Nudity?

[LuluMama]

Just wondering how old you all think is too old to parade around naked in front of the kids. I have a 3 1/2 year old who doesn't let me out of his sight and still enjoys the big bath tub with Mama or Daddy...but I'm starting to wonder when we should stop doing it- especially ME and the kids, not so much my husband, since we have boys...

[True Blue]

Depends what you are comfortable with, really. If you make nudity a big deal, it will be one. If you don't, it won't be.

[ledzepplon]

I think as soon as someone is uncomfortable with it, then it's time to stop.

[dani0930]

I have no real problem with nudity at any age BUT I also think once anyone (parent or child) feels uncomfortable then maybe it is time to stop. To me it is just a body and have no shame in being nude around my son. Maybe I will feel differently when he is older but it is doubtful. Your question reminded me of a funny story though... A few months back my husband made a comment that maybe I should not be naked around my son any longer. Ummm yeah don't be naked around him but he is still nursing. LOL it made me laugh.

[Vancouver Mommy]

We rarely parade. Our apartment is too small for a full marching band anyway. We are naked alot though, and nobody really seems bothered yet.

[butterfly_mommy]

Originally Posted by Vancouver Mommy

We rarely parade. Our apartment is too small for a full marching band anyway. We are naked alot though, and nobody really seems bothered yet.

laughup

That made me laugh I was envisioning a naked marching band

[ChetMC]

We Also Use the Nobody Bother Rule

I like the, "as long as everybody is comfortable" approach. Our girls are three and four and nobody is uncomfortable so far.

[Mama Poot]

I have a 3yo and 2yo, both boys, and we're naked lots of the time around here. I don't think either one of them understands what naked is yet. all they know is that it feels good to not wear clothes and they run around and act silly when they're not wearing them I do have one clothing requirement, and that's for my nursing 2yo. He has to at least wear underwear while nursing. NNN (No Naked Nursing!) otherwise he'll play with his pee pee the whole time he's nursing and giggle

[emcare]

Originally Posted by ledzepplon

I think as soon as someone is uncomfortable with it, then it's time to stop.

exactly.

[eclipse]

Yep, if anyone is uncomfortable, then that's when it should stop.

[eurobin]

When will I give up being incidentally naked? Umm... probably never.

My household is just DD and me. We're both girls, neither of us has a sexual partner, etc. I'm quite comfortable with incidental nudity in general (ie, traveling from the bathroom to the bedroom after a shower) and I imagine that I'll treat any potential embarassment re: incidental household nudity similarily to how I'll treat her embarrassment when I tell her I love her when I drop her off for school (when she's older, of course... right now she doesn't care).

Of course, my answer would be vastly different if she had friends over or if either one of us had a partner in the house.

But I can't necessarily get on board with the "as long as everyone is comfortable" approach if my household set-up doesn't change. If it's just me and Anna alone in the house and I make only necessary (non-parading) trips from the bathroom to the bedroom, is that something I need to change or is it something she needs to deal with? I'm going to embarrass her (I'm her mom). So is it really going to make a big impact on her when she's 30 whether I wore a robe after my shower when she was 13 or not?

[LuluMama]

OK yeah, that's pretty much how we feel. It doesn't feel weird yet and he hasn't said anything so I guess it's not an issue yet. Just the other night in the tub I was like, hmmm, should I wear my bathing suit? But he sees me nursing the baby so....

It's all good. Thanks for your responses.

[skolbut]

A friend of mine and I were just laughing about this... recently she went pee with the door open while her son (28ish??) was over with his wife... and the wife was like ummm.... you guys are still ok with this?? LOL. My mama just saw me in all my glory through childbirth, and while I don't regularly get naked in front of her, I wouldn't necessarily have a prob changing around her... so I think in some cases you never get too old. I wouldn't get nudie in front of my dad though, that seems a little odd, although he did see me pumping the other day.

I still change in front of my 6 yo nephew who doesn't mind the nudity but thinks boobs are HILLARIOUS and always cracks some joke about my 'mumbly jumblies', lol. I guess maybe some ppl would be uncomfortable with that and stop changing in front of him, but I don't care.

