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When are planning on sharing the news?

post #1 of 20
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We are planning on waiting until I am 12 weeks to tell most people, which is Thanksgiving (for us Americans). When I was pregnant in December we told everyone right away, and calling everyone to tell them we lost the baby was so hard. This time I will only tell my brother, best friend, and close friend sooner, and everyone late November. In my last pregnancy I was in maternity clothes at six weeks...I wonder how I will hide it for so long!
post #2 of 20
I have told a small handful of people... my two closest friends and my midwife preceptor (so she knows why I'm exhausted/queasy all the time!). I haven't told any family, and probably won't for a few weeks. I'm not sure what their reaction will be, and I just want to keep it a delicious secret for a little while. The hard part about that is that I haven't told my dds, since dd1=blabbermouth! I can't wait to tell her!

And I second the maternity clothes thing. When I told my mom about dd2 at around 10 weeks, she was like "I know! It's a little, uh, obvious!".
post #3 of 20
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Originally Posted by blissful_maia View Post
I have told a small handful of people... my two closest friends and my midwife preceptor (so she knows why I'm exhausted/queasy all the time!). I haven't told any family, and probably won't for a few weeks. I'm not sure what their reaction will be, and I just want to keep it a delicious secret for a little while. The hard part about that is that I haven't told my dds, since dd1=blabbermouth! I can't wait to tell her!

And I second the maternity clothes thing. When I told my mom about dd2 at around 10 weeks, she was like "I know! It's a little, uh, obvious!".
We have not told ds either. He is 4, and anxious for a sibling. I am waiting until I feel a bit more confident about this pregnancy before sharing it with him. I am nervous that he will tell everyone once he knows though.

That is a funny story about your pregnancy with dd2. I am guessing I am going to get that reaction too!
post #4 of 20
My friends know, but they are my family and my only source of comfort and guidance. My partner and i haven't been together long and my girlfriends are an enormous part of my life. My family is really only my mom and brother and i don't think i will be telling them. As a mama to 5 already and what i went through to get where i am, i just don't think the news will be received well and i don't need that stress. I haven't seen them in 3 years as it is so i don't think at this point it makes a difference. That may sound bad but huge families aren't always supported.
post #5 of 20
I have a really hard time not telling people. I think it is helping me get into the whole thing. ( I was on bc pills and became pregnant) I am telling my family and friends and anyone I wouldn't mind telling if I had a miscarriage.

We told our kids last night. It was really fun because they are so big. My 7 year old asked "when did you guys have sex?" It was very funny. My daughter is already rubbing my tummy and saying good night to the tadpole. My son 4.5 was worried that the baby would be in his bed. I reassured him it would sleep with us.

I hope it sticks or my kids will have an early lesson in loss.
post #6 of 20
Hello everyone!
We aren't telling anyone till hopefully thanksgiving-ish. It kinda fun keeping it to ourselves this far. But I have a feeling I might look pregant before then. Oh I did tell one friend already because she told me she was pregnant too! I was surprised we are about one week apart!
post #7 of 20
I have told immediate family and very close friends who have been a great support system as we travel through this journey. A few of my friend have suffered or are suffering with infertility, so they have been through every step of the way with us. I won't be telling the world, probably until Christmas, but let's see how long I can last - ha! Luckily, *I* won't be showing, so hopefully I can keep it under wraps!
post #8 of 20
funny, i was thinking about posting the same thread on this very subject!

i want to shout it from the rooftops, but i've only told my mom, my sister and a woman who i consider my 2nd mother. i think from there everyone else will find out REAL soon . i don't mind, though.

i really want to tell my ILs. i know they will be thrilled! as soon as dh gets over his cold we'll go tell them together. the way i see it is that i want as many members of our family as can be to send their positive thoughts/sticky vibes our way. i imagine i'll be telling more family as i run into them, i suppose.
post #9 of 20
I told my husband at 6:45 am yesterday! We were going to wait it out, but yhe said, "Call your sister." So that made it until about lunch. And then we told his sister and the adult band staff (since I will be leaning on them while I'm exhausted or pukey). Today we told my stepson (19yo). His reaction was interesting. Was hoping for a little more, but he didn't seem to be adversely affected. He knew we were trying.

