Originally Posted by MommyJoia
Formula has been known to cause deaths to children around the world from sever dehydration caused by diarrhea.
Yes, this can happen more in 3rd world countries and bad situations (ex- China's milk supply being poisoned). It is more rare in a developed country. Breast milk can also make children ill, if the mother is consuming something that the child is allergic to or that is poisoness (ex- contaminated well water). It all depends on the situation. This is not to say, that FF is better (absolutely not), but it is not child abuse to choose to FF.
|There is no doubt in my mind that while her DS still may have had the reflux, her wouldn't have spent so many nights in the er if he was breastfed.
Unless you were with the kid 24/7 or you are a Pediatrician or Nutritionist, there really isn't any way you can know that for sure. Even then, it may not be an easy problem to fix. So many things can effect a human body—especially that of a baby. And while children on formula are more likely to run into stomach issues, it is possible (even likely) the fact this kid had them was purely circumstantial.
|I'm no LC, but I'm sure there are plenty of medications that a bi-polar person can take that are safe for breastfeeding. There are lots of medications that molecularly are too big to pass through the breastmilk.
This sounds a lot like a generalization. As far as I know, there are very few long-term studies done on anti-depressants' effects on children—let alone infants and breast-feeding. I cannot blame your friend for not wanting to take a risk.
Now if it's a choice you make, more power to you. That is your right as it's your body and your children. Sometimes some things can work out really well, but not everything works the same for everybody.
|Not to mention the fact that she had none of these medications in the hospital and she could have nursed her baby (DD) in those first few days, in the hospital, giving her baby colostrum, before she even made an appointment with her shrink to get her bi-polar medication prescription. she just truly did not want to. She told my husband after the birth of her son that she didn't BF because she wanted to be able to "party". That's selfish, no matter which way you slice it. She drinks and uses drugs (never around her kids, though, her mom watches her kids)
A lot of medications for mental illness have a long life in the body. It can take from weeks to months for a medication to completely leave someone's system. Even if your friend was cleared of the meds, I'd not completely blame for not BFing as she planned to go back on them, and it may be harder on her child to switch to Formula.
And as your friend has found a medication that possibly keeps her from going over the edge, how can you blame her not wanting to switch to something else?
Experimenting with psychological meds during a huge life-changing events is potentially dangerous as not everyone responds to medications the same way. Finding a good medication (or a combo of meds) can be difficult for someone who even has even a minor mental illness—let alone a person who struggles with bipolar disorder.
But really, is it worth it to be so angry with someone else's life and personal decisions?
There is so much more to life and better ways to put anger to use. That kind of negative energy causes a lot of stress, and is very unhealthy—not only for the mind but the body.
And while I've judged my fair share of people (I am *very* opinionated), I can tell you right now it sucks to be on the receiving end of someone's anger and judgement—even when that person has valid points. Someone could tell me something I 110% would agree with, but if they are talking down to me or treating me like I'm stupid, I'm going to ignore that person and probably shut them out.
If you can't stop judging someone, why waste your (and their) time being friends? It just ends in an ugly toxic mess, otherwise, and then you both lose.