I don't want to play with my child. - Page 2

[lilyka]

I didn't want to do stuff with myelf in th third trimester. Madeline was right in the midle of learning to read and I freakd out one day because I could not listen to her sound out one more freaking word. We both got through it OK. it was a growing experiance for both of us.

[CarsonBookworm]

((Hugs))

I have friends that are going through the same thing right now.

[hattifattener]

Thanks for the loving responses, mamas!

About having a mother's helper for some time off, the embarassing thing is that she just started a five-day-a-week preschool. She LOVES it, but it's sooooo much more time away from home then I was imagining for her. (They're short days, but still.) And for various reasons it's our only preschool option.

Anyway, I totally thought that a bit of time apart would fix all our problems, even though there is still a good seven hours of continuous contact every day, not even counting the long mornings before school starts.

Some of your suggestions have really helped me; choosing / seeking out activities that I can stand. Tonight we made stamps out of potatos.

Now if I could just stand up to the inevitable guilt tripping- I play with her for an hour, and then say "Now Mommy's gonna take a break", and all of a sudden she bursts out with "I feel like you don't play with meeee!"

[chirp]

ugh...that would break my heart too...

don't feel bad about the daycare situation...like pp's said...you're pregnant. i couldn't keep my mind straight my third trimester and i didn't have another child to take care of!!

she's definitely feeling like she needs more attention. and she could also be picking up on your anxiety about stopping the play time. they're sensitive little buggers, they are.

do what you can. when you can. and always let her know that you love her.

i'm assuming you explained to her that your body is working really hard to keep mommy and baby healthy...so you need extra rest? she might get it...and then you can choose more relaxing games. Like spa (my own single mother's favorite down time game, lol) or something else that fits your daughter's temperament?

[ann_of_loxley]

I will also suggest you find a way to play with her that you do enjoy. Easier said than done sometimes. Im not even pregnant, but sadly ive become a boring adult and I often just do not find any fun in playing the things my son wants me to play with him. So sometimes I have bought him toys that I know we will both enjoy as a comporise. Also, I take a book with me everywhere. I can play ball with him or wander around the park or go down to the river to throw sticks in the stream with him...hes happy I am with him and playing...and I am happy that really I am reading a good book. lol I started this when getting from point A to point B took f-o-r-e-v-e-r! lol...In order to keep my cool and let DS carry on, because there was really nothing wrong with what he was doing - I just needed help in the patience department lol...I could whip out my book and tuck in and before you know it, we got there and we both enjoyed it! Seems to be working for other things too now though hehe
Also - the more I get togther with other mums and children, the better it is...because the more hes playing with the other children and not really needing/wanting me. Some days I just wish I lived in a commune for this very factor! lol

[thefragile7393]

I don't have any advice, as you've gotten plenty of that, but I do feel I know what you mean. My son is younger of course, but he still wants the same thing, and I'm almost 38 weeks and I WHOM for now and I am just butt-tired. It's very very hard.