have been following your thread, mama, and am sending prayers and light your way. you are doing a GREAT job simply by believing your daughter and taking steps to protect her! i am going through similar circumstances with daughter and her father, it has been hell for us because "official" people don't believe her, although she's disclosed about the abuse to nearly every adult she knows and even a few of her friends.
you handled it great by staying so calm at first!! when i heard the very first revelation from my daughter, i did the same, not knowing if i would influence her memories (she was 3 at the time, i know how their perceptions of reality and fantasy fluctuates at that age). to this day the only thing i tell her is "it's not your fault" and "it's ok to tell" for fear of being accused of coaching her. the "official" people dropped her case because they have to close a case within 60 days and there was no physical evidence
i wouldn't be able to move, you are so brave and resourceful!!
one thing i've learned from the people who are helping us/her is that the full memories may not surface until she's older, perhaps even 8 or 9. i've learned that some kids - the ones not encouraged to bury or deny the abuse - deal with the psychological effects through their teens and even into adulthood, even if it's just one incident at age 3. stay strong for the long haul and keep doing what you're doing!!! {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}
to the perve!
: Worth checking into. If you're advised not to talk about it online, PM a mod and ask them to remove this thread. (I mention this in the unlikely event that you weren't aware you could do that
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