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post #41 of 366
Mandi, I'm sorry you're not getting the help you need. That has got to be rough. Do you have any neighbors, friends or family that you could ask to come and help for a few days until you get a little more recovered? Maybe your mw would even know of someone? I don't know where you are, but if we were close I'd totally loan you one of my older girls to come and help out. At the very least, maybe you could let the cleaning and sweeping slide for now and only do the bare minimum for the next few days. I'll be thinking of you!


Carrie - How's your swelling today? Hope you have a good day shopping.


I'm afraid ds and I have yeast. Ugh! I posted earlier about an itchy rash on my belly and ds having a diaper rash. After treating both of us with some Lotrimin cream just twice both rashes are already much better which makes me think it's indeed yeast. Then last night I noticed my left nipple was really sore throughout the feed, and it's bright pink and very tender even between feeds. I also had a couple of those sharp shooting pains inside that breast later in the night and a couple of times today. I distinctly remember what thrush felt like, and I'm pretty sure that's what we're dealing with. I'm going to paint my nipple with Gentian Violet, and I'm going to get some GSE and will go full blast with attacking the yeast. GSE is what finally cured us of thrush when I had it a few years ago with my 6th baby, and that was after trying everything under the sun including prescriptions. At least I don't see any in ds's mouth, and even though I feel the symptoms of it they are much milder than when I had it before. I hope I'm catching it at the beginning, and maybe it'll be easier to clear this time. I'm bummed about it, though. I so didn't want to deal with this.
post #42 of 366
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Peeking out from under my rock to just kinda give a general update on myself and on Nora, of course. I'm feeling much better in general about everything, of course I'm still devastated about losing our nursing relationship, but the reality is sinking in that it's not the end of the entire universe. She is still my little girl. Nothing has *really* changed, it's just slightly different than I planned.

I'm drinking tons of milkmaid tea and trying to do my best to pump. Best of the worst case scenario, I'll have a ton saved for her to have (if it turns out she can have it) and whatever I have saved is better than nothing.

Ok - but onto other things. I just tucked Nora into my Moby D wrap for the first time. OMGosh, she is so freaking ADORABLE in it!!! She looks like a little marsupial! And can I just say, I put her in it and she fell right asleep? This girl, who has been awake or crying the entire day almost, just seriously passed out? And I have 2 hands free for the first time in almost 3 hours?!? Wow!

I peeked at my girl bits today as well. I promised myself I wouldn't but I couldn't help it. Yikes. It looks a lot worse than it feels, for sure. My bleeding has almost completely ended, so that makes me happy. I forgot how annoying having "a period" is with the constant changing of pads and whatnot.

I'm also down about 18 lbs! I can't believe it! Nora is only 9 days old, and I'm beyond thrilled that I won't have 50 whole lbs to lose once I'm able to work out again. I'm not out of maternity jeans yet. Maybe if I had some normal jeans in a 10 or 12 they would work, but unfortunately everything I have is a 6 or an 8, which I can't get over my hips/thighs. Hopefully things start to go back to where they were soon!

I hope everyone else is doing well with their babies!
post #43 of 366
We're doing pretty good. I'm having problems with engorgement in my left breast so Ally Rae can't really latch or suckle very well but we're trying. She's doing so great on the right side though! I'm doing what I can to help relieve the engorgement and was just reading a thread all about it. I'm going to send DH or my Mom out for a cabbage! I'm able to manually express but I can't get the hardness to go away. I swear my boobs have doubled in size since my milk came in last night. It's rediculous.

Ally Rae was doing a lot of spitting up yesterday (to the point that I called my Doula to see if it was normal, and she said it was) so we changed her feedings to a shorter time and made them more frequent. Needless to say, this hindered my sleeping A LOT. But, she hasn't spit up once since my milk came in so that's good. Her cord is looking great and she seems to be a very happy baby! She already wants to nurse when she gets upset like when Daddy changes her diaper or after her bath last night. It's so sweet to know that she's already so fond of that comfort.

