Does your husband stand up for you? - Page 3

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[miche28]

Originally Posted by Smokering

Heh--he did better than my DH. He kept asking 'Is she locked on properly?' I thought he was kidding for a few days, then said 'Um, sweetie, you do know that's not the right term?' I explained and DH said with dignity 'I like 'locked on', it sounds better'.

Of course, then he started calling it 'shuttlepod one docking with the mother ship'...

Sorry, this made me think of when DS was in the NICU and everyone was very concerned about his bilirubin levels... We were distraught and sleepless... it was a tough time.

Finally, Dan goes, "OK, so tell me this, who is Billy Reuben?"... I think it was the first laugh I had postpartum... He also calls it MER-CONIUM... I can't tell you how many times I've gently said meh-conium... he won't change it , but it doesn't come up too often now!

Yes, Dan totally does defend me - with Isabelle, it took him a while, but now he's a "baby's gotta eat, get outta the way" kind of guy. He even gives discusses the benefits of breastfeeding at lunch with co-workers and gives women my email address for help with their questions...

[Elijahs Momma]

Dh is great. After a 12 hour labor with 2-3 hours of pushing I was exhausted from everything they had me on for pre-e, so I was pretty out of it. A few hours later, the nurse tried to get us to give ds some sugar water and dh and his momma were both arguing with her saying he was only getting breastmilk. They are great!

Also, whenever someone he works with has a baby and they bring it in to show it off, he always calls me up and talks about how they gave it formula and how the baby just looked like it wanted boobies and how sad he feels for it. I'm pretty sure he's even offered some breastfeeding advice too lol.

[Sanveann]

Since my DS stopped nursing when he was 2 months old and I EPed till he was 1, DH never really had a chance to "defend" me. But I'm bound and determined to nurse this next kiddo, and woe to anyone who gives me a hard time about it!

Probably DH would just stand back and let me unleash a verbal tirade, but if need be, I think he'd definitely put them in their place. And if someone suggested I nurse in a bathroom, he would DEFINITELY get PO'd. He thinks that's the most revolting thing in the universe.

[Evenstar]

I am so happy for you ladies whose DHs protect and defend you for NIP! It makes me so proud, but at the same time so sad that my DH probably wouldn't. He'd probably just sit there silently with a smug look on his face while I got accosted, like I was getting what I deserve. I'd bet the farm on it.

This isn't too terrible, but since we're on the subject... once we were out to dinner with his friend, friend's wife and their baby who is a few months older than DS and also breastfed. I started to nurse DS at the table and this friend says in a stern-like way "Do you want a blanket?" as he passed a blanket across the table. DH didn't say anything. I took the blanket, but just covered DS's body and left everything else uncovered

I also went to the Applebee's nurse-in and he dropped me off and left, even though other dads were there and I asked him to stay.

makes me sad

[Writerbird]

I've never needed defending in public, but the MIL had a bit of a time adjusting. She kept offering me the chance to go to the back room, to cover up with a giant blanket, etc.

Finally the mate said, ma, she's not going to go into exile every time the kid wants a drink, and I'm not having anyone suffocate my son because of some weird ideas.

He also made the MIL look, really LOOK at me while I was nursing, and she finally realized that you couldn't see anything... though, TBH, you couldn't see anything because DH coached me the first few weeks whenever I asked if he could see anything!

[go0ber]

completely! in fact he sort of likes confrontation so i'm sure he would love the chance to tell someone off for suggesting i cover up or whatever. it hasn't happened yet but i'll keep you posted. he likes to educate anyone he can about breastfeeding.

[OkiMom]

DH will support me now but it took him a month to get use to the idea. He was embarrassed to have me nurse in the hospital when one of the corpsmen came in. Now he will support me wherever/whenever. Last Christmas we were at his work's Christmas Party and one of his Marines made a comment about me nursing DD and he told him that he was just jealous that DD gets better food than he does. I thought it was soo funny (so did everyone else) and it made the guy shut up. I mentioned going down to the Mother's room at church to nurse and he asked why since DD had just as much right to hear the services as anyone else. He will sit and stare at anyone who looks at me odd (which a lot of people do now that Im 37 weeks pregnant). I knew he would support me once he relized there wasn't anything "bad" about it.

Ones Im really proud of is FIL/MIL. They were so uncomfortable with me nursing DD that they couldn't talk to me while I was nursing. I was back in the states in May and they were so supportive of me. FIL even stood up to someone for me (they were staring at me and he didn't appreciate it). MIL kept on saying how pleased and proud she was of me for still nursing DD even though I was pregnant.

[ramama]

DH has never had to defend be regarding NIP, but I have faith that he absolutely would. If he notices that people are "noticing" or looking uncomfortable, he'll stand next to me with his arms crossed like a bodyguard in case something "happens." That said, though, he's hard-of-hearing, so if someone said something under their breath, he wouldn't hear to defend me. But I can't blame him or that!

[lovebug]

I hope when I get to that point my DH will stand up for me!

Not to derail but…
For the ones that DH stands up for them, have they always been this supportive about the BF’ing world?

[sandybemt]

Originally Posted by lovemybubus

My dh is a very hard core lactivist, lol. Not only would he stick up for me but probably others as well

My dp is the same way..I love it!:

[ricemom3]

I don't think my dh would. He wanted me to always use a blanket to cover, which of course didn't happen. DS would've knocked it off anyway. Now that ds is 15 mos, he doesn't want me to even bf anymore, so I know if we were in a public place, he would prolly be the one telling me to take it elsewhere. Of course, at this point, DS doesn't usually ask for it in public, but if he does, I do try to find somewhere quiet, otherwise I am flashing everyone (and I have teenagers, so that is embarrassing to me). If they aren't around, I do NIP b/c it shouldn't be odd to see it, even at 15 mos.

Good for all of you who do have dhs that are lactivists!

[Onemagicmummy]

my DH would stand up for me and anyone one else.

hasent had to yet, hopefully never will.

Kiz

[groovynaturemama]

Originally Posted by Smokering

Of course, then he started calling it 'shuttlepod one docking with the mother ship'...

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that is hillarious!!

oh, yeah. eta- dh would totally stand up for me if i were given a hard time or strange look in public. he's been my biggest supporter. it hasn't happened yet, and dd is 18 mos and we nip still.

dd was born tongue tied and it took weeks to get her latch right (we had the tie clipped 24 hours after birth, but she still had to learn how to nurse with a tongue that could stick out); dh would hold my breast for me and try to get her to latch if i was starting to get discouraged. he was so encouraging and would watch me nurse dd over my shoulder and say the sweetest things and how great he thought i was doing. he seemed overjoyed and in awe once we got it down. he even told me that he loved my boobs even more since they made milk for our baby.