Originally Posted by SeekingJoy
I can't even think about this without tearing up. How terrible and difficult it must be for that mom. As someone who is constantly sleep deprived, I can so understand how it could happen to someone.
: I didn't have a chance to see this episode and I'm not even sure of the story, so I'm not exactly "defending" her per se. I don't know that specific story. I just wanted to throw my 2 cents into the mix about mistakes mothers (and fathers) make.
I have 3 under 3. I've given birth to 2. When my baby was just 9 months old, an old friend of mine lost custody of her 1 month old baby. As such, we ended up with an "unexpected" baby...one who has severe colic. I have spent many days making many stupid mistakes. Most of them are really minor, harmless.
About a week and a half ago, after our scheduled supervised visitation for our foster daughter with her parents, I took the 3 babies to the store to buy some groceries. They were hungry, crabby, and in extreme need of a nap. On the way out, they all cried. As I changed diapers in the car and gave my foster baby a bottle, they cried. I loaded them up, exhausted and overwhelmed, and off we went on our 1 hour long ride home.
When we pulled into our garage, I went to take them out of the car. As I got to my 3 year old son who had been the quietest of the bunch back at the store, I realized I'd made a grave mistake: he had clipped the top clip of his Britax car seat up anticipating me finishing the bottom. But I forgot and when I glanced over at him, the top clip was done...I overlooked the rest. We drove the entire one hour ride home without his crotch clip of the 5 point done up.
Now I consider myself a good mom. I breastfeed and wash their hands all the time. I am a freak about safety. They have Britax car seats, and I won't let anyone else clip them in...I'm too worried it won't be tight enough or safe enough.
But I goofed. I thank God every time I think about it that my little boy is safe. I know how unbelievable serious this could have been and regret it every minute. I'm a good mom. I was stressed. I was overwhelmed. Sometimes, these things happen.
Before that happened, I was one of those moms who said I "never" did anything seriously wrong like that. Funny how life has a way of humbling you...
My heart breaks for that mom. She will suffer every minute of every day she's alive. She knows she made a mistake. She didn't intentionally kill her child. She made a bad judgement call. So did I. I'm human.