My bleeding has really decreased and my soreness is getting much better! I'm also afraid to look down there Carrie! I'm not going to do it. I will say that it's nice to see that those parts have gotten over the pregnancy swelling (noticed that when I was changing my pad and spraying my Mama Spray). I'm down half of the weight I gained so I'm thrilled that I'm within 13lbs of my pre pregnancy weight! I can totally take care of that! The shape of my waist has already changed a ton and from the front, it's hard to tell I ever had a belly. I cannot tell you how happy that makes me! No stretch marks either! How did I get away so fortunate?!

I'm going to try to catch up on this thread as I can. Right now, I need to eat while DH has Ally so I'm gonna find some food. Oh, is anyone else just not wanting to eat much? I can't eat full meals. I get full after just a few bites. I'd rather graze. Is the caloric requirements the same for BF'ing as it is for pregnancy?
post #44 of 366
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Originally Posted by TaraRae82 View Post
Oh, is anyone else just not wanting to eat much? I can't eat full meals. I get full after just a few bites. I'd rather graze. Is the caloric requirements the same for BF'ing as it is for pregnancy?
I'm surprised you're not ravenous! I was eating like crazy - but I'm sure everyone is different. I think the requirement is slightly higher than it is for pregnancy. Eat what you can. Your appetite will catch up!

I'm glad that everything seems to be going well, though! Ally Rae is so cute!
post #45 of 366
I didn't have much appetite for the first several days pp this time, but it's picked up now. I don't know if it's because ds is taking more milk from me or what. I think you need more calories while breastfeeding than while pregnant, but I can't remember how many. I just always eat when I'm hungry and don't really count calories.

Ds is a poop machine! He even went in the bathtub last night and had just gone before he got in. I'm glad we're using cloth, and I'm glad I stocked up on nb covers. We haven't had any leaks with the cloth diapers either.

Last night ds slept 6hrs straight, then woke and ate and went right back to sleep for another 2hrs. It felt so good to get a good chunk of sleep at once like that. I wonder what the chances are that he'll do it again tonight?

As for me, I'm bouncing back much quicker this time. I have lots of energy, and at 11days pp I'm only 4-5lbs away from my pre-pregnancy weight.: The only other time I've done that was with my 1st baby. I guess all the exercise during this pregnancy is paying off. I kept my total weight gain at 25lbs as opposed to my usual 40-50lbs gain. I still have work to do, though, because I started this pregnancy about 20lbs over what I want to be. I feel confident though that I can get it off and am looking forward to getting into some serious exercising in a few weeks.

Hope all the new mommies and babies out there are doing well!
post #46 of 366
I was super hungry for about 3 days PP but me appetite has settled some. I'm not sure what my weight is compared to pre-preg but I can fit 12's over my hips comfortably but need to lose a bit more belly in order to button them. I can't get my 10's on though. I'm satisfied with the way I look at 1 wk PP.

I too am really looking forward to doing some crunches, etc. here soon.

I've been sleeping on the couch most of the night b/c it's easiwer to nurse but I slept in bed for the first whole night last night b/c Annie is better about nursing on her side. My pelvis was really sore when i woke up though. it feels like it hasn't been put back yogether yet.

DH goes back to work tomorrow (he works out of the house) He has a huge workload so i'll have to work extra hard to keep the kids from distracting him... a lot of times it's more work than when he's gone.

My spirits are the highest they have ever been PP which I'm thankful for. especially considering my mom and sis who live 45 min. away haven't even called to congratulate about the baby.
post #47 of 366
Hey Ladies,

I'm over here managing. This is SO difficult. My engorgement is finally starting to cease. I used cabbage and heat last night so this morning, Julien was able to do a little sucking. Besides that, I'm extra sore. I was so prepared for a vaginal delivery. I just went for a check up and 10 minutes later found myself getting a C-section. Out the window went my birth plan, doula, or any hope for having DP at the delivery. It was all so fast but now my pain is crazy. I've been trying to adjust to having to sleep on the couch with the baby. The pain meds are just not quite enough to take away the pain.

Besides that, I'm in love with my LO. I just always feel like I'm out of hands to do things. As far as eating, for the first few days of breastfeeding, I was SO hungry. Maybe because they didn't let me have any food for 2 days after delivering. Now, I'm not as hungry...and I feel like my weight is dropping little by little. I'll check back with you guys later (baby is somehow sleeping). He decided to come on the same day that my new classes began...so now I'm REALLY busy.

