Skinny mamas - Page 5

[Alyantavid]

Ok bumping this up to vent.

I have the hardest time having conversations with people (mostly women) about working out and dieting. First, I don't know how to diet and I don't know how people can do it, it just seems so hard. But I do know alot about food and eating healthy. However, everyone blows off my suggestions because I've never dieted. Even when they describe what they're doing and I know it won't work. But it's on their diet plan so it has to be fine. It's so so frustrating watching someone do something that just sets them up to fail and they won't take any of my advice simply because I'm thin.

Same with the gym. I was talking to some other moms during my son's baseball practice and I got totally blown off because I "don't need to go to the gym". Is the gym only for people who are overweight?

I don't know, I have a hard time talking to other moms alot anyways and inevitably eating/working out come up and then I kind of get pushed out of the conversation.

[paintedfire]

Originally Posted by Alyantavid

Ok bumping this up to vent.

I have the hardest time having conversations with people (mostly women) about working out and dieting. First, I don't know how to diet and I don't know how people can do it, it just seems so hard. But I do know alot about food and eating healthy. However, everyone blows off my suggestions because I've never dieted. Even when they describe what they're doing and I know it won't work. But it's on their diet plan so it has to be fine. It's so so frustrating watching someone do something that just sets them up to fail and they won't take any of my advice simply because I'm thin.

Same with the gym. I was talking to some other moms during my son's baseball practice and I got totally blown off because I "don't need to go to the gym". Is the gym only for people who are overweight?

I don't know, I have a hard time talking to other moms alot anyways and inevitably eating/working out come up and then I kind of get pushed out of the conversation.

I know what you mean. People think thin equals healthy, when that can be completely untrue. I know in my case it is. I do better physically when I have a little weight on. It's easier for me to handle all of my medication, I don't seem to catch as many colds/viruses, and I'm much better able to regulate my body temperature. I'm more comfortable all around.

People think that to gain weight you can eat lots of anything. That doesn't work for me. I have to eat the right foods to gain weight. McDonald's would just make me sick.

Suffering from hyperthyroidism has made me have to get very involved in the management of my own body. It takes a lot of work for me, but I can't say that because what do I know? I'm thin, so my life must be perfect.

Okay, that was meant to sympathize, but somehow turned into a vent. I'm sorry. Vent officially over.

I came to here to cry. I've had the flu/a sinus infection/an ear infection. Luckily, I'm on the mend - I saw my doctor earlier. Unfortunately, I lost two of my hard won pounds. I'm back down to 94 and tomorrow is the beginning of my second trimester. Now I'm just left hoping I hit 100 before my third.

[Alyantavid]

Thanks Leigh! I got a few comments from a friend of dh's this weekend about being anorexic/bulemic so I'm just annoyed by people in general.

But venting over! I'll return to not so grumpy posting now.

[paintedfire]

Originally Posted by Alyantavid

Thanks Leigh! I got a few comments from a friend of dh's this weekend about being anorexic/bulemic so I'm just annoyed by people in general.

But venting over! I'll return to not so grumpy posting now.

I know the feeling. I try my best to not socialize with people like that but it can't always be avoided.

One big question I've yet to figure out: when, exactly, did it become okay to ask people if they have an eating disorder? If I really was anorexic or bulimic then their scrutiny of my body would just worsen the situation and my view of myself, wouldn't it?

Some people, man.

[Alyantavid]

Originally Posted by paintedfire

I know the feeling. I try my best to not socialize with people like that but it can't always be avoided.

One big question I've yet to figure out: when, exactly, did it become okay to ask people if they have an eating disorder? If I really was anorexic or bulimic then their scrutiny of my body would just worsen the situation and my view of myself, wouldn't it?

Some people, man.

I don't know. I've never understood why people think it's ok to make comments to people about their body size. Whatever though. Anyone who knows me knows the truth so ignorant people don't count anyways.

[HappyLoveMama]

Wow...I love this thread as I often feel like I'm the only one. I recently read about Tori Spellings weight loss due to her stomach problems and it was only then that I felt that I wasn't alone.

