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post #1 of 147
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I actually have news this time!! (about time) I have found a man who has everything on my proverbial list Things are going very well and we keep getting closer. I can't tell you how wonderful this is. I want to say I can't believe it, but I can because I have been doing my work and feel that I really deserve someone who treats me really well I could go on and on, but I won't...I want to leave space for everyone else

post #2 of 147
Kelly... that is so fabulous!!! I am so very, very happy for you. :

Enjoy and savour every single little minute.
post #3 of 147
All is beautiful here on the bf front.

S and I have been together for almost 8 months and we continue to grow, enjoy and just constantly learn from each other. It is such a wonderful, and challenging, relationship.

For my 35 birthday last month, he bought me one of the most thoughtful gifts I have ever received from a bf. He gave me a gift certificate to an awesome knitting store!!! Knitting is my new hobby and he was been so supportive and genuinely interested in my knitting adventure. :
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I actually have news this time!! (about time) I have found a man who has everything on my proverbial list Things are going very well and we keep getting closer. I can't tell you how wonderful this is. I want to say I can't believe it, but I can because I have been doing my work and feel that I really deserve someone who treats me really well I could go on and on, but I won't...I want to leave space for everyone else

Please, go on and on! It's great to read.
post #5 of 147
So happy for you, Beloved! And Holland and all the other happy mamas!

My sweetheart and I broke up three weeks ago. It is killing me because it is so stupid and wrong, but I don't think it's going to be able to be fixed at this point.
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I could go on and on, but I won't...I want to leave space for everyone else

Oh c'mon! don't be like that! We want to hear it! I'm really happy for you, you totally deserve this, bk!:

I'm so happy I can't even tell you. bf is upstairs sleeping in my bed right now and every time I think of it I get this little tug at my heart. oh my. He spent all day here yesterday with me and my kids while I was working. It was so crazy with 6 kids, mostly toddlers having a rough day. It was loud and awful, but he just played with my kids and had this content smile on his face all day. I love him.
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Oh c'mon! don't be like that! We want to hear it! I'm really happy for you, you totally deserve this, bk!:

I'm so happy I can't even tell you. bf is upstairs sleeping in my bed right now and every time I think of it I get this little tug at my heart. oh my. He spent all day here yesterday with me and my kids while I was working. It was so crazy with 6 kids, mostly toddlers having a rough day. It was loud and awful, but he just played with my kids and had this content smile on his face all day. I love him.
I love that feeling
post #8 of 147
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OK, I will dish more when I have a moment, last night was special (ifkwim )
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My sweetheart and I broke up three weeks ago. It is killing me because it is so stupid and wrong, but I don't think it's going to be able to be fixed at this point.

i'm sorry mama.
post #10 of 147
well, as incredible as it sounds to my own ears, d and i will be celebrating one year together on october 14th. he moved in officially last month, though for all intents and purposes he's been here for months. last night in bed he turned to me and said 'how the hell did i con you into this?' i said: 'you mean, supporting me and my two kids, plus you and your own son?' 'no, i mean, we're DOING this. together. you're sharing these incredbile things with me. the five of us...' i just about melted into the bed.
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well, as incredible as it sounds to my own ears, d and i will be celebrating one year together on october 14th. he moved in officially last month, though for all intents and purposes he's been here for months. last night in bed he turned to me and said 'how the hell did i con you into this?' i said: 'you mean, supporting me and my two kids, plus you and your own son?' 'no, i mean, we're DOING this. together. you're sharing these incredbile things with me. the five of us...' i just about melted into the bed.
omigod that's so sweet.
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Originally Posted by Still_Snarky View Post
well, as incredible as it sounds to my own ears, d and i will be celebrating one year together on october 14th. he moved in officially last month, though for all intents and purposes he's been here for months. last night in bed he turned to me and said 'how the hell did i con you into this?' i said: 'you mean, supporting me and my two kids, plus you and your own son?' 'no, i mean, we're DOING this. together. you're sharing these incredbile things with me. the five of us...' i just about melted into the bed.


Holland, BK, lunar,:

MMace - I am sorry you're still hurting.

