Originally Posted by majikfaerie
that sounds like a really rough situation.
I'm guessing that even if he did see all the stuff she's doing, it doesn't count because it's not "school" stuff. is he only looking for "school work"?
most of all, give it time. maybe he's feeling that he doesn't have any control over things, or just needs you to involve him a bit; show him really what she is doing, and how it equates to learning.
I totally agree. Anytime DH has questioned unschooling, it has come from that very angle: Being unaware of what the kids are learning/working on, not having any control, not being able to equate it to the schoolwork of other school children we know. He tends to come around rather quickly, though, thankfullY!
I wonder if your DH would benefit, or even be open to, reading some of the books listed above. Or, maybe just have him have a conversation with your DD about "how things are going". That is usually a big eye opener for my DH.
I am so sorry about your fight. It seems that when US isn't brought up around here, all is well. But, the minute I bring up an argument on a board, or a conversation I've had, it stirs interest in him--sometimes even concern. It takes a (sometimes heated) good conversation to get him back down to earth again. I really do think it's about not having control/being unaware of what's happening.