Is there a tribe for people who tend to alienate others? - Page 8

[lunarlady]

This is me too. Not many will say it to my face, but apparently I'm a B$&*h because I say what I think, have a quick wit, excellent memory, and halfway decent vocabulary, and because I don't really care to hear people gripe about things they could change. My DH, thankfully, says that he loves me because I'm a B$&*h, since that is the sign of a strong woman. Knew there was a reason I married that man!

I took that personality quiz posted earlier and got INTP, which might explain some of my quirks.

I can't seem to keep friends either. Biggest issue, or so I've been told, is that I don't need them. Since I'm unlikely to call on a random Tuesday evening to process the distressing fact that my pasta was over cooked, or some other frivolous issue of modern living, than I'm not a "true friend". I'm happy to listen to your woes for hours, but unlikely to call with mine. Apparently to most people, esp. women, this means we are not friends. The fact that I don't believe talking about my woes helps me is irrelevant to most people. If I am dealing with a major issue, than my response is to find a quiet space to sit, process, research, plan, and act. I do not reach for a phone and a list of people to call.

It is sad because I enjoy people, and I would like to have more friends. But I am not going to pretend to be something I'm not in order to keep them. Sigh.

[bubbledumpster]

I could go on and on with the "me too's" in this thread. For most of my life I have been bewildered by my ability to attract so many people yet have it drive me crazy.Often times it has resulted in the burning of bridges or me running hard in the other direction at the drop of a pin but feeling soooooooo guilty because I just seem like a heartless unthinking jerk when I don't mean to. I  have also continued in many relationships void of substance, out of feeling like a terrible person for just being annoyed with personality incompatibility, interests that didn't match up or MY incapacity to act totally as myself for fear of offending. The whole, finding people who don't assume my knowledge on any subject is a judgment against their choices and having it ruin any chance for a sound and mutually beneficial friendship, thing.

oh wow. these words are really perfect for the way i'm feeling, especially right now. i've pushed away pretty much all of my friends at this point because we're just not compatible. the closest friends i have have all up and moved across the country or across the world. i have a telephone phobia so we can only really keep in touch through facebook and chatting sometimes. the people i have left here, i've just outgrown.

i feel really lonely, and i want so badly to have friends but i'm just completely done with having friends for the sake of having friends. i want to be around people who inspire me, encourage me, support me, and open up my mind to possibilities i never would have considered. i just don't want to have to wade through the bad to get to the good.

[RPGamingGirl]

I have a phone phobia too--i wonder if that's common among 'people like us' haha.  I hate making smalltalk and being on the phone is like...making smalltalk but you can't make excuses to get away without it sounding like an excuse to get away!

[asraidevin]

I love being alone. Except this alone with baby thing is driving me crazy because I don`t have time to be creative which is my oulet, my way of "talking". I am a writer as well. Pre-new baby I was an Educational Assistant, but DH thinks I should stay home at the end of maternity leave. I`m better at writing than talking this my preference for online forums.