just don't believe in it, yada-yada.
So, overall, I just find it safer to refuse to discuss it. And I think even if you're well-versed in all the scientific reasons for not vaxing, it's probably better to just refuse to engage in the first place.