Part of it may be that Kyler (that has the mean teacher) talks out of turn, talks while in line and one time he threw a book. NOW, him throwing a book is very out of the ordinary for him. He doesn't throw items like that unless he's very very upset and even then, it's rarely happened at home. He knows to respect books (among other items). So DH and I wonder, what caused him to throw the book? We will never know, I am sure.
I appreciate ALL of your responses. I DO. I'm making notes left and right and am going to tidy them up a few days before the meeting. DH is going to talk to his bosses on Monday about getting the meeting day off. MIL is figuring out how she can be here to watch the kids. We do *NOT* want the kids at the meeting no matter what. There will be negative talk, so I do not want them overhearing that.
I've thought about this a lot and I've noticed the boys have become much more sensitive since school started. Now, this could be a response they'd give even if their experiences were always positive. But it pains me to see them like this. Not even a week into school, Kyler began saying, "You don't like me!" in response to myself or DH anytime we ask him to simply pick up toys or similar! This has trickled down to my DD (4 y/o) and she now says it. UGH!
rabrog - Sorry, I thought I explained that - they were 7 weeks premature. We've been told by numerous peds that they have weakened immune systems due to this. We've been told they will catch up to their peers by around 7 years of age approximately. Kyler was almost admitted into the hospital 8 days ago as his o2 sats were that bad. We were doing breathing treatments for him every 2-3 hours. Cameron was in extreme pain from his sinus/ear infection. He would cry almost the entire night and cry off and on through out the day and that was with pain medications.
I don't keep them home for the sniffles. Heck, I sent them to school one day when they were coughing a bit.. and I got the worst looks from other parents. The following day they were doing so badly that I kept them home (two days later was when the dr almost put Kyler in the hosp).
I've talked to Kyler's teacher (the mean one) about being positive in her talks with me when both boys (and in the afternoon, I have DD as well - so all three kids) are near. She apparently didn't get the hint.. which wasn't a hint, I was blunt.
I feel as though I must be missing something obvious for the staff to be like this. But the one book throwing incident, Cameron going into the girls bathroom, Kyler talking out of turn and then when in line, Kyler getting into the 2nd graders line and not his own, and twice they both didn't line up when the whistle was blown at the end of recess. I've been around kids their age plenty of times in my life, I've seen similar things happen with other children. But are mine the only ones doing these things in that school?
Anyway, thank you all again. Any other comments are appreciated. I want to make a good list of points we need to talk about and go in prepared.. they won't tell me what the point of the meeting is specifically. So I feel the need to arm myself in anyway I can.
After the meeting I may look into HSing more and more. We have quite a bit of support from family (my Dad and MIL, both of which are NOT crunchy, so we were shocked they both suggested HSing before we told them about our thoughts!). So that really helps. I do have time and the energy, I am SAHM (have been since before the boys birth in 2002).