Janasmom-sorry no one has called. I've had some phone calls, but not ONE person has wanted to come see me or the baby. And after having the c-section, I could use all of the help that I can get.

I wish I could try on some jeans, but I'm sure it would hurt way too much to have something around my waist (the incision) right now.
post #48 of 366
Man, I shouldn't have waited to long to start in on this thread....

I hear you all on the engorgement. OMG- I get it so badly every time. I got an rx for abx because I thought it was already turning into mastitis but it's going away on it's own and I'm taking gse and probiotics just in case.

I guess the oversupply is causing poop issues. He went through like 30 diapers yesterday and has a little rash. Fortunately he's a wonderfully happy baby and only cries when he gets his diaper changed so I'm not real worried there's something wrong so much as that it just pours through him. He's threw up twice today, almost a whole feeding. I think he's getting over full.

Just a PSA- if you ever feel like a bumbling idiot incapable of caring for this small person, it's not just you. This is my fourth baby and I still feel so green and terrified half the time. It's really frustrating. I should be good at this!

My bleeding has been so minor that I was shocked and although I didn't get even a teeny tear, my tailbone is still killing me!

So weird, I haven't had any appetite either.

Did anyone do anything with the placenta? I encapsulated half of mine and made the rest into smoothies. They were actually good!
post #49 of 366
My engorgement is finally under control. I had my Mom get me a manual pump and used it 2x and had Ally Rae nurse that side immediately after using it. I only used it long enough to get the nipple to soften. She'll latch on that side now but still won't suckle for long. She also likes to be held differently on one side than the other....so picky! I have to use the football hold on my left side or she refuses. She likes to be held across my front for the right side but I have to hold her with my left arm (my hand under her head...you know what I mean). My 2 stitches are a bit sore and my tailbone is definitely sore Changed! I finally had my first PP BM night before last and had no probs at all. I had another one last night that was much more significant but soft and it caused a bit of burning. Thank goodness for New Mama Bottom Spray!
post #50 of 366
Well I'm somewhere between over tired and over whelmed most of the time.... but sometimes I get hit with a overwhelming feeling of being blessed to and almost cry from that... my hormones must be a mess lol!

We had Samuel's first Portraits made yesterday evening, yikes I wanted naked baby pics.... but the little stinker peed on me at least three times, pooped on me twice, and spit up on me once!! Oh well I think we got some great pics.. can't wait to see them LOL!

We are having some strange latch issues I can't quite figure out I think I need to talk to my LLL leader and see if she knows what's up. He doesn't seem to like my right side much at all, it's a huge fight to get him to latch on, and even when he does half the time he won't suck hard enough to get milk (and I'm not engorged!). It's getting to the point already where I have over supply in my left breast (his fav) and definitely much less if not a under supply in the right. Little twerp.

I also am having horrid tail bone pain especially if I lay in bed, but then I had SPD in pregnancy and it's still here almost 2 weeks PP.... ugh I've been in to my chiro once, but I need to see her again.

My DH has been home since the birth, but he'll be going back to work on the 15th (this Weds)... I'm a little concerned how things will work once he goes back, since as it is we are both still busy all day long just trying to keep basic needs done for everyone. I know we'll survive... but I think the big boys will go into Daddy withdrawal.. which may be rather ugly for the first few days .

Well it's almost lunch time, and I am one of those BF'ng Mamas that is starving all the time.. so I guess I'll go for now.

TTYL girls,
~Rae~
post #51 of 366
Ahh, peace and quiet for a few moments Well, here we are, just survived our first 2 weeks of parenting 2 children. Makes me wonder why I made such a big deal about just one kid, oh yea...he was a handful even though there was just one of him. Now, the stress has come from going from one child to two. Especially because my first is only 22mths old and is a giant handful!!! The baby is fairly easy, it's juggling both of them that is the challenge!!