[angela&avery]

Originally Posted by mrspineau

i think that "parading" might be a little weird but if you're just changing, bathing, or whatever, that's different.

www.miraclemommy.com

too funny...

yeh we just kind of.... do whatever. my kids see me and my husband naked often..... my ds is 7 and my dd is almost 5.

this is the thing though, typically I dont walk around naked like just because.... i mean if I forget something in the bathroom I might go back naked and get something... after my shower I do walk naked to my room to get dressed because that is comfortable for me. i dont want to get dressed in the hot bathroom and I dont want to not have my hair in a towel AND i dont want to use two towels so I go naked to my room. If the kids dont want to see me I would assume they would just not stare at me or come talk to me while im getting dressed.

we dont close doors when we change or anything either. It just is what it is. No apologies, no hiding and no shaming. My kids are usually freely naked but they are both showing signs of modesty with their own bodies on their own as they are getting older, and we respect that.

[jspring0308]

We (DH & I) are quite surprised that DH is still comfortable being naked around our almost 6 DD. She's never shown any interest in his different parts (is actually MUCH more interested in my breasts and now pregnant belly) and none of us feel it's strange to walk in on each other showering or changing. I think with them there will probably be a point at which she feels strange seeing her daddy naked and at that point we'll probably make minor adjustments; I think with me I won't care and if she does she can avoid the nakedness of her parents.

[orangefoot]

My oldest ds is 15 and will chat to me while I am getting dressed after showering. If it bothered him he would wait til I was downstairs! I haven't seen him or his brother aked for along time though.

My dds love to be naked and I have no idea how long that will last.

I think it is important for boys to have a normal woman's body in their lives when all they see around is perfection and skinniness in airbrushed adverts.

[Lizzardbits]

My kids know when I mean business about thorough cleaning when I get nude. I have had too many clothes ruined by bleach or paint or dirt, that I just save the clothes and extra laundry, and just hop in the shower or bath when I am done.

My friends know if the shades are closed during the day, when they knock to give me a bit of time to put a robe or dress on. Also, when we move next door to some good friends of mine and my husband's, they know that Sunday nights are dedicated as "Naked Sundays" at our household--of course we aren't requiring all the kids to be nude, or if every sunday we'll even get nude, but it is a way of saying that the rest of the week may be busy with things outside the home, Sunday evenings is our "our time".

I have always preferred to be naked or with as little restrictive clothing as possible on, and I also want to instill into my children that our bodies-no matter what form they are--are nothing to be ashamed of. Indeed, guard your body from harm, protect it, but never ever be ashamed of it.

[mistymama]

I don't parade around nude, but I also don't hide my body. Ds still showers with me sometimes, or hangs out with me in the bathroom while I get dressed.

I sleep topless and don't bother to put a shirt on before going to the bathroom in the morning. That sort of thing.

Ds is a little nudist, the first thing he does when we get home from school is take all of his clothes off.

I'm comfortable with my body and don't feel the need to hide it. When ds starts requesting more privacy, I will give it to him.

[ann_of_loxley]

When they express that they are uncomfortable with it - then its a good idea to respect that. Until then, I dont see problem. Everyone had a body and they are nothing to be ashamed of. DS and I often walk around the house naked lol (hes the only one that runs around in our garden naked though! lmao)

My kids know when I mean business about thorough cleaning when I get nude. I have had too many clothes ruined by bleach or paint or dirt, that I just save the clothes and extra laundry, and just hop in the shower or bath when I am done.

I do this as well - we also paint in the nude!...Must easier to wash the paint off my skin than to end up with ruined clothing! hehe

[Draupadi]

My DH is a complete nudist so he's always nude, and DS sees me naked all the time when I change my clothes or get in and out of the shower. He's only 16mo, but I do notice him noticing different parts of my body. Lately, he looks at my pubic area (maybe because he rarely sees it!) and I point it out to him. I don't want nakedness to be huge deal to him.
Anyway, I think it will be a while before I'm uncomfortable being naked around DS.