I have always been thin...weighed 110 pre pregnancy then gained 72 pounds and after a year of giving birth I was back down to pre pregnancy weight. Now I'm 105 and 5'5 or so. It doesn't help that I still bf my son three years later and the anxiety of terrible 2's then 3's got to me. Also I stated having IBS symptoms and now eat almost too healthy...grilled chicken and such and know I'm not truly lactose intolerant but seem to have tummy issues if I eat dairy (sometimes). So I stay away from cheeses and things and that can't be helping. I do drink whole milk lactaid however. I would not do well on smoothies but know that's what I need. I always get skinny comments how
women would love to look
Look like me. I don't get that. I want to have curves, the boobs that I
had when I was pregnant (I was a D and now I'm barely an A). It's nice to
know I'm not alone out there. I often wonder if people think I have an eating disorder but in public you will see me devour a burger and fries in five minutes. Thanks for this thread!

[paintedfire]

Originally Posted by Alyantavid

I don't know. I've never understood why people think it's ok to make comments to people about their body size. Whatever though. Anyone who knows me knows the truth so ignorant people don't count anyways.

Same here. But living in New York, I get stares from tourists sometimes. It can get frustrating. My bright stop-sign red hair probably doesn't help with that, but it doesn't make it any easier. If you want to go buy me a slice of pizza then I'll eat right here, right now people. Avert your eyes!

Originally Posted by NJMama521

I recently read about Tori Spellings weight loss due to her stomach problems and it was only then that I felt that I wasn't alone.

My Mom was trying to tell me about that on the phone the other day. She's an amazingly intelligent woman, but she is obsessed with gossip rags. I don't get it. Thankfully, she just reads them and doesn't take them seriously.

Originally Posted by NJMama521

I always get skinny comments how
women would love to look
Look like me. I don't get that. I want to have curves, the boobs that I
had when I was pregnant (I was a D and now I'm barely an A). It's nice to
know I'm not alone out there. I often wonder if people think I have an eating disorder but in public you will see me devour a burger and fries in five minutes. Thanks for this thread!

Those comments make me want to punch people sometimes. Like, "if I could hand over my hyperthyroidism to you, lady, then I totally would. Would you like my lupus while we're at it? No charge."

Try and let the worries about what other people think not get to you. I may get annoyed at the attention sometimes but I never let it make me feel bad, you know? This is the way things are, this is my lot in life - let's make the best of it, whatever that means.

I'll be going now - it's time for breakfast: yummy, yummy oatmeal (I had dental surgery yesterday. As soon as my mouth stops filling with blood every time I try to press my jaw together I'm going out and ordering the biggest side of french fries possible).

[kitikatuka]

Originally Posted by paintedfire

One big question I've yet to figure out: when, exactly, did it become okay to ask people if they have an eating disorder? If I really was anorexic or bulimic then their scrutiny of my body would just worsen the situation and my view of myself, wouldn't it?

Some people, man.

I've been asked twice in my life if I had an eating disorder. I remember both times so clearly, even now, years later. It was insulting and embarrassing. It's like being skinny makes you fair game for vocal comments of any kind -- even jokes.

Originally Posted by paintedfire

I know most women hate gaining weight during pregnancy, but I'm really looking forward to it. I'd be ecstatic if I could make it to 130 pounds!

I'm also pregnant and am SO happy to be gaining weight (I gained 25lbs with my DD and was happy to reach the minimum recommended weight gain). Ladies seem downright confused and are always silent when I tell them that I would have loved to have kept my pregnancy weight.

[SomethingAnonymous]

clothes

Hey,
I'm 5' and about 94 lbs right now. I wear a size 1 in pants. I was wondering, those of you who are similar sized- where do you find clothes? I am in a pretty small town so I think I need to go online probably. I need pajama pants mostly right now. Have any of you found any good pj pants that don't drag on the ground for you?

[lebrbria]

Hey ladies. I'm new to MDC. I haven't read through all the pages for this thread, but the name and last few posts have kind of drawn me in.

I've always had a hard time with my weight- at age 7 I was 37 lbs. I started getting the eating disorder comments in 6th grade after our health class covered eating disorders. Up until then, I had no idea that I was really THAT skinny. In high school, after my mom died, I was diagnosed with depressed induced anorexia- if I got depressed, I would stop eating, and because I stopped eating, I would get more depressed. I think at my lowest point that I can remember, I was about 91 lbs and I'm 5'4". After moving out of my stepmom's house (she was the source of a lot of my depression), I was able to start gaining again. I got to be around 103 within a couple months of moving out. I married my high school sweetheart a few months out of high school. I got pregnant with our daughter 8 months later when I was (and had been staying at) 108.5 lbs. I gained 30 lbs. during my pregnancy, almost 40 if you count the make up for the 7 lbs. I lost in the first trimester. By 4 months postpartum, I was already in my pre-pregnancy clothes again. I got pregnant again in April 2009 when I was 102 lbs. I was actually trying to gain weight in anticipation of trying to conceive again. I gained 50 lbs. with my son. He's 8 months old now and I'm 114 lbs. Ideally I'd like to be about 125 lbs. I'm just not sure how to gain the weight I want. I'm hypothyroid (oddly) and I have 2 children ages 2.5 and 8 months that I'm always chasing after. My weight bothers me a lot, especially when people tell me I look great or they wish they had my "problem" with not gaining weight. I imagine the way I feel about my weight is about how an overweight woman feels about her weight- she wants to lose but can't. All I want to do is gain, or even maintain, weight, but I can't. I liked being curvy during pregnancy and after having my babies.

