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post #61 of 147
wheee! we are all on such wild rides -the rides of self-knowledge and discovery.

It is fun to share all of this together. :
post #62 of 147
I just got an email from a guy that who's profile I just happened to come across on match. I noticed that they had a new "who's favorited me" or something like that and just so happened to click on it. There was this profile of a guy who was kind of cute, not drop dead gorgeous, but cute in a different sort of way, really nice smile. So, I decided to read his profile. He sounds so nice! So, he sent me a wink, I winked back, and then came home tonight to find that he emailed me. He actually has a nice sense of humor and ACTUALLY read my profile, cause he mentioned something that I had in my profile. He even WROTE stuff, as compared to the usual, hi, want to chat, or hi, you're a cutie.

I'm shocked. He has a little girl who's 7. It's just so weird, because I don't ever remember seeing his profile, and it was almost by accident that I happened to see his.

He actually seems human as compared to some of those guys (and I use that term loosely) that try and contact you online.

So, I wrote him back, hopefully he'll think I'm ok enough to keep talking with, and if he doesn't, then his loss.
post #63 of 147
yay, Jessica! I hope it works out! Is this the 1st guy who seems promising?


I have plans to spend the night with the guy I've been seeing this weekend.
Waking up together in the am... sigh
post #64 of 147
I'm still going along, taking it slowly with my guy. We've had more talking, made some progress, but it's still slow. I do believe he's worth the wait, but, dang, the waiting is hard. I'm getting lots of time to take care of myself and the house, which is good, but it does get lonely.

so excited for all of you!!
post #65 of 147
Molly,
Yes, he is the first one who seems promising. I just can't get over the fact that he actually mentioned stuff I had in my profile!! Like he really read it! I don't know why, but I'm really shocked. Add to that his email was just really nice and had substance. Like I said, I'm just so used to the want to chat, or the you're a cutie, or just hi.

Is there a rule with online dating that if it seems too nice to be true, it probably is? LOL
post #66 of 147
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Is there a rule with online dating that if it seems too nice to be true, it probably is? LOL
Not IME. But if he seems a little off, he probably is. Even if he doesn't, he might be.
post #67 of 147
this wasn't supposed to happen.

i'm not used to dealing with sweet, attentive guys. i texted him last night saying i'd be coming down 10/25 for a halloween party. he called at 830 this morning "just to check in" and said he'll try to come up for a visit between now and then. oh, and he's calling after work tonight too.

wow.

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post #68 of 147
I'm just popping in here from fantastic relationship bliss land to say things are going well for me, too. :

I just can't wrap my head around how hard and fast I fell for this guy, and that he feels the same way. We've only been technically seeing each other for a month (though we've been friends and have had mutual friends for much longer), but I already feel like I can't live without him. No, that's not right, I'm very confidant in the fact that I don't need anybody, but I sure don't want to live without him.

We've already had most of those very serious important talks, and I've felt really good coming out of them. It's strange how similarly we look at things. Or maybe he's just very agreeable. Wait, that's definitely not it. : Like the future, living together, marriage (that is, how we'd feel about it hypothetically... I kind of ran from the topic like a club fire ), whether or not I'd/he'd want to have kids in the future, his job search, money, my future in my job, and last night he brought up that he plans to make enough money to be able to support me and my kids. I looked at him like he had two heads. I said "You don't have to say stuff like that, you're in, I like you." He's all, no, I'm serious, what would be wrong with that? I can see you'd rather just be with your kids and do your own thing. It freaked me out. I can't imagine what would make him want to support me and my kids. He said he'd be happier living in a small house and living a simple life with me and them than being a yuppie american dream chaser. But I see a lot more options than just those two. Whatever, he's sweet, I like that he's thinking like that, but we've got plenty of time to work out those details.
post #69 of 147

for lunar

glad things are going swimmingly with you

...and the rest of you fab ladies too. we SO deserve this!!!
post #70 of 147
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Originally Posted by caspian's mama View Post

for lunar

glad things are going swimmingly with you

...and the rest of you fab ladies too. we SO deserve this!!!
Thanks CP, me too. And I'm pretty darn happy to hear about your boy-fun, too.

And yeah, all us great mamas deserve this.:
post #71 of 147
"man"-fun, you mean. he's definitely older than me, which is weird because i've rarely dated more than 2 years outside my age range, but very nice because he feels a bit more solid. and he understands my ol' lady aches and pains, haha. and he's slooooooooooooooow and squooshy and kind and and and...

seriously, i could go on all day. i still feel so pleased with where my life's headed (meaning *ALONE*) but this is a divine, albeit unexpected, "side project" to keep me toasty warm over the winter.
post #72 of 147
oooooh, man-fun sounds even better. I'm so happy for you and your little adventure!
post #73 of 147
Thread Starter 
I forgot to mention (he is open to having another baby, and so am i)

We are getting ready to go to my parents for dinner, he will meet them for the first time . I usually wait to have them meet parents until I am pretty serious We have just slid into this perfect fit and though I haven't decided about the baby yet (I am kinda old) as long as things keep going this way I am in for the long haul
post #74 of 147
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by caspian's mama View Post
"man"-fun, you mean. he's definitely older than me, which is weird because i've rarely dated more than 2 years outside my age range, but very nice because he feels a bit more solid. and he understands my ol' lady aches and pains, haha. and he's slooooooooooooooow and squooshy and kind and and and...

seriously, i could go on all day. i still feel so pleased with where my life's headed (meaning *ALONE*) but this is a divine, albeit unexpected, "side project" to keep me toasty warm over the winter.
Have fun, enjoy every minute
post #75 of 147
I listened to the whole sugarcubes song!

So, wow, I am celebrating with you mamas! Good stuff.
post #76 of 147
yah, i bjork.

bk, wow! rock on w your bad self!
post #77 of 147

one year meetaversary

today is d's and my one year meetaversary. he makes me very very splendidly happy. he surprised me tonight with a spectacular diamond necklace.
post #78 of 147
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Hmm maybe I should have written obviuosly its a problem for him. I have no problem with him being childless and younger - I think its great - but I think he thinks its a problem. I mean - if you are 29, hoping to start your own family - then a single mom of three wouldnt be your obvious first choice. Or maybe he just didnt find me all that interesting We will see..
I get this because I felt/feel this way about the guy I'm dating. He's younger and I just assumed that he wouldn't really be interested in me because I'm older with kids. When we met, I didn't even have any intentions other than friendship...but I ended up falling for him. And apparently he likes me, lol. Don't sell yourself short!
post #79 of 147
Things have been kinda up and down for me in this regard. I've decided to not focus on "relationships" and stuff for a while. I always knew it was too soon, it's just hard to be alone for me. I still love reading about everyone's happiness, though! But for now... I think I'll take a step back.
post #80 of 147
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I forgot to mention (he is open to having another baby, and so am i)

We are getting ready to go to my parents for dinner, he will meet them for the first time . I usually wait to have them meet parents until I am pretty serious We have just slid into this perfect fit and though I haven't decided about the baby yet (I am kinda old) as long as things keep going this way I am in for the long haul



Oh my god! I'm so happy for you! That all sounds very familiar, actually. We already had the baby talk and he's very open, but he said he'd be pretty happy to just be in my kids' life and not have any of his own if that's what I want. I have no idea there whether I want to ever have another baby or not, both options scare the pants off me.

We're talking about him moving in. Not now, but that's the plan as soon as he gets a good job. I'm terrified and thrilled at the same time.


ETA: Seie, grisandole is right, we've all been there, but you shouldn't sell yourself short!
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