Originally Posted by aileen
mama, she IS above this. and mama, YOU are above this. you are saving her. you are a hero, mama, and my heart is bursting with love that you are championing the cause of your daughter's glorious innocence. you are proving to her that she is truly, wholly, valuable and that she will always be above and is no longer in, that terrible moment.
i tearfully commend you. and i'm so so sorry that this happened.
Thank you for this, and all the other mommas out there that have said similar things. The reassurance that I am doing the best I can is just so comforting. I know I'm doing the right thing, but it means sooooo much more to hear it from other moms I respect.
I still just can't believe it. I believe HER, I just can't wrap my head around such an atrocious act. I look at my DD's sweet face, and God, she just looks like this little angel, and I imagine her fearful face trapped in that corner and a part of me just dies. How can anyone EVER think that is OK?! She's just a BABY. Parts of me just want to beat the crap out of him, and yet another part of me is praying for him and his family. I know he'll get his comeuppance when he meets his maker. I'm not a very religious person, but am very spiritual... sort of a religious mutt, and I know with every fiber of my being that whatever wonderful entity created this world, our magnificent bodies and minds, and these beautfiul babies cannot let this deed go unpunished.
DH is still in denial. Again, he believes her, just still hasn't really accepted it. When he first started reading this thread before we took any action, he just hung his head in his hands and cried. All he wants to do is have "angry **x", and I just can't get that image out of my head so we're both running on fumes. We've remained loving and holding hands and other forms of touch, but pretty much physical stuff is out. I know with counseling we'll get better.
Now I'm trying to find a place to move to so that we can move as soon as we get back. She's so worried about it still. Every few hours she pipes up with "mommy, I don't ever want to go back to that mean house, I want to live at the beach house forever."
Me too, kid.