If anyone has any suggestions on quick, healthy high-calorie snacks, I'd love to hear them!

[Carlyn]

Originally Posted by SomethingAnonymous

Hey,
I'm 5' and about 94 lbs right now. I wear a size 1 in pants. I was wondering, those of you who are similar sized- where do you find clothes? I am in a pretty small town so I think I need to go online probably. I need pajama pants mostly right now. Have any of you found any good pj pants that don't drag on the ground for you?

I am finding it increasingly harder to find clothes, especially bottoms, to fit me. Here in Canada, about the only store I have found bottoms to fit at is Suzy Shier, size double zero. I was in the States a few weeks ago, and the only store where I found jeans and other bottoms that fit was Aeropostale. The double zero regular length fit me at the waist and bum, and I was so excited! But the length was too short for me. I'm 5'5". I may order online from them, and get a long length. I am just resisting the shipping and international fees!

For pajamas, I usually find that they fit me better, since I can find ones that have elastic waists and drawstrings. I just cinch them tight! Any pajamas I have tried on at La Senza are too short for me...they might be just right for you!

Any other store ideas for me to look at, ladies? Most stores seem to start at jeans/pants size 24, but I need smaller than that.

[SomethingAnonymous]

Originally Posted by Carlyn

I am finding it increasingly harder to find clothes, especially bottoms, to fit me. Here in Canada, about the only store I have found bottoms to fit at is Suzy Shier, size double zero. I was in the States a few weeks ago, and the only store where I found jeans and other bottoms that fit was Aeropostale. The double zero regular length fit me at the waist and bum, and I was so excited! But the length was too short for me. I'm 5'5". I may order online from them, and get a long length. I am just resisting the shipping and international fees!

For pajamas, I usually find that they fit me better, since I can find ones that have elastic waists and drawstrings. I just cinch them tight! Any pajamas I have tried on at La Senza are too short for me...they might be just right for you!

Any other store ideas for me to look at, ladies? Most stores seem to start at jeans/pants size 24, but I need smaller than that.

Thanks for the idea, I've never heard of La Senza but some of that stuff looks cute. The size chart says an XS is a 36-37" hip. I just measured mine and they are 30". Think I'd be able to cinch them 6-7"? I also need about a 28" inseam.

For jeans, honestly I think one of the easiest things to do is find a place that does tailoring. I recently found some at the Buckle, and they do tailoring for free when you buy their jeans. Nordstrom's or Macy's would tailor stuff too. I don't know what you all have in Canada though either so maybe this is no help at all. Another thing I have been trying is typing my measurements into google along with the words "pants" or "pajamas" and I'm sort of finding some stuff.

This is pretty expensive.. but this store has 23's. It might be cheaper to just buy a 24 in a cheaper brand and get them tailored, right?

http://frankiebstore.mwrc.net/en/pro...oduct_id=37015

Another site: http://www.bluefly.com/Designer-Jean...141m6/list.fly

I've also heard Guess makes a 23. What size do you need?

[SomethingAnonymous]

I second this:

If anyone has any suggestions on quick, healthy high-calorie snacks, I'd love to hear them!

I am so tired of feeling hungry all the time. I have a 14 month old who is still mostly just nursing. It's making me so hungry. I can't sleep through the night, even if he does, it's just way too long to go without eating.

I'm glad to hear other people say they get all those comments too. Like people saying I don't eat enough. I seriously eat a lot of food.

[lebrbria]

Originally Posted by SomethingAnonymous

I second this:

If anyone has any suggestions on quick, healthy high-calorie snacks, I'd love to hear them!

I am so tired of feeling hungry all the time. I have a 14 month old who is still mostly just nursing. It's making me so hungry. I can't sleep through the night, even if he does, it's just way too long to go without eating.

I'm glad to hear other people say they get all those comments too. Like people saying I don't eat enough. I seriously eat a lot of food.

