I'm in a quandry. Been seeing totally wonderful guy for about 2 mo but we only see each other 2 or 3 times a week and barely ever talk on the phone. Is that normal for a relationship where you go slowly?? A while back someone mentioned about that initial period where you're so in love and spend so much time together and, in thinking back, it seems that only lasted less than a couple of weeks. When we are together, it's lovely, and he's so wonderful but it's also very chaste (aside from a handful of encounters). I guess it's good to go slowly, but it seems he's just not interested in much more than what we've got and I feel like I'm going to spend the rest of my life trying to get him to pay more attention to me and have sex with me. That's not the relationship I was looking for.
So, is this all just because it's going slowly?? I've never done the slow thing so I have no reference point. He isn't seeing anyone else and he does pay attention when he's here, but he's just not really here much. It's been a week since I've seen him, with one hour of talking on the phone (he was out of town last weekend) and I've really started forgetting him (I'm HORRIBLE at long distance because I forget people when I don't see or talk to them) so, at this point, it feels like it'd be easier to just continue to not see him than to get together and be reminded of how much I like him and go back to wishing I could be with him more. He's never had a long term relationship and I don't think he really knows how to, but I also keep thinking he's just not that into me, even though he tells me all the time that he is.
and, on top of that, my life has been one financial crisis after another since my ex moved out last summer so I feel like I'm constantly battling depression and panic over money and that I need to put on a happy face about it with him (not that he's asked me to, it's my issue). He's such a stable, responsible guy and I feel like such a screw up for my life being the wreck that it is.
on the bright side, ex and my family are pitching in for childcare so I get 6 hours a day to work, which will hopefully help with the financial sitch, if only the economy would start turning :P