I have come to the point of extreme exhaustion. My NB, Oliver, is a great kid overall...he just prefers to have his wide awake moments in the middle of the night for like 1 1/2 hr stretches!! He is not fussing, he is just awake and nursing ALOT. He wakes up about every 2 hrs through the night to nurse, and then throwing in that one giant awake period, and you could say mom is a total zombie come morning!! Then around 9am or so, he just goes back into his sleepy mode, waking every couple of hours to nurse. The one great thing is that he got weighed today at our 2 week home visit, and he went from 7.4 last Sunday, to 8.8 today!! She was amazed to say the least. She said it is most common for newborns to gain an ounce a day so she was hoping for 7.12ish... So needless to say my preemie is not looking much preemie anymore and is starting to fill out pretty fast! Makes all the long nursing sessions so much better to know that my milk is making him chubby.

Ok, my eyes are starting to droop...guess I should go get some shut eye right now while DH has the toddler with him out and about, and my little Ollie is napping right now...

Glad to hear we are not alone in this new, fun, and crazy time!!!
post #52 of 366
Rae, I hear ya on the crazy emotions! I was in bed last night and had Ally Rae on my chest and DH was asleep. I couldn't help but just lay there and cry....a happy cry but it was very overwhelming to feel that way. It's like an abundance of love in our house and I'm just not sure how to deal with it! I don't know what I'll do when Ryan goes back to work. We're also still dealing with the boob preference. Let me know if you find a way to fix that. She'll latch and suckle for only a few seconds at a time and gets really pissy and frustrated if I try on that side for too long and then it's hard to get her on her fave side because she's so upset. I called the LLL leader today to see what she thinks so I'm just waiting to hear back.

mamabrandy, we're having the exact same awake/nursing all night problems. She's not fussy at all either.....just demanding the bewbies a lot which makes me so sleepy (why does nursing make you so sleepy?!) but keeps me up at night because I end up leaking everywhere if I fall asleep with her latched.
post #53 of 366
It is hard to believe that Ezekiel was 42 days old today. I have dealt with so many of the things you ladies have, I will list them.
1. Jaundice- Ezekiel had to go for 4 sticks and it was not sunny so I tried taking vitamin D so he would get it through my milk and it worked and his billirubin levels went down.
2. Latching issues- He had a hard time because of being early. I used the playtex bottles with slow flow nipple. I didn't feel so bad giving him the bottles because it was my breast milk. I was worried because at first he had nipple confusion but now he is a good nurser.
3. Sore nipples - I too have sore nipples now that he is exclusively breast feeding when I am home. The pump just isn't the same as a baby. I have only been EBFing since Ezekiel was about 5 weeks old so I am experiencing the same nipple soreness and the horrific pain when he first latches on that the new moms are. Even though I am sore at the beginning only, I bought some GSE today to use just in case.
4.Tiredness - I thought going to school and being pregnant was hard but going to school and having a newborn is even harder. I am making it but am exhausted most of the time. That is why I am on here in spurts. I graduate in May and that is so nice.
5. He couldn't pass his carseat test(which I just found out existed) after he was born so the hospital loaned us a car bed for him. I took him back 2 weeks later and he passed. I had never dealt with this before because I had never had a hospital birth in the past.
I don't know if I covered everything or not. If I missed something I will catch it later. Everything is going great except for some colic. I got some colic calm off the internet and it is helping. I may get some catnip tea, I used that with some of mine. I feel so bad for him when he is miserable with gas. He is over 6 lbs. now I will know exactly how much tomorrow and let you know. I will try to find the time to learn how to post pictures soon. I may just post some to a website I belong to if I can find the time. He is adorable, though I know I am biased. I am so glad this post was started. I have been lazy about pumping with my Medela PIS since Ezekiel has started nursing so well. My freezer stash is kind of getting low, I will have to do better. I think I can keep up with the amount he needs while I am in class. I LOVE my Moby wrap and so does Ezekiel.: I don't know how I managed 5 other babies without a wrap. I need to go to bed now ladies, I have class at 9 am tomorrow. WOW this turned into a book, sorry.
post #54 of 366
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Never a dull moment around our house, and this poor little girl is having the toughest first 12 days of life. I swear, DH and I are the worlds worst parents. Or at least we feel that way.

