Originally Posted by Waldorf PC
I have a real problem with germs known as germaphobia. I do not condone anything to go in the baby's mouth that should not be there. The only things that go into my child's mouth are things that are meant for that purpose, such as teething toys, an they must not touch the floor for any length of time.
Should this happen, I take a baby toothbrush, brush the child's teeth, and then I disinfect the toy. The child looses priveledges to that toy for putting it into his mouth for a time. I do this as soon as kids start putting things into their mouth, even at the age of six months. Taking the toy away is enough to send the message that that is not acceptable. If the child screams, I let him. i walk away and let him get out his frustration. He'll learn that screaming is also not tollerated once he realizes he does not get an audience.
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Teething toys are returned immediately after disinfecting both child's mouth and the toy. However, other toys not meant to be in the mouth are taken away. I though I should clarify that. The message that I want to send is that the floor is a filthy place, and things that go into the mouth won't touch it, and that toys that do not belong into the mouth will never go there.
To avoid this much of the time, I am all for a play yard--fencing that you can make as big as the entire room to keep the child safely contained, and then a sheet is down on the floor to shield them from the filth. This way, I don't have to worry about germs.
I sure some of you may find me strange. But that is okay.
Originally Posted by MusicianDad
Waldorf PC, I'm wondering if you understand that at six months a baby doesn't have the reasoning skills to understand what your trying to teach. It's also important to note that at 6 months old a baby doesn't necessarily have the same idea of object perminece as an adult or older child. To them the toy is gone for good. Finally, at that age the most sensitive part of the body is the tongue and it's how they explore textures and such.
Yes, I'm a germaphobe too, but I wouldn't expect a 6 month old to understand that I don't like him/her to put toys in the mouth and why, or be able to connect toy in mouth = toy gone.
I also think, maybe you should read the guidelines for Gentle Discipline. Advocating CIO in any situation is, I believe, prohibited.
: I was going to post much the same thing. I am not at all sure how you "disinfect" a baby's mouth, but the very idea slightly disturbs me. I can't think of a single thing that effectively kills germs that is safe to touch the inside of a baby's mouth, even a little, in the context you are suggesting. (Also, you must logically know
it's futile and pointless anyways since you cannot possibly protect your child from all, or even most
, germs, right?)
There are people who call
themselves "germaphobes" who are just a little icked out by them, who maybe clean more than someone who's not bothered at all... and then there are people who let their fears/obsessions actually dominate or interfere with their lives to the point that they should maybe seek some help in letting go a bit. As has already been suggested, perhaps you would consider talking to a counselor about your fears instead of resorting to CIO and withdrawal of love as punishment? I just don't think it's very "gentle" to let a 6 mo baby CIO (even if it's just for a few minutes) to teach a "lesson" that the baby is very developmentally unable to learn at that point.
As for my own strangest rule, that award might go to, "We do not wear
the cat on our heads. She is not a hat and she does not like it." Or maybe, "No telling your sister that her food is made of boogers. Her food is not
made of boogers. (But if it was, it's the same food as yours, and you would be eating booger-food, too.)