Should I hide? - Page 2

[Twinklefae]

I have the same cup size, and I always pull my breast out of the top of my shirt to nurse. It may be too exposed for some (my fellow MDC mama bff thinks so!) but I don't care. I am lucky that NS laws are fantastic, but I think if you act with confidence, you are less likely to attract bullies who will try to make you feel bad.

I've never had anyone say anything to me except "Oh, that's so nice!"

I always used the arm of a chair/bench when I was still needing to hold the baby and the boob.

[mrsfatty]

Originally Posted by Britishmama

Also I find it so hard without a pillow, how do people do it?

Ok--so I get a really fluffy blanket (it's actually my son's "magic blanket"--the one that he magically falls asleep with)--and I ball it up and put it ontop of my knee/thigh--either I'm sitting on the floor with my one leg up (the side he'd be nursing on)--and prop him there--or when I'm sitting on a chair/couch I prop my foot up on something (like a rung on a chair in front of me, the stroller foot rest, my diaper bag--something)--and put the balled up blanket on my knee/thigh so he's "propped" up.

I've always been jealous of the mamas whose boobs are the perfect length/shape/size that they can just hold their baby in their arms in a cradle position, so their baby's head is resting in their arm nicely--my son's head needs to be far enough away for proper positioning--so I always need pillows or something to prop him with--and since *I'M* not supporting his head I NEED a pillow or blanket prop, because I have to support my breast.

My shirts are loose right now--and that's perfect for me--cause once I latch--I just let the fabric from the end of my shirt just cover my boob until it's almost touching my son's face. HE sometimes plays with the shirts--like peekaboo style or flaps it around (which is immodest)...he'll even pull the shirt over to rub on his cheeks and eyes when he's tired...for the most part I stay VERY covered--and no one can see anything (I"m more worre4id about my stretchmarked stomach..but keeping my breast covered for the most part is a goal too, I suppose) because my shirt is covering my top boob, and a blanket balled up or a pillow is covering the bottom part/stomach.

I don't know if that made any sense...but I hope that helps...

I can relate to the dilemma of having huge breasts/modesty in nip situations. Good luck!

Oh, and I wait to unclip my bra and expose my breast until his head is mostly in the way--when he's all set up to just latch on! (so that his head would cover most of my breast when he's latching)

[KBecks]

Finding a comfortable position may be challenging -- I would normally cross a leg, lift that leg up and hunch -- not great for the back. Also scout out where the comfy chairs are in the places you regularly go -- a nice location is always good. I would look at whatever cover (or not) makes you feel the most comfortable.

You could also look at using whatever you have with you (a bag?) on your lap to help support the baby.

[Bekka]

I've been as big as g/h when nursing a tiny. I got really comfortable with sitting on the floor (grass, edge of a "cleanish" sidewalk) and positioned with one knee up to support the baby. I also threw a pillow into the bottom of the stroller (well, with the 1st 2; my 3rd hated strollers). I also was able to put my diaper bag under my leg to help support. I could sit on a park bench in the same way I sat on the floor. Chairs proper are harder. Often I nursed the babe in the car with the (car) pillow and then went to wherever I was going with baby in carrier/carseat/stroller.

The baby will get bigger, which will make it easier. But you don't want to stay home until that time. If it's getting cooler where you are, you might wear a light cardigan or something with the tank/shirt you're up and over for slightly less exposure if you want, or right now shawls/scarves are "in". But you can also just get comfy with how you do it.

We're rooting for you!

[LittlePeanut]

I found wearing a shawl or pashmina helped me to still look stylish and allowed me to cover (for my comfort) my breast while NIP. The pashmina was light weight and I could adjust it to cover whatever needed covering and still comfortably feed DS. I wish I had taken some pics of how it looked.

LP

[sapphire_chan]

38F here, 3.5 week old. I wear skirts with the waistband pulled above the stretchmarks. Pull up my shirt, then use that to block the top of my breast, she blocks the front, and I have to hold my breast up so that gets the outside.

As we get better at things, I'll probably stop covering as much, but when I'm holding an attention magnet I'm not up for totally hanging out at the grocery store.

I think it's going to get harder as she gets heavier, fortunately, she's getting more comfortable with being worn so :

[BugMacGee]

I have big boobs too (ok a D but I'm teeny everywhere else so the effect is big)

I was never very good at NIP sorry to say. I did use blankets but always managed to have them fall away. Meh, I figured it was other people's problem if they were offended by my glorious lactating breasts!

[RubySlippers]

I can so relate - 34g/h here! It was really hard when ds was tiny, but it does get so much easier! I did need to carry a boppy pillow everywhere, or I used the diaper bag on my lap as a pillow - for the first 4 months or so. A rolled up coat or something worked too, but it wasn't ever terribly comfortable until after he got a bit bigger. I used belly bands to cover my tummy, and l try to always have a cardigan or jacket with me to help me feel a little more covered. I just pull up my shirt, though, and let that do most of the covering. I don't worry too much, but it does seem like a lot of breast is showing all at once if they're this big! Not like those smaller chests that can neatly pop in and out (my smaller-than-me chested bff and I have ds's the same age and it was always so much easier for her in public when the babies were tiny)! Oh - and I never got the hang of nursing in a sling comforably - the positioning is just all wrong for me and my "girls"!

[Tine]

Originally Posted by mrsfatty

I've always been jealous of the mamas whose boobs are the perfect length/shape/size that they can just hold their baby in their arms in a cradle position, so their baby's head is resting in their arm nicely--

Me too -- though I have the opposite problem: itty-bitty titties. Baby was always too low if I just cradled him/her with my arm, or tried to sling-nurse. I always needed a stack o' pillows or creative positioning.

I know this isn't helpful practically speaking, but hopefully it helps to know that everybody's got some challenge or other.

[llamalluv]

Originally Posted by Britishmama

I'm still learning to NIP, I'm a 32g/h with a small baby.

I've tried everything, the only thing that works is the boob out the top, but some say its showing too much. I hate the idea of a blanket or special hat on baby

Suggestions?

Also I find it so hard without a pillow, how do people do it?

If you are an H cup, where are you going to hide, the dark side of the Moon?!

I'm a 42-44 DD/DDD myself, which is E or F, so about the same size cup. I feel your (back) pain.

If you feel comfortable, and the law is on your side, don't worry about it.

[LoobyLoo]

nak

38H here. i also nurse over the top of my shirts. i second the pashmina suggestion, it elped me get comfortable with nip and now, at 12 weeks, i don't care who sees what and haven't bothered with a cover since dd was 4 weeks old. plus it's easier in the uk, nobody even looks let alone comments on nip so you kinda feel invisible anyway. i'd recommend just doing it as much as poss till you get used to it and feel more comfortable.

[Kappa]

It took me a long time to learn to nurse sitting up, w/o a pillow. My mom taught me to nurse, but only lying down because she said that was how you nursed a little baby. Now at 6 months, I usually undo my bra, lift my shirt, and let the top of the shirt and the baby cover me. If you don't want the whole boob out, you can throw a cloth diaper over your shoulder, or a burp cloth and that can give you a little discretion. Not necessary though, if you don't want to.