I woke up this morning to the sound of - thud, *HUGE WAILING CRY*. Nora fell off the bed. Onto the hardwood floor. She fell asleep on DH's chest this morning at around 4 am, and somehow or another, at around 9, rolled right off of him. We scooped her right up and she was wailing, I got on the phone with the pediatrician and we brought her right in. She is fine, thank GOD. I swear, someone or something is looking over my little girl.

So. No more sleeping on our chests. Somehow we are going to have to get her to sleep in the bassinet. It's just with the formula, she is so gassy and she CRIES and cries and cries and she just wants to be held. Ugh, it's going to be rough until we get this figured out.
post #55 of 366
Oh my Carrie! I know that had to be incredibly scary, but you're not bad parents!! Accidents happen to all of us at one time or another. I'm glad Nora is okay. I hope she can get use to her bassinet. Or, maybe you could even get one of those mesh side rails for your bed. We got one to use with our last baby once she got mobile. It was SO nice and really gave me peace of mind while cosleeping with her once she was squirmy.


Things are going really good for us. I took ds into the birth center yesterday for his 2wk weight check, and he was up to 8-11.5 from being 8-2 at birth. He's such a good, mellow little guy. He pretty much eats, sleeps, and poops. During his wakeful times, he's happy to sit in his bouncy seat or to be held, passed around, whatever. There's ALWAYS someone ready to hold him and smooch on him around here. Recovery has been so easy for me this time. I can already get back into my pre-pregnancy clothes(though they are a little tight), and I feel really energetic for 2wks pp, bleeding has almost stopped. My older girls(10, 15, & 18) have been a dream to have around. They all love to cook and are so good with their little brother and sisters. They've been so incredibly sweet pampering me and keeping the house clean while I get to focus on recouperating. It's also freed me up to have some indivual one on one time with each of my little ones. I had kind of worried that my 20mo might have a rough transition, but she's done so good. She's so sweet with her little brother, and so far no behavioral changes from her or any of the others. Things really couldn't be going any smoother or happier here.

I do still have this weird, itchy, itchy rash on my belly though. I thought it was yeast at first, but now I'm pretty sure it's PUPPPS. Has anyone had this happen AFTER birth? It's pretty annoying, but if this is my worst problem I can't complain too much.


I've been so heavy hearted thinking of the poor moms who experienced losses. My heart just goes out to them...
post #56 of 366
Oh Carrie, how frightening! I know I would feel terrible too but you didn't do it on purpose and you weren't neglegent (sp??) in any way. It was just an unfortunate accident. I hope you're feeling a little better after seeing your ped. You've definitely had a rough time lately and I think of you and pray for you often.

AAM: Latch issue resolved!!! : We took Ally Rae to her first dr visit yesterday and his first question was how BF'ing was going. So, we told him about it since we know how natrually-minded he is. His thought was that I'm a "super producer" (my Mom was too....used to spray me and choke me with let down) and my forceful let down is scaring her so she pulls away and that's why the awful face. So, we've been using the hand pump for a couple min to get past the initial let down and then latching. She's doing beautifully now! I'm so proud of us for getting through a couple of common issues that deter a lot of first-time Mom's. I definitely had a few moments of frustration but it was only because she got so frustrated with my left side.

Anyway, she's back to her birth weight and is now 20" long! YAY for a growing, breastfeeding baby! She has a bit of jaundice but it's so minor and her dr was not at all concerned; we weren't either but it's always nice to hear it from him since we respect his experience and knowledge.
post #57 of 366
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Oh my Carrie! I know that had to be incredibly scary, but you're not bad parents!! Accidents happen to all of us at one time or another. I'm glad Nora is okay. I hope she can get use to her bassinet. Or, maybe you could even get one of those mesh side rails for your bed. We got one to use with our last baby once she got mobile. It was SO nice and really gave me peace of mind while cosleeping with her once she was squirmy.


