I had to switch from a midwife birthing center birth to a scheduled (well by 48 hours or so) c/s at AAMC due to transverse breech.
Here are a few things that helped me...
(1) still have a doula with you. My doula (Brenda Lane) was SO instrumental in smoothing out the hospital process/ relaxing me and my anxieties/ making sure I got what I wanted every step of the way/ making sure my baby stayed with DH and I and helping him latch on while I was still in recovery (not yet in my room).
(2) Ask if you can have a mirror placed to see the baby come out. If the first person you ask says no, keep asking. (this is where the doula comes in handy too). We had a fantastic anesthesieologist (I have no idea now to spell that, sorry!) who set up the mirror in a way that he could tilt it for me to see. That way when they were doing something a little graphic, like cutting me open, he angled it away so I wouldn't freak out. But when they were pulling the baby out, he tilted it so I could see him come out. Then tilted it away again so I wouldn't see my guts getting sewn up!
(3) If your baby is healthy, there is no reason why he can't be with you or your partner the whole time. No need for warming trays or any separation. Skin to skin contact. You don't have to say yes to them taking baby away for anything else you don't want either like bath, etc. And yes, they will naysay you having baby sleep with you in the hospital bed, but you can do it anyhow. It's YOUR BABY!
(4) I'm not going to lie to you, recovery sucks. It varies from person to person of course. But know that you have choices. I chose NOT TO take anything stronger than high dose ibuproferin for my pain management. I was not comfortable with taking the stronger meds they offer and hand out, especially breastfeeding. Just know that you have a choice and should listen to your body.
(5) Don't beat yourself about not having the birth you envisioned. A healthy baby is all that matters and how you nurture him once he is born is what truly counts.
If you want you can read our "birth story" here
Just scroll to the bottom, very last one.
Best of luck to you!