We just started going to classes at the Zoo and I felt much the same way you did, by the end I was just about in tears I felt so stressed and frustrated. BUT There was this one mom of 5 who was oh so kind and told me that it will get easier - her kids are tradionally homeschooled with the school at home and she said her kids started out not doing very well with structure at all either. Granted I know ds1 is WORSE than the average kid and also feel he would be labeled ADHD and he is not- in a tradional setting which is one reason why i started thinking of homeschooling anyway. so I do feel your pain, and I hope that other mama was right and it gets easier for both of us
I got a ? that I need help with y'all....
DD has started Girl Guides (brownies) last week after wanting to for awhile. It looks like I will have to attend with her....usually I never can drop her off and leave in something like this. The first meeting did not go to well, she was majorly scattered and all over the place, getting up, interrupting, me needing to sit with her, guide her and explain everything to her (like the instructions the leader was giving to play team Pictionary) or she would be distracted and go do something else. Yes, we did talk before hand what a meeting was like. I was cringing a little as the leader knows we hs and I think it made dd and I and hs'ing look bad. (I know in school she probably would be labelled ADHD). The other kids were obviously in school, and just sat and waited for the next instruction. DD does have a diagnosis of Auditory Proceessing Disorder, and I think that had alot to do with her behaviour and not being able to follow what she was told. We'll try again and see how it goes, but at her age she is starting to get that there are certain behaviors in certain settings and I have told her we will try again, but that if that stuff continues we will have to find something different for her to do. I am afraid I was a little upset and emotional about it with her that night unfortunately, and this is all coming at a time I am getting flak for hs'ing so it made it even worse, me thinking I am doing her a disservice perhaps by not having her in school, yet at the same time realizing she is a very creative visual/spatial right brained sort of kid who would likely be angry/exhausted/tearful in the sequential school setting. Even her audiologist was happy she was homeschooled! Does anyone else have US'd kids that don't do well in structured settings? Is it personality or temparment or is it because of unschooling and not being in structure in the first place and not "trained" ?? For instance Dd has a talent for cartooning/drawing, if she wanted to attend a class she wouldn't like it because she could not draw "her way", and then would be disruptive because she was bored, sigh. I have just got a cartooning book with tips and we do it together. Jeepers, I remember when she was 3 and going to a toy library program with me, and having to run the same interference I do NOW! AND, in case anyone was wondering, no I just don't go throw her in anything, because she struggles with so much of this stuff in those sit down settings, we actually have attended very little outside the home and I am not a soccer mom with my kids in oodles of things. And yes I have tried adressing diet and fatigue issues and providing more physical activity and sensory type stuff like squeeze balls, heavy work, too. Thoughts on all this anyone from an unschooling perspective????
Wow, gotta go get breakfast and this is getting epic anyway...