1 Hs'ers opinion
**I'm replying based off the OP, haven't read the entire thread yet**
I'll start by saying I had a very sick little boy last year during the 6months of public school kindergarten he attended. He missed somewhere over 30 days in that time from the various gastro type illnesses that ripped through the class. However I was lucky in that his teacher was great and always reminded me that prep wasn't 'mandatory' , and thus it wasn't an issue.
I'd personally pull them (as I did with my son
for a lot of reasons. Having a kindergarten teacher who is THAT negative is really going to encourage him to love learning and school?
I pulled my son because obviously his immune system was being battered beyond belief.. took him 4 weeks to recover from the chicken pox when he got them just when I withdrew him! It sounds like your twins have medical issues that full time school makes very difficult to manage.. they aren't going to get as much out of school if they can't BE there, and if they are unwell, they shouldn't be there. ETA: The fact that they will NOT tell you how many excused/unexcused absences are allowed to still pass the grade is suspicious. I think I'd be giving the superintendent a ring and speaking to someone with a clue, and hopefully a bit more professionalism than the ppl running the school!
Regarding the meeting, I would flat out tell them that if they can't be flexible about the meeting date so that BOTH of you can be there, that there just wouldn't be a meeting. You are not a school employee and they do not get to dictate to you. Adults compromise, sounds like they need to learn that. I do not think it is unreasonable that both of you wish to be there, and be involved in your childrens educational process at all. Their comment that he doesn't NEED to be there is pretty da*n dismissive and rude. ETA: They won't TELL you what the PURPOSE of the meeting is AND there are going to be about 7 people there and just you with your 3 kid? I don't think so.. that is ridiculous IMO. Also, they are bringing in behavioral experts for silly simple incidents that happened about a month ago?? Way to waste taxpayer dollars there *rolleyes*
I would seriously put the foot down about when the meeting is.. the 'behavioral experts' can just have another bloody meeting some other time tyvm.
All that in mind, and I'm sure someone has said it
Socialization is probably the last thing to be concerned about. There are hs groups and coops nearly everywhere. I'm actually concerned my kids are going to get TOO much socialization this term with all the activities planned