Thanks for the replies!
I do think it is somewhat normal as well . . .like I said, my sister wanted to be a blonde, and I wanted to be Native American. Don't ask me from which nation, but I remember reading the cheesy readers about NAs (and crying). We lived right by the American Indian Center in Chicago and were frequent visitors. I also cried when I found out I wasn't Mexican. (I think I cried a lot!) I went to school with almost all Latinos, and my babysitter, whom I loved was Mexican, and I was raised to be bilingual.
BUT, to me, I guess what gives me pause is that while white people (inc. myself) may wish to be different, they STILL turn on the TV, read books, see people (DD's school is 50% white), etc. who look like they do. Take American Girls . ..they make a few token American girls of color, but let's face it, almost all of them are white (and no Asians, mind you, minus one you can make yourself). And who is the most famous girl right now? The one with the brown hair who puts on a blond wig so that she'll look like a STAR (yes, Hannah M. , who is not allowed in our house).
Discussing famous Asians or studying Korean culture doesn't seem to quite fit. DH was adopted, so the Korean culture is completely absent from our lives. DH has no interest in it, no feeling of connection to being Korean.
Laura, most of my good friends just happen to have children like mine. However, they are not local friends, so we don't see each other too often. DH was adopted so we have no other Asian family members.
kavitha, that was a great idea, to look up organizations for people who are multiracial. Thank you to you and Raincoastmama for those links! I was doing searches for "HAPA" and apparently, some Hawaiian people are insulted that some people are using it to mean any Asian/white combo: http://www.realhapas.com/
So, I went to the "Amerasian" site listed on the site, and I find they are defining Amerasian as such:
While the definition of an Amerasian varies, the A.F.F. defines an Amerasian as: any person
who was fathered by a citizen of the United States (an American servicemen, American
expatriate, or U.S. Government Employee Regular or Contract) and whose mother is, or was, an
Obviously, DD does not fit into this at all.
Slightly off topic-- how do you bring up the idea of "you are beautiful" without making beauty a significant topic? Like you said, purplegirl, I want her to feel that self-love and acceptance.
Baby is awake, so I'm sorry I missed answering all posts but I read them all! Thank you!