**SPOTLIGHT on JoyFilled!** - Page 2

[JoyFilled]

What is your favorite thing about Autumn? It's a toss up between leaves and the clothing. I love sweaters.

[JoyFilled]

Where have you travelled ? Disney world, Quebec City and Whitehorse. I have lived in Ottawa and Inuvik. I just applied for my passport and DH and I are hoping to go to Mexico at the beginning of Decemeber as it is kinda our last chance to get away with out kids. I have some friends who are willing to come in and take care of our foster kids.

Where did you like it the most ? I loved Whitehorse and driving the Dempster was so pretty.

What's your favorite canadian food ? Will you give us the recipe ? Canadian food . . . hmmm pizza maybe. And I don't have recipes because DH does all the cooking.

[JoyFilled]

wobblykate - that is a neat job. No one ever comes and visits us. I talk to their social worker often but she doesn't come to our home. I thought people would stop by more often.

[wobblykate]

Originally Posted by JoyFilled

wobblykate - that is a neat job. No one ever comes and visits us. I talk to their social worker often but she doesn't come to our home. I thought people would stop by more often.

Weird...in the US there are requirements about how often social workers have to visit their kiddos...not that they always get followed, especially if the social worker thinks the kids are in a safe situation (which isn't fair to the kids, just because they're safe doesn't mean they don't need resources). Lawyers are also required to have contact (or send an advocate). As far as I know I'm the only person that has this job...I like to say I work for the best juvenile justice attorneys around because they care enough to hire me to visit their clients!

[wobblykate]

Are you going to find out the baby's sex? What are you going to do in Mexico? What's your Zodiac?

[JoyFilled]

Are you going to find out the baby's sex? This is currently a huge debate. DH doesn't want to know and I do. I know people will want to make things and send presents so they should know the gender.

What are you going to do in Mexico? Getting warm and relaxing! I am slightly missing having a peaceful breakfast with DH on Saturday mornings. And I think once we have our own kids we will probably not get a chance to go away. Basically we are going to spend the time starring into each others eyes.

What's your Zodiac? Taurus. I am stubborn.

[MI_Dawn]

Are you looking at adopting the foster kids? How do they feel about the baby coming? Do they know?

[racie0417]

Regarding your DH not wanting to be in the delivery room: my DH was the same way, and then I needed an emergency c/s due to DS being in distress. The OB was terrible at communicating, and no one would tell me why DS wasn't crying or what was going on. DH was able to find out the situation and tell me in a gentle way. I think the experience converted him as he has no hesitation this time.

-Is it hard working so close to DH?

-How did you decide you wanted to be a foster parent?

[MelW]

Cross-posting the same question to wobblykate...

How did you find MDC?

[JoyFilled]

Are you looking at adopting the foster kids? Nope. We are praying that their mother gets the help she needs so she will be able to take care of them. And until then they are welcome to stay with us.

How do they feel about the baby coming? The 12 year old has seen 6 babies born after him from his mother. I don't think he thinks it is anything new. The 7 year old was amazed by the ultrasound and the fact that there is a baby in my tummy. He keeps touching my tummy. We are teaching the almost 2 year old that there is a baby in my tummy but she doesn't get it.

Do they know? Yes they were there when we told my family.

[JoyFilled]

-Is it hard working so close to DH? Nope. Although sometimes people say oh just go ask your DH. And that bugs me because I am as smart as he is but he does know more then me. It's nice having him to help me if I am stuck. And it is sometimes fun to work on somethign together and hold hands at the same time.

-How did you decide you wanted to be a foster parent? We were talking to other people our age who fostered. A year later we moved here and had an extra bedroom. We decided we had the space, the time and the energy to take care of some kids.

[JoyFilled]

How did you find MDC? I was telling my friend - who is almost a midwife - that all the people do on the forum I was on was complain about their DH. And I love my DH and didn't want to complain about him. So she sent me this link.

[Azreial]

How many children would you like to have?

[wobblykate]

Originally Posted by JoyFilled

How did you find MDC? I was telling my friend - who is almost a midwife - that all the people do on the forum I was on was complain about their DH. And I love my DH and didn't want to complain about him. So she sent me this link.

Exactly. I mean, a man is a man and he doesn't clean the toilet as well as me, but he has other talents

[momma2be_k]

It's so nice getting to know so much about you JoyFilled!

yay for Taurus (I'm one too)!

have a great time in Mexico! Don't forget the sunblock (the sun is just brutal there).

[JoyFilled]

How many children would you like to have? I don't know. DH would like 4. I would like a houseful but they don't necessarily have to be biological.

[smocklets]

I've loved reading this! What do you do in your spare time? How did you meet your DH?

I've always wanted to be a foster parent! What is the hardest thing about it? what have you learned from it?

[JoyFilled]

What do you do in your spare time? I try to get in some exercise - walkign swimming etc. Then I read forums like this one . And then I just hang out with DH, bugging him, chatting with him etc.

How did you meet your DH? We went to the same high school. Except we never talked because we were both big loser so we were never in the same place - ie neither of us ever got invited to parties. Then in second year university we started chatting on ICQ and MSN and that is when I realised how wonderful he was.

What is the hardest thing about it? I think this changing all the time. Right now it is that our little boy who has been with us since Jan doesn't trust us. And we have done everything for him - bought a car, a house, lobbied to get his siblings. But he still doesn't trust that we will have supper for him or met his needs.

what have you learned from it? How wisely I choose my DH. I really appreciate how we can talk about things and how good he is with the kids.

[wobblykate]

Trust issues are the biggest ones I see with foster kids...they're unable to rely on adults, for obvious reasons. It's just so sad to see that taken from them at such a young age. Hang in there, JoyFilled...it doesn't always last forever!

[Gnatty]

I'm glad you're making it possible for those siblings to be together. My family adopted several of my brothers as a sibling group, and I think it is sooo much better to keep siblings together whenever possible!

What is your plan after the baby comes- will you stay home?

What is the biggest project (if any) you want to finish before the baby comes?