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Got my first "twins" comment

post #1 of 14
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I got my first "twins" comment tonight. We were leaving a restaurant and one of the hostesses asked me:

Hostess: How many months are you?
Me: Eight months.
Hostess: Really? And it's just one?
Me: Yeah, just one.
Hostess: Oh...boy or girl?
Me: Girl.

Disclaimer: I am 8 months pregnant...I am not (nor should I be) small.

The thing that annoyed me the most about it all was how her jaw hit the floor when I told her it was just one. Give me a break. I've gained 27 pounds (average) and I'm nearly 36 weeks pregnant :

I started getting asked about twins about a week or so before DS was born, so maybe this is the end?
post #2 of 14
Oh, yes...I know all about "twin" comments. I even asked my Dr. how I was measuring (maybe I was big??) and he said right on target and looked alittle puzzled as to why I've asked two appt in a row. Then I explained about how everyone is saying how big I am and how I couldn't possibly be carrying just one. His advice was this "You have one of two options, you can just smile and say "My doctor says I'm measuring perfect" or I can kick them in the groin!" haha I love my Doctor!
post #3 of 14
Welcome to the club. I have been getting those comments for at least 2 months now. And I've only gained 10 pounds this whole pregnancy.

Someone suggested to me that maybe not many women are out and about their last month or two of pregnancy. So the general population doesn't really realize how big women get when they are close to term. It's because we're all hiding at home with our big bellies!
post #4 of 14
gosh...why do people say that?!!

I've decided that most people just don't know how to say "congratulations" and leave it alone. They usually decide to just open their mouth and insert their foot by coming up with some really uncalled for comment.

I've decided that all people should be required to tell obviously pregnant woman that they are beautiful.
post #5 of 14
It's so frusterating isn't it? I literally get these type of comments everytime I go anywhere. It's to the point where I don't want anyone commenting on me or my belly at all anymore. I wish people would be more considerate.
post #6 of 14
You'd think someone in a job that is dependent on customer satisfaction would have a LITTLE bit of sense.
post #7 of 14
I have gotten the twins comment several times. I agree with littlehalo that people just don't know what a full-term mom looks like (or an 8 month mom). Let's get out there ladies and educate these people!
post #8 of 14
you know what's funny? the other day a friend of mine looked at me and said "i can totally tell you are only having one this time!" it was hilarious.

and what's more, i only got the "twins" question one time when i was actually pg with twins, and it was from another twin mama. she recognized the enormity for what it was. :

i like the idea of telling pg mamas they are beautiful. i may start doing that.
post #9 of 14
Oh my gosh, I can so relate....this past weekend we were at our niece's baby's baptism, and a woman who had just held our niece's newborn came up to me and said, "And now when is this one due?" I said, "Next month." And she looks me up and down and sort of snort-laughs and says, "Really? Looks more like last month to me!"

I think if we hadn't been in church I would not have been able to resist saying something nasty. LOL.

I am well aware that I look huge for barely 33 weeks. But I always look huge, I carry all out in front like a basketball, and this is my 4th baby in 6 years, so give me a break!
post #10 of 14
Oh, goodness I've been hearing this forever. Last time, it WAS twins, so people who know me keep insisting it's another set (especially since we've been very low-intervention this pregnancy and didn't have an US until quite late). I've got almost 2 months left and am now having complete strangers make these comments (Them: "You must be due any day now!" Me: "End of next month." Them: "Are you sure there's only one?!?").

If it's any consolation, last time when I WAS carrrying two, people stopped asking the "when are you due"-type questions and just immediately said "you must be having twins!".
post #11 of 14
I had someone at Costco say, "You can't possibly get any bigger" when I said I had almost two months left.

I agree with a PP that people just don't know what to say (as if "Congratulations!" isn't enough) so say something, which generally makes the mama feel bad.

Equally as bad (although I've never had this comment, only overheard it said to others) is when people comment on how small a pregnant women is for how far along she is. As if we don't have enough to worry about without people insinuating our babes aren't growing enough (or too much, whatever the case may be).

I like to tell pregnant women that they look perfect and are just the right size!
post #12 of 14
The nerve of some people! I seem to be tiny this time compared to many, but some people just have no idea. I take it all with a grain of salt now... one person implies I'm huge (like the lady in Target a few weeks back who said "Wow, you're about to pop, huh?" - I just smiled and nodded cause I was dealing with a testy toddler, but I had like 7 or 8 weeks left) and then another will turn around and say I'm tiny... Whatever lol. I'm just happy no one has tried to touch my belly
post #13 of 14
I've decided that the next person that says "you're going to have a really big baby" is going to have their intestines pulled out of their mouth and tied around their necks. (Especially when that person is a man who has never been and will never be pregnant.)
post #14 of 14
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Originally Posted by raek622 View Post
I've decided that the next person that says "you're going to have a really big baby" is going to have their intestines pulled out of their mouth and tied around their necks. (Especially when that person is a man who has never been and will never be pregnant.)
laughup so true!
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