i'm in Eureka and don't drive except for dire emergencies (Terran is very upset by the car abd i'm not crazy about global warming and wars for oil either) but i'd love to meet your sister if she's ever dowbn my way. i didn't know anyone here when i moved up from San Francisco, so i know how that goes, but it should be easier in Arcata since it's a college town with more comings and goings.Carrie
, i absolutely loved your postcarsd! i must get going on mimne; the only obnew i axtually finished was Jezzy's because the postcard muse kind of hit me over the head with a sledgehammer.
Terran doesn't sit either. He CAN, but it's totally not his thing. He does all that other eight month stuff (no standing or walking, though) so i'm not going to stress on it just yet. i am so over the "earlier is better" mentality and am more relieved than anything that i won't have a 9 month old "toddler" this time around, the way i did with dd.
Still no interest in solid foods, which is consistant with not much interest in sitting and doesn't worry me much. He has access to different kinds of foods in case he just doesn't like avocados, but that's still what i'm pushing for a "first food". My freezer stash isn't growing as fast as i'd like and i think i'll probably be feeding him his beets in the bathtub this winter since they're going to be messy.
, he's into everythihng and everything is into his mouth! Babyproofing is not going as well as I'd like; between the cat and a leaky refrigerator (the landlord told me to go to Sears and get an appliance brush and clean under it) there is ALWAYS "yuck water" on the kitchen floor, so I can't bring myself to let him down in there no matter how sick he is of being on my back. The teen leaves his dirty shoes and sometimes even pennies all over the floor and I'm not sure if it's carelessness or being deliberately territorial because he doesn't like sleeping in the living room.
None of us do and all of us have and when we move it will probably be to a SMALLER place.
Terran totally gets bored with hanging out in the bedroom all the time, although he was a great sport about it while I made his winter pants.
I gave him a keyboard of his own to play with, a stack of boxes, a stack of board books, and an empty vitamin bottle to roll around and let him call the shots as to when "floor time" was up.
ds1 saw one of those toys with the wooden beads on wire tracks at the consignment store that was EXACTLY like his and Jeanita's old one and wanted to get it. It was kind of hard to explain why i wanted to hold off on Terran's "toy virginity" for as long as possible and even harder not to be happy that Chris has fond memories of the QUALITY toys i got the kids when he was a toddler before the Power Rangers Action Figures and Beauty and the Beast(TM) branded merchandise and other as-seen-on-TV crap took over.
Terran still sleeps better than normal babies, but definitely not as well as he used to. He's usually ready to go down for a long stretch when i get back from making Foster Gramma's dinner and would really rather hang out in the kitchen, make dinner for myself and the kids and unwind for awhile, but i know i need to get down with him. i have trouble sleeping and wind up surfing n & ce if the pentium IV is up and running (i need to change my sig unless there's another little power outage and she dies for real this time) or just worrying if it's not. Then around 9 or 10 when the kids need to go to bed, he's up and wanting to play for a few hours.
He's still very vocal and becoming LOUD, which may make it more difficult to find more work (and i'm not desperate enough yet to work for someone who tells me to "shut that brat up or i'm not going to do you the favour of tolerating his existence" or calling me "dumb heddy" or blasting a teevee constantly or any of the other unhealthy environment crap i put up with during the first trimester of my pregnancy) but it's awfully cute at home and I'm glad to see him becoming more assertive. he's always been such an easy baby that i worry about his needs just not getting met.
About a week or so ago, in a fit of mommy-adoration, he put one hand on each side of my face, gazed lovingly into my eyes, and said (tonal patterns only, no consonants, and intelligible only to me) "Oh, just LOOK at you!" as if he were an adult and i was the cutest baby he had ever seen. it totally cracked me up!Lincap
I like the nursing necklaces at laughing starfish dot com and have heard good things about them. I don't have one, though, vbecause mine is locally made byn an artist who'd never even heard of them before I went into her store in a fit of desperation after my vbirth beads popped,.Dea
thanks bunches for the banking advice and please keep it coming! I am so like a child whe it comes to finances because nobody has ever given me credit for being able or willing to learn. I think my original credit card (Capitol One) had a $200 ceredit limit and this one might have been $500. I canceled capitol One because they advertised on that see bs story on "The dark Side of Homeschooling" several years back.
I rarely use credit cards for anything except online purchases and pay my bill in full every month, so my ctredit limit just kept going up and up. This month I put dd's wisdom teeth surgery on the card (not to worry; I sold stock to cover that and because we were running out of what we'd saved from the 5 part time minimum wage jobs during my pregnancy, so it was just TIME; I sold less than a week before the crash) so I'm terrified of what's going to happen when i pay THAT off in full.
I received an unsolicited offer in the mail for a $25,000 loabn on the day of the crash.
I'm not going to air dd's dirty laundry because she is an adult and I think her problem is much smaller than what most 19 year olds have and is every bit as developmentally appropriate as crawling is for an 8 month old; I'm just horrified by how screwed she really is and worried that some of you or my other 20-something and 30-something friends are probably screwed even worse.slgt
, I do think that the social isolatiion that babies and SAHPs experience in this society is not healthy and is why I let the emotional and financial abuse from my parents and ex get as bad as it did before I realized that THEY were the problem and not me and that the big kids really would be better off with a live, sane mother and a baby brother than a few shares of stock in corrupt corporations. It is hard to get out and meet people when it isn't the financial necessity of working and taking Baby with me, though. i feel for you and need to say that once again, i am shocked that ddc buddies who are social and friendly and delightful and such an important part of my life are describing themselves as awkward and shy irl.
I wish we had unlimited sources of oil and money so we could all fly out to a central location for a play date, but hey, isn't the internet wonderful? i've only been on line for 7 years (8 if you count my text email only device) and you ladies keep me sane! i don't really have any irl "mommy friends" other than moms of 8-10 year olds who used to admire me before Chris ran away and don't really know what to make of me now.
I'm sure I forgot someone or something but my sons need me to get off the computer now.