It's funny you post b/c I was reading your post pretty intently and relating. I too am guilty of not being able to "believe" it when men are nice to me...I used to seek out men who just didn't like me *that* much, so I could *make* them like me---weird to look back on. I always liked men who liked their addictions more than me. I wanted to be the *one* who would save them.
With your situation, it looks like you've got a man who is either super sweet beyond measure, or very insecure. I'm sorry if that seems harsh, but I think it helps to look at things realistically sometimes, yes? I hope, hope, hope he's sweet for you, of course, but keep your eye on the other possibility too.
Why does he have no phone "right now"? That is an interesting thing.
I am a survivor of violence too--it is amazing to get through the process. Accept that it is a process--your trust in other people has been violated because of what someone chose to inflict on you...it's a crazy power thing. Our job is to get through it strong and not let them take more than they already have. You don't want the repercussions to ruin your chance at trusting someone who won't do this to you...it's really freaking hard though. I'm crying as I write this to you because it sucks that people want to hurt others...also I'm PMSing. :LOL
Staying open while staying alert & smart...we can help each other with this. Stay connected.