I'm mailing a package to my parents tomorrow. Two little bibs, wrapped up that say, "I love Grandma" and "I love Grandpa." I'm going to include a card that says we made something for them and that we hope they like it. Since it's the same thing for both, they need to open it at the same time. Sneaky....

I want to SHOUT IT OUT!!!!! :
post #10 of 20
Once I have the official result from the hospital I'll probably tell a few family members and then friends and others as it comes up. I never know how to share this kind of news with people.
post #11 of 20
We are way superstitious so I'll probably mostly lurk here and we don't want to tell anyone IRL until 12 weeks. Going to be hard to hide with my bad skin and already sticking out uterus though!
post #12 of 20
I will tell people in stages... If there's good news at our 6-wk ultrasound in two weeks, then I'll tell my parents, siblings, and a few close friends that are "in the know". (I guess if it's bad news, they'll find that out, too.) If we make it to thirteen weeks or so, then I'll start telling more people, like coworkers, casual friends, etc. (Work might find out sooner if there's a lot of morning sickness: small workplace, they'll notice that.)
post #13 of 20
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Tuesday I told my best friend. She is long distance, so we just got to talk on the phone. I was planning on waiting a few more weeks to tell anyone else, but today I told a close friend. I was out with her all morning, and then she called me when I got home and I blurted it out. It was funny! I cannot believe I did not tell her when I saw her.

Oh, one other person knows. The dress tailor for a wedding that I am in. I am due a few weeks after the wedding (baby stay in until after the wedding , and I had to order a huge dress with extra fabric. We have already worked out how to make the dress into a maternity dress, so at least that will not be a problem. If I only knew exactly how big I would be at 9 months!
post #14 of 20
One of my issues with sharing "the news" is that it's already old news. Everybody guesses immediately what our surprise might be, given that we've been pregnant so many times in that last two years already, we're seeing fertility specialists, etc etc etc. It's usually in a positive way (like my parents etc) but still, no surprise there.

Actually we played off of that a bit early in the summer, when we were both newly pregnant (again) and had just (secretly) bought a house... my parents and little brother came to visit and we played the "we have some news for you" card, and when they started to guess that we were preggers, we cut them off with, "... bought this house yesterday!" (A few minutes later we did admit that yes, we were expecting again as well. But it was fun to throw them off the scent for a minute!)
post #15 of 20
I told a couple friends and my mom, but we'll wait to tell the world until we hear a heartbeat.

Earlier if it's obvious, like morning sickness, fatigue, if I get fat fast...
post #16 of 20
I'm barely pregnant so won't be telling too many people right now. We only found out last night, after all. My office mate and my manager know but they're both good friends and when we all went to lunch today and I didn't have the customary Friday beer with lunch it certainly sparked some pointed curiosity.
post #17 of 20
I'm telling everyone right away. I found out not 7 hours ago and I've alredy told everyone that I've come in conact with since (dh, our children, my sister, and about 5 friends). We did loose our last baby but I was already in the 5th month when we found out our baby no longer had a heart beat. There is no way i can hide it for 5 months....I was already showing quite a bit plus I had lots of other signs that made it obvious to everyone. I'm scared the same thing will happen this time but I won't be able to hide it that long so I might as well tell now so I can have the support of my friends and family the whole way through.
post #18 of 20
We don't plan to tell people until I start to show, with the exception of my sister. (She's the only person who knows we were TTC.) This will be the first grandchild on my side of the family and the second (with almost nine years in between) on DH's side so there will be a lot of excitement from the grandparents. I'd rather not have the grandmas-to-be worrying and stressing me out for longer than necessary!
post #19 of 20
We were going to try and wait to tell... but just like with DS that SO didn't happen! We were too excited..
post #20 of 20
we're going to tell fil and mil today. at least i think we are. i've already posted it on facebook, my three best girfreinds all know, my mom, my sister, and some random strangers. telling the random strangers has kept me from going over to fil and mil's house and spilling the beans without dh. i know if i went over there with just me and dd, i'd tell them before i even got through the front door. i'm a total blabber mouth . hell, i even told all of my pets,
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