Originally Posted by MusicianDad
Why does a 16 - 17 year old have to stay with 16 - 17 year old friends anyway? And just because the guys are 21 doesn't mean they are after something either.
i agree. I'm 21 and I have friends who are younger and friends who are older. we have tons of things in common our age just doesn't happen to be one of them. When i was in HS, obviously my friends were all closer to my age. Now I have friends who live near us, friends i meet at work or volunteering, friends i meet from b/c we both have kids etc. I think most people are used to kids being the same age as their friends b/c of school.
As far as curfew goes i never actually had one. i was wild and out of control for the first 2 yrs of hs and trustworthy and responsible for the second two. the first two yrs i had a best friend who was TROUBLE and i thought she was the coolest person in the world (k-8 in a school with 25 ppl per grade i was a little sheltered) so yeah i did some stupid stuff but it was in no way related to curfew... you can do stupid crap anytime of the day not only between midnight and 6 am.
After she got kicked out of school i wised up and went back to hanging out with my best friend from elementary school and the rest of our group of friends i hung out with before i got close to the other girl. Literally from that point on everything was great. my relationship with my parents was great, i was happier, i was honest and responsible. some nights i came home at 9 sometimes i didn't come home at all but i always called my parents to let them know. they knew my friends so they knew who i was with.. but even if they didn't since they trusted me and my judgement they wouldn't have worried about it. yeah we drank but we always drank at someone's house and our parents always knew. we either spent the night or had a parent or someone who could pass a breathalyzer pick us up.
my very longwinded point is that curfew doesn't have a heck of a lot do with anything. it is an arbitrary time that someone picks for you to show up in your door step. Are your kids sneaking out getting loaded, having random unprotected sex, and holding up the gas station now? if not then why on earth would they start? I understand the fear of other nutball drivers and such but honestly i don't think a lot of kids are driving all over creation at 3am. I imagine most are either at someones house or walking to the park or the 7/11.Common sense and good judgement doesn't leave with the light. You know your kids if they aren't doing it now they aren't going to start as soon as the clock strikes 12.