I know what you mean! Unfortunately for me, I have to take my thyroid medication first thing in the morning on a completely empty stomach, so I can't get up to eat during the night.

[prescottchels]

Just happened on your thread on the main page. I'm a skinny gal too on a quest to gain weight so I can conceive and carry to term.
The best place I've found for jeans especially is old navy or gap (owned by the same parent company). Their adult size jeans start at 0. I've tried kids larger size jeans, boys & girls and they're just not cut right for my adult bod. I love knowing I can walk into a store and know I'll find something that fits!
I love my flannel pj pants from costco-they have elastic and drawstring. As for length I'd just hem them or roll them. I'm 5'4" so I don't bother w/a smidge of drag, but I can imagine for those shorter than I, that would be a bummer...
Cheers,
Chelsie

[SomethingAnonymous]

Originally Posted by prescottchels

Just happened on your thread on the main page. I'm a skinny gal too on a quest to gain weight so I can conceive and carry to term.
The best place I've found for jeans especially is old navy or gap (owned by the same parent company). Their adult size jeans start at 0. I've tried kids larger size jeans, boys & girls and they're just not cut right for my adult bod. I love knowing I can walk into a store and know I'll find something that fits!
I love my flannel pj pants from costco-they have elastic and drawstring. As for length I'd just hem them or roll them. I'm 5'4" so I don't bother w/a smidge of drag, but I can imagine for those shorter than I, that would be a bummer...
Cheers,
Chelsie

I used to get jeans from Old Navy but not anymore. They stopped carrying 1s in the stores for one thing, also the quality has gone way way downhill. And I swear their sizes have changed and are inconsistent. You can go in the store and hold up two pairs of jeans, in the same style and size, and one might be 4 inches longer than the other. I've asked employees about it, and they just said they see it a lot. And overall it seems like the size scale/chart has changed. I used to be able to wear an XS in women's there, but now the XS is giant. I'm so disappointed, I used to be able to count on them too

[prescottchels]

Awww sorry to hear of your poor experience w/Old Navy!
Our Old Navy does carry size ones and zero's most of the time, but once I did have to get my mom to buy some from the store near her in a bigger city when ours was out and I was in desperate need of jeans lol
Maybe you should take a jean vacation to AZ!

[hollytheteacher]

I think I asked this before but no one saw it.

Does anyone here have long, skinny arms? and no shirts have long enough sleeves? Even worse is finding a winter jacket. I am so skinny and yet I end up buying XL jackets so my damn wrists stay warm! lol.


Any suggestions on a good place for a WARM winter jacket ( I live in Vermont).

[tea_time]

I just joined mothering and found this tribe after looking around. I'm 5'4 and 112 lbs. I'm trying to get up to 115 to have a better BMI for fertility. However, it's a constant battle, my body wants to be 110-112. I wear a size O at Old Navy and have had good success finding them in the store (in AZ). I actually got to pairs of jeans last month for only $3.48 each!

I have mostly supportive friends who don't give me a hard time about being small. But at the same time they don't want to hear about my trouble putting on weight if you KWIM.

For snacks I find that nuts and seeds are a good option. I have a bunch of different kinds on hand when the mood strikes. Right now I'm eating toasted/salted pumpkin seeds. Yummy! I also eat full fat dairy products (cheese, yogurt and ice-cream) and nothing diet (no fake sugar).

Happy to join you ladies.

[Alyantavid]

Originally Posted by SomethingAnonymous

Hey,
I'm 5' and about 94 lbs right now. I wear a size 1 in pants. I was wondering, those of you who are similar sized- where do you find clothes? I am in a pretty small town so I think I need to go online probably. I need pajama pants mostly right now. Have any of you found any good pj pants that don't drag on the ground for you?

The Buckle is good, they always have smaller sizes on clearance. I'm not sure on the length though.

Originally Posted by hollytheteacher

I think I asked this before but no one saw it.

Does anyone here have long, skinny arms? and no shirts have long enough sleeves? Even worse is finding a winter jacket. I am so skinny and yet I end up buying XL jackets so my damn wrists stay warm! lol.


Any suggestions on a good place for a WARM winter jacket ( I live in Vermont).

I have no idea. My coats are always a little big so the sleeves are long enough, shirts too, so I'm no help.

Every time I work out, I feel so good, but then my clothes don't fit. I haven't lost any weight I don't think, but things are moving I guess and my pants won't stay up. I made that comment to my dh yesterday and mil overheard and told me I should eat. It feels much worse coming from somebody that close.