Things are going really good for us. I took ds into the birth center yesterday for his 2wk weight check, and he was up to 8-11.5 from being 8-2 at birth. He's such a good, mellow little guy. He pretty much eats, sleeps, and poops. During his wakeful times, he's happy to sit in his bouncy seat or to be held, passed around, whatever. There's ALWAYS someone ready to hold him and smooch on him around here. Recovery has been so easy for me this time. I can already get back into my pre-pregnancy clothes(though they are a little tight), and I feel really energetic for 2wks pp, bleeding has almost stopped. My older girls(10, 15, & 18) have been a dream to have around. They all love to cook and are so good with their little brother and sisters. They've been so incredibly sweet pampering me and keeping the house clean while I get to focus on recouperating. It's also freed me up to have some indivual one on one time with each of my little ones. I had kind of worried that my 20mo might have a rough transition, but she's done so good. She's so sweet with her little brother, and so far no behavioral changes from her or any of the others. Things really couldn't be going any smoother or happier here.

I do still have this weird, itchy, itchy rash on my belly though. I thought it was yeast at first, but now I'm pretty sure it's PUPPPS. Has anyone had this happen AFTER birth? It's pretty annoying, but if this is my worst problem I can't complain too much.


I've been so heavy hearted thinking of the poor moms who experienced losses. My heart just goes out to them...
We're going to get the side rail definitely just in case while we try to ease her into the bassinet. I think that's the best idea.

Chris and I both cried last night for the mamas who lost their babies. I told him about what had happened to both Jill and Rachele and we just held Nora and cried. We are so lucky to have her and we know it. My heart honestly aches for them and I hope they know they have our endless support.
post #58 of 366
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Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes View Post
Never a dull moment around our house, and this poor little girl is having the toughest first 12 days of life. I swear, DH and I are the worlds worst parents. Or at least we feel that way.

I woke up this morning to the sound of - thud, *HUGE WAILING CRY*. Nora fell off the bed. Onto the hardwood floor. She fell asleep on DH's chest this morning at around 4 am, and somehow or another, at around 9, rolled right off of him. We scooped her right up and she was wailing, I got on the phone with the pediatrician and we brought her right in. She is fine, thank GOD. I swear, someone or something is looking over my little girl.

So. No more sleeping on our chests. Somehow we are going to have to get her to sleep in the bassinet. It's just with the formula, she is so gassy and she CRIES and cries and cries and she just wants to be held. Ugh, it's going to be rough until we get this figured out.
I'm glad you are getting the side rail. Or he can sleep on the side of the bed that has the co sleeper attached if you ever did get one.

I think some (most) dad's aren't quite in tune to sleeping with a baby. My DH was sleeping with the baby cradled in his arm and there was a huge gap for her to fall into b/c of the way he had her situated. I tried to wake him to adjust and he just rolled right over leaving Annie in a bad predicament. He's not allowed to sleep with her anymore for awhile.
post #59 of 366
All seems to be ok here so far, 1 week and 2 days pp. Placenta pills help along with fish oil and I've been feeling pretty good. I did have a panic attack hours after Abby was born...had some Rescue Remedy to help. It's been an adjustment. I love having a baby again, but I still can't believe it's a girl I guess lol. She sleeps well for a nursling...sleeps better next to me than in the bassinet we had in our room. Loves milkies.

Ds seems to really like her for now. She dosn't take his toys or annoy him so this could be why.

I look at what some of you first time moms are going through and I realized I went through much of the same things...a first baby seems to do a lot to a woman!!!
post #60 of 366
Hey Everyone,

Everything is going pretty well over here. Before, I was so concerned at how fussy my LO would get. Little Julien would be up so much at night, and every little cry or moan would make me worry that the old man downstairs (my downstairs neighbor) would call my landlord and complain about a baby crying. That was actually my first concern. Now my concern has been staying caught up on school work.

I'm actually understanding now how to let my baby cry or moan for a moment without me running to hold him every minute. Now, he's doing great! He loves just laying around without me picking him up every second of the day.

And I can't stop kissing him! He makes me want to kiss him all the time...no matter how stinky he gets. Breastfeeding is going well even though the nipples are still very tender. I just hope that he is getting enough. He has to go back to the pediatrician again tomorrow to make sure that he has gotten back up to his birth weight (which he was not 1 wk postpartum). My peanut is still so small!
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