Originally Posted by MoonJelly
I feel for all parents today. It's very, very hard no matter what you do.
But we don't have to do everything all at once every day. What I mean is there may or may not be a two income trap for us personally, depending on a lot of variables in our own personal situations. And if parents can move in and out of the workforce as needed, working more when they need to, working less when they have young children or parenting obligations, overcomes some of the trappings of the two income debate.
Generally, I do not see a two income trap as much as high cost of living or consumer spending traps.
But I don't think that everyone has the option to be a SAHP based solely on learning frugality tips and tricks.
I found this passage very inspirational and uplifting. I love the idea of parents being able to move in and out of the workforce, as needed. If I personally do this, the two income trap is a moot point. I can work, save up, then take time off for my children, then plan to go back to work, building back up to my pre-baby career status and more as my children get older.
I just love this idea.
And I really love this passage from a new book in 2008 called "The Comeback" by Emma Gilbey Keller. It is about mothers who go in and out of the work force around their parenting roles.
This passage is about "having it all" just not all at the same time, which basically sums up my personal philosophy as a woman and mother.
"Start to think in terms of your whole life. Here you are in your twenties, energetic and a dedicated careerist, working hard and probably travelling in your job. Now you are a mother with babies and small children. If you want to stay at home and take care of them full time (and not every mother does), then do it. It doesn't mean you will never get another job. It's a finite stage.
Eventually those children will start kindergarten and you'll have some hours to yourself during the day. Perhaps you'll volunteer with those hours or find part time work. You won't want to disappear completely as a mother. Children still come home from school, want help with homework, and have games and practices that they to get to. Their needs change, but they don't disappear. They'll still cry and need to be comforted. They'll want your praise. They'll look for your answers to their questions. During this period of your life, you'll need some flexibility. You won't be alone.
Today nearly 30 percent of the entire workforce in the United States (both male and female) have a flexible work schedule that allows them to vary the time they begin or end work, according to the latest study released by the Bureau of Labor Statistics."