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Poll Results: How old was your son when he got pubic hair?

 
  • 2% (2)
    7 or younger
  • 5% (4)
    8
  • 8% (7)
    9
  • 10% (8)
    10
  • 13% (11)
    11
  • 12% (10)
    12
  • 5% (4)
    13
  • 3% (3)
    14
  • 2% (2)
    15
  • 35% (28)
    the obligatory other
79 Total Votes  
post #81 of 148
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Originally Posted by ~Purity♥Lake~ View Post
I voted '11' for my 12 year old stepson... he wanted his vote to count. (He was reading over my shoulder and told me to vote 11 for him.) He also wants to add that he thinks the average is between the ages of 10 and 14.
well here is one kid who doesn't mind people posting about pubic hair. i have never typed so much about pubic hair in my whole life.
post #82 of 148
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Originally Posted by 1littlebit View Post
well here is one kid who doesn't mind people posting about pubic hair. i have never typed so much about pubic hair in my whole life.
Between this and the shaving thread, I think I'm done with pubic hair for awhile .
post #83 of 148
for real. who knew pubes were such a hot topic.
post #84 of 148
I realize this is different because of my professional position, but I had a young man in the office not too long ago and at the end of the visit he went to his mom (who'd been in the room for the visit which was not related to any puberty concern) and said in a low voice "don't forget to tell her about my hair!" To which she responded that he wanted her to tell me that he now had pubic hair and underarm hair. When she told me, he said happily "I'm getting to be a man!" and I congratulated him. I thought it was great that he'd not only shared with his mother, but that she'd made him feel comfortable enough that this was something to be proudly announced to his doctor! He was almost 13.

We tend to be fairly naked in our house around just the family. Neither of my boys is much for privacy. My older dd is very modest, and I wouldn't dream of invading her privacy - I always knock on her door, would never come in the bathroom when she was in there, etc. My 12 yr old son still doesn't think before coming in the bathroom when he needs me! He also doesn't think much about getting undressed for a shower in front of me, or changing quickly if we are together somewhere, but he is no longer as casual about nakedness as he used to be, and we all respect that. I think there is a lot of difference in individual and family comfort levels. I find it odd personally that someone would find it unusual to see their child of either gender naked after the age of 7 or 8, and even odder the attitude that when they get pubic hair is none of a parent's business. I think it's disappointing that we feel no need to acknowledge the stages of life our children move through - perhaps there would be less shame and fear if kids felt these things were to be celebrated and embraced instead of their parents trying not to notice.
post #85 of 148
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Originally Posted by doctorjen View Post
I find it odd personally that someone would find it unusual to see their child of either gender naked after the age of 7 or 8, and even odder the attitude that when they get pubic hair is none of a parent's business. I think it's disappointing that we feel no need to acknowledge the stages of life our children move through - perhaps there would be less shame and fear if kids felt these things were to be celebrated and embraced instead of their parents trying not to notice.
post #86 of 148
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Originally Posted by SusanElizabeth View Post
OK - I have to admit that this is perplexing to me. Do people look at their kids pubic hair? I understand that kind of involvement with a little kid. Please explain.
LOL!
My son is 7, no pubic hair yet but really he's my son I don't understand why me knowing would be weird, I'm sure that when it grows he'll show me with excitement to tell me he's becoming a man In his own words of course.
post #87 of 148
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Originally Posted by borbonmamma View Post
LOL!
My son is 7, no pubic hair yet but really he's my son I don't understand why me knowing would be weird, I'm sure that when it grows he'll show me with excitement to tell me he's becoming a man In his own words of course.
It must be nice to be so confident about what your 7 year old son will be like at 13 or 14.

And it must also be nice to know that he would be happy about his mother posting descriptions of his "bush" and how hairy it is on a public website. He must be really cool.

And if you have a daughter, I'm sure you would think it's great that she show your husband when she's "becoming a woman". He would want to see that right?
post #88 of 148
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Originally Posted by SusanElizabeth View Post
It must be nice to be so confident about what your 7 year old son will be like at 13 or 14.

And it must also be nice to know that he would be happy about his mother posting descriptions of his "bush" and how hairy it is on a public website. He must be really cool.

And if you have a daughter, I'm sure you would think it's great that she show your husband when she's "becoming a woman". He would want to see that right?
First off, it might not be 13 or 14 when her son starts getting pubic hair.

Second off, not all teenagers are afraid to tell their parents such things.

Third off, he might not have a problem with his mother telling people that he is comfortable talking to his mom.

Fourth off, some girls do announce changes they go through to their dad. A bit obvious I to say, I know, but DD was perfectly happy to announce when she needed a bra while sitting down to breakfast one morning.
post #89 of 148
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Originally Posted by MusicianDad View Post
First off, it might not be 13 or 14 when her son starts getting pubic hair.

Second off, not all teenagers are afraid to tell their parents such things.
Third off, he might not have a problem with his mother telling people that he is comfortable talking to his mom.