BF and I are going on 8 months and it is the strongest, most peaceful connection I have ever had with a partner. He is wonderful with ds, I can't even describe how amazing it is, I never thought I would find anyone who was so perfect for both of us. ::

I have more to share, big stuff, but can't now. Have to finish up and go get ds.
post #13 of 147
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So I had lunch with him (after having breakfast earlier and I get back to work and there was the hugest, most fragrant bouquet of flowers with the sweetest note

I feel so cared for
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post #14 of 147
wow. i cannot believe how much yummy gooshy-ness there is in this month's thread. i'm so happy for all of us.
post #15 of 147
yay belovedk! sounds like a sweetie. that durn UA is putting a crimp in this discussion.

going good with the guy i'm seeing. slow which is twice as good. some stuff has come up relating to ex's infidelity but i'm dealing with it and learning/growing/healing more deeply.
post #16 of 147
I'm in a quandry. Been seeing totally wonderful guy for about 2 mo but we only see each other 2 or 3 times a week and barely ever talk on the phone. Is that normal for a relationship where you go slowly?? A while back someone mentioned about that initial period where you're so in love and spend so much time together and, in thinking back, it seems that only lasted less than a couple of weeks. When we are together, it's lovely, and he's so wonderful but it's also very chaste (aside from a handful of encounters). I guess it's good to go slowly, but it seems he's just not interested in much more than what we've got and I feel like I'm going to spend the rest of my life trying to get him to pay more attention to me and have sex with me. That's not the relationship I was looking for.

So, is this all just because it's going slowly?? I've never done the slow thing so I have no reference point. He isn't seeing anyone else and he does pay attention when he's here, but he's just not really here much. It's been a week since I've seen him, with one hour of talking on the phone (he was out of town last weekend) and I've really started forgetting him (I'm HORRIBLE at long distance because I forget people when I don't see or talk to them) so, at this point, it feels like it'd be easier to just continue to not see him than to get together and be reminded of how much I like him and go back to wishing I could be with him more. He's never had a long term relationship and I don't think he really knows how to, but I also keep thinking he's just not that into me, even though he tells me all the time that he is.

and, on top of that, my life has been one financial crisis after another since my ex moved out last summer so I feel like I'm constantly battling depression and panic over money and that I need to put on a happy face about it with him (not that he's asked me to, it's my issue). He's such a stable, responsible guy and I feel like such a screw up for my life being the wreck that it is.

on the bright side, ex and my family are pitching in for childcare so I get 6 hours a day to work, which will hopefully help with the financial sitch, if only the economy would start turning :P
post #17 of 147
I have my first date tomorrow! We are doing lunch together - and then probably coffee in the evening too!

I'm so excited. I'll let you all know how it goes.
post #18 of 147
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yay belovedk! sounds like a sweetie. that durn UA is putting a crimp in this discussion.

going good with the guy i'm seeing. slow which is twice as good. some stuff has come up relating to ex's infidelity but i'm dealing with it and learning/growing/healing more deeply.

I know He sent me flowers at work, and he treats me sooo well (not used to that) I wish I could talk about the things that we can't, though I have to admit, there was a little 'whoops' and I am a slight bit worried ifkwim (actually it was a HUGE 'whoops') :

ok, I am going to stop now lest I break the UA
post #19 of 147
wow, bk, that sounds fantastic. This is such a mushy sweet thread, it makes me feel especially bad for the mamas who have love lives not going so well.

and yeah, I wish I could hear/share the juicy parts.
post #20 of 147
Well Lunar - , as a mama who's love life isn't going so well, (mostly because I have baggage) this thread is inspiring, reminding me that there are men out there that won't get freaked out over my children. I think back to my ex, who is a great Dad and a good friend. When we started dating he said he didn't want kids, but might have one, but just one. Well, 8 years later he's the mushiest Dad. Men are like wild animals, they scare easily. It's best to approach with your hand stretched out so that they can sniff and without making eye contact.
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Robin - Did you both decide to go slowly? My example is with a man who's probably not into me... But he was very attentive and affectionate. He always called when he said he would, love letters, complements, spending every day off with me, trying to get me to meet up with him in the middle of his work day just to kiss.... treating me like I was going to be in his future..... Then he decides that he needs to pull back on the reigns and not dive in, and all the attention stopped. So, did you guys decide to do so? To slow it down? My example is just to prove that the man I speak of would naturally shower a woman with attention, and has with his exes, but is purposefully not being himself. So I think maybe for both of us, it's either because they are 'just not that into us" or.... They are purposefully holding back.... Maybe both.
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An update on me... I haven't called E (attorney man) in a week. Last time we talked it was him happily txing me the morning after an amazing night of hanging out with me, his friend of 8 years and my ex-hubby. Im gonna wait for him to call me. I seem to fall in and out of love with him. At least he's been 100% a good man this entire time. Or else I'd have to wonder how sane I am. It only takes a couple lessons in life to learn to not love a man who treats you badly....... At the same time, I am open to others because I see some good examples of other men who I'd really like. All in all I'm ready for a relationship. I've been singe for YEARS with no boyfriend. Just a couple 2 weekers.
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