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[guestmama9904]

i had the paragaurd (copper, non-hormonal) iud for 1 year and got pregnant the month i got it taken out. it works really well and statistically is very safe but for me it did cause increased cramping and bleeding and i just hated the visual image of something in my uterus all the time, it just seems so unatural. but then again i am allergic to latex, hate taking the pill and also don't really believe in it because i don't think women should have to risk their health so they don't get pregnant- i worked in a MDs clinic and one of our patients had a stroke at age 27 caused by taking the regular pill, she was a non smoker, no other risk factors that i know of.

dh says he wants to have a couple more after this so we'll probably just see what G-d gives us. i didn't get my cycle until DS was 14 months so i assume if i breastfeed all the time and cosleep that will happen again.

[emc03]

i'm going with NFP.

dh is going with condoms.

i was off the pill for 18 months before i got pregnant, but it didn't happen until i started working serious overtime while we battled our neighbors over their 18 hours of bass per day. the stress knocked my cycle off. so my job is to be as stress-free as possible so my cycle stays regular. dh's job is to be inflexible when i try to convince him it really isn't "time" yet. i really hate condoms.

[clavicula]

Originally Posted by TefferTWH

Selena & clavicula, perhaps you should do a consult with an NFP doctor.

I know a lot about NFP. But I tend to have 80-90-day cycles while nursing, so I have absolutely no idea when I am gonna O. Using condoms for months-that is not for me.
This time I got pg (Oed) 5 days after we DTD, which is almost impossible.
I just don't want a surprise again, and don't want to risk my health w/ another pregnancy.
My body is freakin' tired!

[raek622]

I think I'll be getting mirena. I've heard it's safe for BF'ing and I don't want to have to worry about FAM for a while.

[slinginhipmama]

We want at least one more and since my period doesn't usually come back until 10 mos pp, I'm not going to worry.

[TefferTWH]

Originally Posted by selena_ski

Teffer- I have used NFP for 4 years, I know how to use it and how to avoid or achieve. The point is I don't want to. I have continual mucus before Ovulation and have extremely long cycles most of those days must be spent abstaining. The point is I just don't want to worry about fertility every day.

Originally Posted by clavicula

I know a lot about NFP. But I tend to have 80-90-day cycles while nursing, so I have absolutely no idea when I am gonna O. Using condoms for months-that is not for me.
This time I got pg (Oed) 5 days after we DTD, which is almost impossible.
I just don't want a surprise again, and don't want to risk my health w/ another pregnancy.
My body is freakin' tired!

I'm not questioning whether you know what you are doing, but a good NFP doctor might be able to help. A friend with some hormone problems found great care after she went to an OB who specialized and could prescribe something (not BC, but I can't recall what it was or if it was pharmaceutical - preggo brain). Another mom I know sees him for bad cycle irregularities and has found some help. Anyway, there might be something a doctor can do or see that your teaching couple might not. I understand not wanting another pregnancy, but there might be options that a regular OB doesn't consider, KWIM. Whatever you chose!

raek622, I don't think Mirena is as perfect for BFing moms as the stats show. If you do a search here on MDC, you'll see other posters who have had trouble. I didn't have supply issues, but I had other problems that magically disappeared after I pulled the Mirena. OTOH, I know moms who have used it and loved it while BFing with no problems, but it's awfully expensive if you end up pulling it early!

[Kleine Hexe]

Originally Posted by buckysprplmonkey

I'm so incredibly annoyed at my insurance company. Even when breastfeeding is not an issue, I can't take anything with estrogen because it triggers my migraines. The best option for us is IUD. My insurance company that covered 100% of experimental fetal surgery, cesarean section and 7 week of NICU care will not cover an IUD. I made sure I told them exactly how stupid I thought it was they covered all that in pregnancy but would not pay to prevent another one. They were not amused by my rant.

We talked about diaphragm, but according to my midwife, now that I've had three babies, it would be 80% effective at best. We'd be better off taking our chances that we won't get pg my first cycle back while EBF and doing NFP after that.

Check with a local Planned Parenthood. You can get IUD and other bc for reduced prices.

[claddaghmom]

FAM/charting worked well as even though I have irregular cycles, they occurred regularly. If that makes sense.

But all that I've heard about cycles and AF during breastfeeding leads me to think basic charting won't work.

So I think I'm going with the Creighton model after this babe is born. Fortunately, there's a CN in our city who teaches it for cheap.

[pastelsummer]

well after a good deal of thought we have decided on a tubal or a hysterectomy. As we are sure another on ewould end in a miscarriage as I have extremely rough pregnancies

[hislittlelambs]

well,,, dh keeps bringing up the Big V, which i don't know why i have such an uneasy feeling about it, but i do. We're in our late 20's and yes we've had 4 kids in 6 years and yes i need a break for awhile...but it just seems so permenant, otherwise i don't really know why i am so nervous about it.

What I want to do is go back to the FAM method and use a barrier before Ovulation. we've had good success with it in the past and i love knowing exactly what is going on with my body. my cycles are usually very regular, although when i am EBF i tend to stop ovulating and not start back up until 4-6 months after we wean...however, if i do 50/50 with breastfeeding/suuplementing my ovulation returns within 3 months of beginning to supplement ( i know this from conceiving my 2nd child during that but i wasn't charting then so i am not exactly sure when my fertility returned and at what point during breastfeeding/supplementing, if that makes sense)....

So yes, i do want to EBF this child, also chart, and possibly use These VCF's as the barrier method. they are a spermicide, but not as messy as the gels, foams...etc. 15 mins prior and they dissolve. i think this along with charting should be pretty good for us.

DH is torn on "my idea" of what to do. my body needs a bit of a break and he is pushing for adoption to expand our family over bio chidlren. I am completley open to adoption, i just dont want anything surgical yet. i feel we're too young.

p.s. i did want to say i've done the patch before and the adhesive is very very good. I would go swimming and take multiple baths/showers with them on and never had a problem with one of them coming off. usually when i did take them off though, i'd have a big square edging from the adhesive though...like when you take a bandaid off and have a bandaid edging of stickness left on your finger? that was annoying, so you do need to put it where it isn't visible and you arent going to want that area visable for a week or so after you take it off so all that adhesive can wear off. just my experience though.

[gypsymomma4]

I tried the Mirena IUD last time, and ended up with a perforated uterus, and having to have the thing surgically removed. I am currently planning on having my tubes tied, partially because with my being 36 having 5 kids, and having been through multiple losses, I know I could get preg. again, and I don't think I can emotionally handle the stress, but mostly we are going with the tubal because I have insurance right now, and DH doesn't, so him getting snipped is just something we can't afford.

[PookieMom]

We're going to use condoms and since my cycles are pretty regular I'm considering those cycle beads. It's basically NFP on a bracelet. DH has finally agreed to the big V when he turns 30. About 3 more years. At first he was against it and wanted me to get a tubal but after doing some research he's decided not to make me go through that. I have hormonal issues anyway and the thought of messing around in there scares the crap out of me. Plus, practically all of his divorced friends blame it on their wife's tubals. Saying that their personalities "changed over night" I don't know if there is any fact to that but it's enough to scare us.

[TefferTWH]

Originally Posted by gypsymomma4

I tried the Mirena IUD last time, and ended up with a perforated uterus, and having to have the thing surgically removed.

Oh, that's terrible! A lady I know on another board had her Mirena "migrate" and it perforated her uterus and inserted into her bowel. She had to have surgery and had a lengthy recovery. She thinks it was a poor quality insertion though, based on the things her doctor was saying during the procedure.