Praying for a girl...

[2lilsweetfoxes]

Is it bad to be praying that this Little One is a girl? Only because I don't want to have to deal with the whole "circumcision discussion" with dh. My MIL thinks it is a boy. DS#1 is not circ'd--mainly because DH was deployed and I was waffling and never got it done. It has become a non-issue. Now, I am adamantly against it, seeing it a violation of my son's rights to his body, there being no medical advantage, and it not being required for Christians; but do not know if DH would insist this one be done. He has made comments that if he had not been deployed, DS would have been circ'd. I refuse to give consent, but do not know if they only need one parent's consent at the hospital (HB is not an option)--and it does not matter which one, meaning that he could consent to it while I'm in the shower or something. Also, not putting his name on the birth certificate is not an option.

Oh, well, even if the ultrasound says girl, we should still talk about it. I know several boys who were supposed to have been girls. And if we can't reach a consensus, then make sure my objection is recorded. (one reason I want to get out of the hospital as quick as possible)

[Fellow Traveler]

No it's not a bad thing. But either way you should have that conversation with him. It might be something you do incrementally or you could make him prove his point, provide proof of why it is necessary. He won't find any thought.

[Fi.]

I think considering that you already have an intact son the conversation needs to be had ANYWAY. The last thing you want is him making those "if I was home he'd be cut" comments around your son and give him body shame issues.

[Yulia_R]

Originally Posted by 2lilsweetfoxes

Is it bad to be praying that this Little One is a girl?

I don't think it's bad at all. After all, not that it changes anything anyway LOL. The little bean is already there with the gender that was finalized during conception . So, there is nothing wrong about praying if it makes you feel better .

Good for you for protecting your first son !

And congrats on your pregnancy!!!

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Tell him how you feel and let him know that it wont be done. You know your dh best as to how to approch him. Is he one for facts or is he one that goes with the flow?

Either way you should talk to him and when you are in hospital sign all the forms they give you DO NOT CIRC and anyone who enters your room tell them. Dont let your ds be alone without you ever.

Tell your OB tell anyone who will listen and please tell your dh not to talk about your ds intact state in front of him negitively.

In the hospital here the mother has to be the one to sign not the father.

Get a sign to put on your door. Use a magic marker on a cheap onsie or on his diapers and put NO CIRC NO RETRACT do everything in your power to make sure that everyone knows he is not getting cut.



As a last resort I would tell him that since ds#1 isnt then ds#2 should not be.

[2lilsweetfoxes]

Update--it's going to be a girl. The ultrasound was definitive from several angles...

(and our son's intact status is really a nonissue, like the fact his hair is blonde...the comment was made to dh's brother when he asked about it. Come to think of it, that brother now has a one-year-old son that is likely cut...I did not make an issue of it at the time because we were in front of MIL and I did not want her to feel bad/worse than she already did, if she does, that her (now grown) sons had been cut...)

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Congratulations

[infraread]

Congrats on your little girl

I had a son in a military hospital last month, and let me tell you my hubby was livid that they wouldn't take just his consent to circ the baby. They needed my signature (and I refused). Apparently, it's a liability issue. Like, they know for a fact the mom is mom, because the child came out of mom...

Not sure if it's policy at all MTFs or just ours. If it comes up in the future, just don't sign for it. I honestly thought it was going to hurt our marriage, we fought so hard over it... a little over a month later, it's a non issue.

[Night_Nurse]

Originally Posted by infraread

I had a son in a military hospital last month, and let me tell you my hubby was livid that they wouldn't take just his consent to circ the baby. They needed my signature (and I refused). Apparently, it's a liability issue. Like, they know for a fact the mom is mom, because the child came out of mom...

Not sure if it's policy at all MTFs or just ours. If it comes up in the future, just don't sign for it. I honestly thought it was going to hurt our marriage, we fought so hard over it... a little over a month later, it's a non issue.

Awesome!!!

[Viola]

Originally Posted by 2lilsweetfoxes

Update--it's going to be a girl. The ultrasound was definitive from several angles...

Congratulations on your little girl! Maybe you could tell him you are definitely against getting your little girl circ'ed, and that you will fight him if he plans on trying it.

[robertandenith]

I am SO glad! ::: congrats!!!!

[2lilsweetfoxes]

Originally Posted by infraread

Congrats on your little girl

I had a son in a military hospital last month, and let me tell you my hubby was livid that they wouldn't take just his consent to circ the baby. They needed my signature (and I refused). Apparently, it's a liability issue. Like, they know for a fact the mom is mom, because the child came out of mom...

Not sure if it's policy at all MTFs or just ours. If it comes up in the future, just don't sign for it. I honestly thought it was going to hurt our marriage, we fought so hard over it... a little over a month later, it's a non issue.

I wonder how much it would drop in military hospitals if they required BOTH parents' approval at the time it was done. Especially for women with deployed husbands who do it because they assume daddy would want it done.

Besides, I guess there was nothing to stop my husband from later on, once returning from his deployment, taking our son to have it done if it was THAT important to him .