Fourth off, some girls do announce changes they go through to their dad. A bit obvious I to say, I know, but DD was perfectly happy to announce when she needed a bra while sitting down to breakfast one morning.
There's a HUGE difference between talking to your parent about changes you are going through, and the parent posting that information on a public website. I am a woman and I would have been mortified as a teenager, if I found out that my father discussed this kind of information about me online, even if the readers didn't know who I was. I would have considered it an incredible violation and betrayal. And honestly, I can't believe that you don't seem to make the distiction between "private areas" "private information, and public information.
post #90 of 148
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Originally Posted by SusanElizabeth View Post
There's a HUGE difference between talking to your parent about changes you are going through, and the parent posting that information on a public website. I am a woman and I would have been mortified as a teenager, if I found out that my father discussed this kind of information about me online, even if the readers didn't know who I was. I would have considered it an incredible violation and betrayal. And honestly, I can't believe that you don't seem to make the distiction between "private areas" "private information, and public information.
The distinction is determined by both parties. If parent and child have no problem with information being discussed anonymously online then why should your idea of what is private be used?

I am wondering if you read past the part you bolded because I do state in the next line that not all teenagers feel the same way you would as a teen.
post #91 of 148
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Originally Posted by SusanElizabeth View Post
It must be nice to be so confident about what your 7 year old son will be like at 13 or 14.

And it must also be nice to know that he would be happy about his mother posting descriptions of his "bush" and how hairy it is on a public website. He must be really cool.

And if you have a daughter, I'm sure you would think it's great that she show your husband when she's "becoming a woman". He would want to see that right?
It seems that this is a pretty upsetting subject for you, and I'm sorry that you feel no one understands where you're coming from.

I do understand what you're saying.. I just don't agree

I hope when my dd is going through puberty that she will share that with her dad.. only time will tell, but I do know that when that time comes, and she does share it with him, that he will show just as much enthusiasm and delight that he showed yesterday when she showed him her poop in her potty chair.
post #92 of 148
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Originally Posted by BAU3 View Post
I hope when my dd is going through puberty that she will share that with her dad.. only time will tell, but I do know that when that time comes, and she does share it with him, that he will show just as much enthusiasm and delight that he showed yesterday when she showed him her poop in her potty chair.
post #93 of 148
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Originally Posted by BAU3 View Post
It seems that this is a pretty upsetting subject for you, and I'm sorry that you feel no one understands where you're coming from.

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I hope when my dd is going through puberty that she will share that with her dad.. only time will tell, but I do know that when that time comes, and she does share it with him, that he will show just as much enthusiasm and delight that he showed yesterday when she showed him her poop in her potty chair.


ok
post #94 of 148
i dont know how a kid would know their parents are posting about this online.. its not like we all scan our ID cards next to our user names
post #95 of 148
My ds was 9. He told me about it and asked me to look. He is pretty modest about nudity, and we respect that. He does want me to help him shower sometimes and says "don't look", but he will also do a quick change in front of us. I don't feel weird about seeing him naked, he is my son.
post #96 of 148
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Originally Posted by SusanElizabeth View Post
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So you are saying that, because your dd is showing enthusiasm and delight with her poop in the potty, that this means that when she is going through puberty she will be equally willing to show her dad her pubic hair???

By that reasoning, why is it that in many nursery school, including the ones that my kids went to, the toilets are all in one big unseparated room with no difference between the boys and girls going to the bathroom? I never minded this and neither did any of the other parents. So why, if adults can keep that same level of open-mindedness, don't men and women all share the same bathroom with no partitions between the stalls? What's the big deal?
Society in general teaches to be ashamed of our bodies. Hide it all!

Not every family is like that.
post #97 of 148
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Originally Posted by MusicianDad View Post
Society in general teaches to be ashamed of our bodies. Hide it all!

Not every family is like that.
thank god or i would have never learned so much about pubes
post #98 of 148
When your child is old enough to have pubic hair they are also old enough to hit the "search history" button when they log into the internet. If you can honestly say that a child with pubic hair would not be in any way upset by seeing that his or her parent is posting about this on the internet, then go ahead and post away. If you think that they would feel that there is a difference between their pride about their poop when they were 2 or 3 years old, and their feelings of privacy about their bodies when they are changing, then maybe you should think twice about this thread.
post #99 of 148
post #100 of 148
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Originally Posted by SusanElizabeth View Post
When your child is old enough to have pubic hair they are also old enough to hit the "search history" button when they log into the internet. If you can honestly say that a child with pubic hair would not be in any way upset by seeing that his or her parent is posting about this on the internet, then go ahead and post away. If you think that they would feel that there is a difference between their pride about their poop when they were 2 or 3 years old, and their feelings of privacy about their bodies when they are changing, then maybe you should think twice about this thread.
As you previously mentioned, these are two seperate issues... some take issue with one.. some take issue with the other. I don't think anyone is confusing the two.

I do understand that some adolescents could be upset by their parents talking about thier pubic hair, on the internet or otherwise. But some may not ( as seen by a pp who said her ds saw the thread.

I suppose that every parent here has to make that choice.
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