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Poll Results: How old was your son when he got pubic hair?

 
  • 2% (2)
    7 or younger
  • 5% (4)
    8
  • 8% (7)
    9
  • 10% (8)
    10
  • 13% (11)
    11
  • 12% (10)
    12
  • 5% (4)
    13
  • 3% (3)
    14
  • 2% (2)
    15
  • 35% (28)
    the obligatory other
79 Total Votes  
post #21 of 148
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Originally Posted by mommy68 View Post

what did you just say?

I bet the pedofiles are happy in your neck of the woods. How scary that no one teaches those children better than that.
If the boys cover up, the pedophiles will still be there and still watch. Just because you wouldn't do it, doesn't mean that someone should have "taught them better." Clearly someone felt that teaching them to be comfortable with the human form as it was intended was more important.
post #22 of 148
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Originally Posted by MusicianDad View Post
If the boys cover up, the pedophiles will still be there and still watch. Just because you wouldn't do it, doesn't mean that someone should have "taught them better." Clearly someone felt that teaching them to be comfortable with the human form as it was intended was more important.
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post #23 of 148
DS likes to share that kind of info with me. he was so excited about it that he came running to tell me he found his first. i didnt look to confirm. he had just turned 13. 3 mo later he was being a goof and flashed me (topic for another thread). apparently it grew by leaps and bounds. i am happy for him. he is so proud to have finally caught up with the other boys in his class (you know they take showers after football practice right). he delights in his growing and changing body. i would like to help him celebrate this change rather than shy away from it. puberty is hard enough as it is.
post #24 of 148
I voted 12...that's when DS told me he had had pubic hair "for a little while now". He may have had it sooner, but I didn't ask any further questions for fear of embarrassing the dear thing
post #25 of 148
My son will be 11yrs. in Dec. He is around 100lbs. and 5' 2" and has no pubic hair yet (that I know of, haven't really seen, but he has no arm pit hair for sure and they go hand in hand I would think-plus he kind of tells me everything and asks lots of questions about puberty so i assume he'd mention it). Last night though I did notice the hair on his legs is getting pretty thick and course- his dad is a ape when it comes to body hair, and I assume it runs in the family, so maybe it'll happen soon.
post #26 of 148
my DS doesnt have any armpit hair yet just the other.
post #27 of 148
My ds is 10 and has no body hair under his arms yet. I'm not understanding why a mom should not know when this happens. My ds tells me more than I want to know and I am fairly sure when this milestone happens he will tell me.
post #28 of 148
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Originally Posted by kewb View Post
My ds is 10 and has no body hair under his arms yet. I'm not understanding why a mom should not know when this happens. My ds tells me more than I want to know and I am fairly sure when this milestone happens he will tell me.
I think some things are private, especially when it's between a parent and child of opposite sexes. I accept the fact that there are differences in the way people are raised, and individual families acceptance of nudity.

If one of the fathers on this site posted a thread about his daughter and her pubic hair, would people think this was equally appropriate? If the dad said in his post that his 9-year old daughter had a "full on bush" and other dads then weighed in would people think it was OK? Or is this different?
post #29 of 148
gosh i have no idea. he's just turning 12 so i guess it's possible. i don't really see it as my business, it's his body so unless there are any health issues i will probably never know
post #30 of 148
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Originally Posted by kewb View Post
My ds is 10 and has no body hair under his arms yet. I'm not understanding why a mom should not know when this happens.
unless there are health issues,then i think it's just a difference of perspective. i really don't think it's any of my business unless he feels like sharing that with me.
post #31 of 148
Add me to the list of freaks My almost 9 year old is naked a lot of the time. He doesn't care, we don't care, his siblings don't care. I see no problem with it. As far as pubic hair, he certainly does not have any. I would hope I know when he does as puberty is a big thing and it's important that I know what's happening with all my children. How else would I know that he's behaving crazy because of puberty and not because he likes being rude to me? It seems to be a double standard that girl's periods and breast development are discussed all the time and no one says anything about it.
post #32 of 148
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Originally Posted by cassiemc View Post
Add me to the list of freaks
definitely not freaky, it's just a different perspective. i think it is somewhat different with a girl having a period and getting breasts because it requires discussions about pads, tampons, dealing with cramps, pregnancy and finding bras that fit and are comfortable. pubic hair doesn't require anything but possibly a pair of scissors if they plan on trimming
that doesn't mean you don't talk to your sons about the changes and how it will impact their body/emotions/sexuality (at least i hope not!)
post #33 of 148
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Originally Posted by mandib50 View Post
definitely not freaky, it's just a different perspective. i think it is somewhat different with a girl having a period and getting breasts because it requires discussions about pads, tampons, dealing with cramps, pregnancy and finding bras that fit and are comfortable. pubic hair doesn't require anything but possibly a pair of scissors if they plan on trimming
that doesn't mean you don't talk to your sons about the changes and how it will impact their body/emotions/sexuality (at least i hope not!)
Talk about pubic hair can be medical related. If it does happen to early it is a sign of percocious puberty, a valid worry.
post #34 of 148
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Originally Posted by jennifer_lc1 View Post
... am i the only one who won't be looking at their childs body after 7 or 8?? that just irks me.
really??? my ds will be 8 in 2 weeks and still needs for me to rinse the conditionner out of his hair otherwise it would be a sticky mess, he showers while his younger sibs bathe, he wonders around naked, he is an innocent little boy, i find it weird that you think there is anything wrong with seeing your son naked when he is still a little boy.

i plan to respect my sons boundaries and as his self awareness grows and he
needs more privacy i will absolutely respect that but for now he doesnt care
post #35 of 148
On American Dad! last night the teenaged son showed of his new pubic hair to the whole family. Made me think about this thread. A lot of it has to do with how comfortable the son is. If he has no problem walking around naked, talking about pubic hair, having mom help wash his hair, then it shouldn't be seen as abnormal or inappropriate. Family is family.

The gender speration is a bit on the offensive side for me, since dd only has dads and is only comfortable with DH or I then one of us should be allowed to help her with puberty issues like buying bras and such. And yes, I've asked about puberty issues that come up with other parent friends and none of them were weirded out that it was a father asking about things that came up regarding his daughter.
post #36 of 148
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Originally Posted by oliversmum2000 View Post
really??? my ds will be 8 in 2 weeks and still needs for me to rinse the conditionner out of his hair otherwise it would be a sticky mess, he showers while his younger sibs bathe, he wonders around naked, he is an innocent little boy, i find it weird that you think there is anything wrong with seeing your son naked when he is still a little boy.

i plan to respect my sons boundaries and as his self awareness grows and he
needs more privacy i will absolutely respect that but for now he doesnt care


yes really. if he needs help with something thats differemt.
wonders around naked at that age??? i wont go there.
post #37 of 148
Somewhere around 10, I'd guess. We were talking about puberty physical changes (me, him, his dad) a few months ago (he's almost 12 now)-- adding yet another layer to the growing sex talk we've been building on since he was a little guy-- and we talked about body changes, getting hair on the face, armpits, and privates, and he announces, "Well, I already have hair on my privates."

"What!?!?" I joked. "Why don't you tell me these things!?!?"

Having just recently seen a heavily edited version of Meet the Parents on TV, he did his little fingers in a circle in the air, and said, "Mom, you aren't in the 'circle of trust'."

post #38 of 148

It's none of my business

How on earth would I know??? I haven't seen my son naked since he was 8 years old.
post #39 of 148
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Originally Posted by MusicianDad View Post
If the boys cover up, the pedophiles will still be there and still watch. Just because you wouldn't do it, doesn't mean that someone should have "taught them better." Clearly someone felt that teaching them to be comfortable with the human form as it was intended was more important.
But being comfortable with your human form can be done in the privacy of your own home. Any parent out there (by now) should be well aware of pedofiles. Making it easier for your child to be viewed by a pedofile makes the parent no better than they are. I realize there are pedofiles walking around the mens gym area at the YMCA too and that's why our kids don't change while there and go home first. I take certain precautions to keep MY children safe. But hey, when my kids are 18 they can go swimming naked anywhere they want.

I highly doubt I'm in the minority in my thinking.

What I find are are all the posters are coming in here and saying heck no they don't want to see their young boy and don't want to know that he has public hair yet. But...on the flip side you are okay with the rest of the world seeing your boys total private parts when they go swimming in public places?? You can't get more contradictive or confusing than that.
post #40 of 148
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Originally Posted by MusicianDad View Post
Talk about pubic hair can be medical related. If it does happen to early it is a sign of percocious puberty, a valid worry.
ehh...I don't completely believe that. What if a child comes from a very long line of hairy men? There are men with very dark hair that start getting the facial hair very early on and you know they likely have hair in other places as well by then.
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