Does your husband stand up for you?

[motheringforme]

I am quite happy with my husband. I had my first almost bad NIP experience. I sat down to nurse outside the dressing rooms. I wasn't paying much attention to what the lady was saying because I was getting DS situated. I could hear DH say in a defensive voice, "She doesn't have to," and then, "She's fine where she is." The employee must have been a little embarrased because she said it was okay, just that she thought I might want to nurse inside the dressing rooms. She was pretty friendly after that. I even got a chance to educate her a little. She said something like, "I don't think formula has everything in it," to which I replied, "It doesn't have antibodies."

[lovemybubus]

My dh is a very hard core lactivist, lol. Not only would he stick up for me but probably others as well

[2lilsweetfoxes]

I don't know. The smallest hint that there may be an issue, he is encouraging me to find someplace "more private" or asking me whether I happen to have a bottle and a bit of formula in the diaper bag (and since I WOHM, I usually do have it in there in case he needs to take the baby out). But, he might have mellowed since the first was born. Besides, the kids were trained to never take a bottle if I'm around...so he'd have to take the baby away from me.

[Swan3]

Originally Posted by motheringforme

I am quite happy with my husband. I had my first almost bad NIP experience. I sat down to nurse outside the dressing rooms. I wasn't paying much attention to what the lady was saying because I was getting DS situated. I could hear DH say in a defensive voice, "She doesn't have to," and then, "She's fine where she is." The employee must have been a little embarrased because she said it was okay, just that she thought I might want to nurse inside the dressing rooms. She was pretty friendly after that. I even got a chance to educate her a little. She said something like, "I don't think formula has everything in it," to which I replied, "It doesn't have antibodies."

Good for your DH! My DH would probably BF if he could, he's a hardcore lactivist!

[frontierpsych]

I'm sure he would if he had to. I haven't had any negative experiences yet (and hope I never do!) but I'm generally pretty good at sticking up for myself. The only difference I notice is that if DS cries when we're out, he'll check his diaper, try to rock him, shush, etc, but when we're home it's like "He's hungry, where's the boob?"

[guest9921]

Originally Posted by lovemybubus

My dh is a very hard core lactivist, lol. Not only would he stick up for me but probably others as well

Absolutely.

He is a pretty reserved guy, but I know if it had to do with breastfeeding/infant/woman discrimination or child abuse - he'd step in immediately.

I've nursed in public for many years, its a moot point.

[Pyrodjm]

Yep, he stands up for me. We were in a restaurant recently and DD got hungry. I was preparing to nurse her when one of the older women in our party began saying things like "here's a blanket" and "you can't breastfeed in a restaurant". I ignored her, but DH said "she won't take it" about the blanket and " ya know legally she can do it anywhere she is allowed to be" to the other comment. He was very kind in his tone and I was SO proud of him for sticking up for my right to feed his daughter.

[TearyCloud]

I'm not married, and ds' father and I are not together, so I don't know if I should be posting... But I will

When ds was 11 months old, ex and I met in at Barnes and Nobles at the cafe section so he could take ds for a few hours. I told him to hold on a minute so I could nurse ds before they left... He got really uncomfortable, looking around to see who was watching, and then said, "Um, I'll be back." Then he went and stood in the non-fiction section just far enough away so that he couldn't see me. He hated it. I was amused by his discomfort at my NIP because I thought it was just silly. As I sat in the comfy chair nursing my happy ds, an older man came up and said, "Well look at that happy boy! He's getting the best meal in the house!" Ex heard this and turned around to see who said this. It must have made something click in his head because he came back over and sat with me... of course, he couldn't look me in the eye while I nursed, but it was a big step for him.

I'll never forget that sweet man. Ex is still weird when I nurse, but he's been much better ever since he heard that man make such a sweet comment.

[kalynnsmom]

DH will stand up for me and for anyone else. He's even gone up to a nursing woman and thanked them :

[anudi01]

My DH loves that I BF our kids

...he always talks about how great it is to everyone. He would like me to be a bit more modest sometimes though. Oh well, I'm workin' on him. One thing at a time...

[FullMetalMom]

Your DH is awesome. We can't make BF and NIP the norm without help from men too!

[randomacts]

My husband is a bigger intactalactivist that I am! He will talk to ANYONE about it, and he doesn't understand any other choice. Sort of embarrassing sometimes cause we get in fights with friends, but he will stick up for me any time.

Little story, at his work, there is a mom who is pumping for her baby. His superior said something like "Amy has to go, um, um cause you know, her baby um um" my DH looked the guy right in his face and said, "go ahead, you can say it! Amy has to go pump because her baby breastfeeds!":::

[jaclyn7]

I love these stories about your partners.

We are not yet parents, but my husband and I were both pretty hurt & suprised by incident at the Vancouver H&M. Anyways, last week I was in desperate need of clothes for a function and as we were heading around the mall I suggested H&M not really thinking. He was so cute and was all like are we forgiving them yet, do you think they're working on the issue?

We found what needed elsewhere, but his concern and geniune interest in the issue warmed my heart . I love him.

[limabean]

My DH is very shy and reserved -- he even wears browns and greys most of the time because he hates anything that could attract attention to him. So sitting next to me while I NIP is a huge step for him -- he does it with no apparent embarassment, and I'm proud of him for that!

We've never received a negative comment, so he's never had to stand up for me about it. I imagine that he would, just because he'd stand up for me about anything, but really just having him sit next to me, knowing that it's a big step for him, warms my heart.

[ashleyhaugh]

my dh says he would, and encourages me to say something if the situation ever arises, but thankfully i havent been in a situation that needs defending yet

[butterfly_mommy]

My DH is a big lactivist and often talks about the benefits of BF to his co-workers and friends and feels that formula should be by prescription. He would stick up for me and his son if we had any NIP problems. He likes to take pictures of me NIP, calls my LLL group TLEB short for "The League of Extraordinary Breasts" : The other day he dressed DS and put him in his "Belly by Breastmilk" t-shirt

Actually my whole family are lactivists :

[Kinguk]

My baby's dad went from being against public breastfeeding to taking on his whole family (not actual family - but refers to them as family -- his actual family rocks!) at a camping trip. They bombarded him with, "you need to get her using bottles so you can be a part of your babies life" to "your baby doesn't need to be breastfed anymore" to "you're not going to be involved with your daughter if you can't feed her" and my personal favorite, "you've turned into a hippy"
He took them all on, stuck to his guns, fed them the facts, and shut them up good! I was so proud...and he was too!

[sapphire_chan]

I don't think my dh even realizes there could be a need to defend me. He seems to see NIP as Lina eating away from home.

[Belle]

My dh hasn't had the opportunity yet to stand up for me. The closest we had to an incident was when we were shopping in the-store-who-must-not-be-named and a lady saw me nursing dd1 in a sling. Her eyes got real wide and she came up to me and said "Excuse me!" I think she could see both of our hackles raising so she changed her tone really fast. She was suddenly very nice and complimenting me on my sling.

[dse657]

Back in 2004, with DS, we had one awful incident involving a passenger on an airplane. DH couldn't find his voice to speak up for me, so I spoke for myself and later gave him what for. We've been great ever since. He's even gotten his family into it, and they've come full-circle. FIL even sat next to me in the restaurant last night. Although I suspect it was to strategically "block" me from showing too much, it was a big gesture on his part.