Is my only option the ER?--*updated*definitely miscarrying - Page 2

[kai28]

I'm so sorry.

[SimplyRochelle]

I ended up going into the ER around 7am after not being able to sleep. The pain had just gotten so bad and I passed out in the shower and started vomitting everywhere so DH wouldn't take no for an answer. I cried the whole time I was there b/c it was the last place I wanted to be. I had to endure a pelvic and a transvaginal ultrasound as well as deal with a catheter (which has made me so much more sore). I had to get a Rhogam shot as well. All the faith I had in my body, in my ability to deal with pain, is shot. I am not even sure I want to ttc again. I feel like it's going to take me ages to get over this.

My hcg was only at 1000, no where near where it should be in a 12 week pregnancy and the u/s didn't show a fetus anywhere so I guess I never had a baby in there to begin with. I did pass a large clot that I beleive was the placenta so the dr. said it was probably just a blighted ovum and a missed m/c.

Thank you all so much for your support and kind words.

[herins]

I'm so sorry. Give yourself time to mourn and to heal. In regards to your ability to deal with pain: you were/are going through something emotionally painful and stressful which makes dealing with pain so much harder.

[jennifer_lc1]

i had the same experience mama.. mine was at 10 wks, transvaginal showed no bb, just a sac. the er experiencewas awful.. but my dh made me go too, and i probably wouldve on my own anyway. it just was awful.

but do not give up. we got pregnant 2 mths later and had ds on july 25 this yr

you can do it hon.

be gentle w/ yourself

[michanders4]

Rochelle - I am so sorry. As tough as this time is going to be for you please trust me that it will get easier. I had a missed miscarriage in March and the only reason I knew it was a miscarriage is because there was no heartbeat at my 8 week prenatal appointment (I requested an u/s). By 11 weeks I still wasn't bleeding really. Our bodies have a strange way of holding on to a pregnancy sometimes. I took that as a really good sign though because what happened to us is really just a fluke. People don't realize how often these things do happen. It made me realize how very special pregnancy really is and how intricate it is and if one thing isn't right than it will not be successful. I knew it had to be a good thing that my body wouldn't let go though as this showed me I could most likely carry a healthy pregnancy. My miscarriage lasted a total of about 3 months before it completely finished. I had one normal period and got pregnant right away on my next try. This time I am now 11 weeks and have had 2 ultrasounds for reassurance and saw the baby and the heartbeat each time and have since recently heard it with the doppler. I know its not going to make it easier hearing this right now but I hope my story can give you a little inspiration. Drink some wine if that's something you enjoy and take this time to do things for YOU. Before you know it you will be pregnant again. You have to have faith that it will work out next time. Some women have early miscarriages and its because there body does not naturally hold onto pregnancy. Yours obviously can. Anyway, I'm rambling now. Take care of yourself. Keep us updated in your journey.



Michelle

[riversong]

I'm so sorry, Rochelle.

Please don't give up on your ability to deal with pain. I assume you're thinking about birth, but what you had to go through in the ER is not the same as the pain of birth. When you have your baby one day you'll be joyful instead of grieving and it will be so different.

[Isamama]

I am very sorry for your loss!

[quasar]

Rocehelle, I'm absolutely heartbroken for you. : Please give yourself time to just take care of your needs. I don't think this loss is any reflection of how easy or difficult a birth wll be for you. Just allow yourself to grieve, and hopefully you will once again find the courage to get back in this whole crazy process again. We're thinking of you.

[wobblykate]

I am so sorry for this, Rochelle. PPs are right. Take sometime for yourself and for DH and recover as much as possible. This is heartbreaking. I'm sorry the ER was so horrible. .

[kai28]

Rochelle, I'm so, so sorry. Don't make any decisions at this point about the future - it's hard to be objective. Just give yourself time & be gentle with yourself. As much time as you & your DH need.

I've not gone through labor before, but I do know a lot of pain. There is a huge difference between sudden unexepected "artificial" pain in the ER (i.e., brought on by a sudden, unplanned medical procedure), which is accompanied by severe stress and the fear of the unknown as opposed to "natural" pain (i.e., letting your body do what it needs to). If you are prepared for something, and have spent a lot of time thinking about it, and WANT to do it, it makes a huge difference in your ability to handle the pain. At least from my previous experiences.

No one can say what is right for you - but there are drugs for labor, which you can always consider too. It's a personal choice, but it is there.

Be gentle with yourself.

[corikodjo]

Thinking of you Rochelle.

[SimplyRochelle]

Thanks you Michelle and everyone else. It's comforting to me that so many people have been thinking about me and I've gotten so many kind words and inspiring stories. I couldn't have lived without the stregnth that having some online support has given me.

I hope you all have lovely births and even lovlier babies this April! I'll be around stalking I'm sure.

[michanders4]

Originally Posted by SimplyRochelle

Thanks you Michelle and everyone else. It's comforting to me that so many people have been thinking about me and I've gotten so many kind words and inspiring stories. I couldn't have lived without the stregnth that having some online support has given me.

I hope you all have lovely births and even lovlier babies this April! I'll be around stalking I'm sure.

Rochelle - I have to say that I just stalked your other posts and I was SO GLAD to see that at least you seem to be considering thinking of trying again. You are so young! And just think you did get pregnant already. And not to sound so honky dory during this time of pain for you, but I believe that there is something to say for the old wives tale that you are most fertile after a m/c. I met another girl on a different forum (www.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com - its a GREAT source) and she had trouble conceiving her first baby. She went on to conceive a second time after trying for a few months I think and sadly miscarried and then got pregnant with twins on her first cycle after her miscarriage and is now 30 weeks I think!!!! Also, please keep in mind that your hormones are VERY wacked out right now and that doesn't help make this time any easier. I think you said that your levels were 1,000 recently? That's great because that means they will go down to zero that much faster and you will start to feel like YOU again I promise!!!!

I've been thinking of you and will continue to do so.: