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post #41 of 51
Happy Anniversary Krisis!! I'm so glad to hear from you. DH and I just celebrated our 2 year anniversary a couple weeks ago.

I can't post much... DH and I and MIL are about to go downstairs and move some of her crap out of the kitchen. It's not going to be fun... I'll post an update when I'm done.
post #42 of 51
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I probably should get rid of the Halloween candy in our pantry I did throw away a pound of cookie dough yesterday, plus points right?

Tomorrow is our two year anniversary... I hope by next year I am at least down to my marriage weight... or LOWER preferably!!

I tend to stay out of this forum because it makes me feel guilty, but I need to start coming back. I feel discouraged. This week I have been making an effort to eat at home, eat healthy, not go overboard, and I've still gained a pound. It's so frustrating. At least DH is finally getting a backbone so when I say "I don't wanna cook, let's go to Wendy's," he says "Not a chance."

I want to eat veggies they just... scare me.

I've found though that eating only fruit for breakfast really helps me. I feel better during the day - not sick, a little more energized, and healthier in general. I usually have a banana or two and some orange juice for breakfast. I bought a pineapple but I'm not sure how to cut it

I'm thinking about doing what you've done, Tatiana - I want to get this shirt I really like in a smaller size and use that as my motivation to lose the weight.

Glad things are going better for you both. texmati I can't even imagine dealing with my MIL on a daily basis - she's really nice but I still only can handle being around her once a year!
Krisis You definitely get points for throwing away the cookie dough! Yay! Happy Anniversary. Please come and visit this thread. We don't want you to feel guilty at all. It's just nice to have company and another perspective. That is great that your hubby is supporting you by getting a backbone. About veggies, are there any that you like, or are interested in? Maybe you could just start with one type to make it less intimidating. How was the pineapple? I love pineapple, it is so good : Did you get the shirt in a smaller size? I can put on the jeans I bought, but they are still too tight to wear. My new goal is to wear them on 12/19.
post #43 of 51
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I can't post much... DH and I and MIL are about to go downstairs and move some of her crap out of the kitchen. It's not going to be fun... I'll post an update when I'm done.
Texmati, how did it go with cleaning out the kitchen? Was she respectful? I hope you have a lot more room now. How are you doing in general? I noticed you are on day 8 of not eating out, very cool! I feel that I eat so much healthier when I eat at home.

I've been doing ok. My food intake has been going well, except for yesterday. I was around my dh all day and it's still a challenge for me to eat healthy around him. I had some pizza that I didn't plan on. I felt really sick afterwards. It was a slip up, but that's ok. It made me want to make a smart choice tonight with my eating. We're going out to dinner. I'll have sashimi if we get sushi, or a salad with protein if we go somewhere else. I can feel good about eating either one of those. Also, no alcohol and no treats. I'm holding myself accountable and I want to be able to post here tomorrow that I was successful. I'm so glad I have you guys to "talk" to. The support helps me in so many ways, thanks!

Dh & I have had a rough patch again this week. Counseling yesterday was really hard. I realize now that I need to work a lot harder in being patient and understanding even when it is hard to do so. I know that I have every right to be angry at how my dh is acting, but the reality is that anger is not helping the situation. It's like the saying, "Would you rather be right or be happy?" I've been focusing on being right and it's not working. I just want to be happy and that means being a lot more supportive to dh so that he can in turn give more to me.
post #44 of 51
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It made me want to make a smart choice tonight with my eating. We're going out to dinner. I'll have sashimi if we get sushi, or a salad with protein if we go somewhere else. I can feel good about eating either one of those. Also, no alcohol and no treats. I'm holding myself accountable and I want to be able to post here tomorrow that I was successful.
The above post was mine. I said no alcohol or dessert. Well, change of plans. We went out for sushi, and my dh ordered sake. I had a small glass, but I didn't drink the whole thing. I ordered sashimi like I said I would. I'm happy about that. My dh brought home baklava and I had one. I feel ok about it because I was able to stop at one and not eat any other treats that my dh has around. For me, sometimes it's difficult to indulge and just eat one and last night I was able to.
post #45 of 51
Hey! Sorry i havent been back to post. I actually get a little anxious before posting on this thread-- I don't know why... I guess it's just talking about my weight that gets my stomach tied up in knots.

I've been spying on your siggy TatianaTiger! Congratulations! You are making super progress! And it sound like you are on track with your eating as well. You should be very very proud of yourself. (And baklava is always worth it. I wouldn't worry about that).

I'm sorry that counselling is kind of rough this week. I know what it feels like when you have to give what more than your fair share. It sucks .

Cleaning out the kitchen with MIL was a disaster. I don't even think I can get into it because I'm afraid that my brain will catch fire if I think about it too much. Good news is that there is now room for the new calphalon pot set the hubster and I bought this weekend.

I feel kind of silly about the not eating out thing-- it is kind of arbitrary... dh was like, so we can eat on the border chips and salsa at home, but we can't eat it out? But it's nice to be actually making decisions about what I'm eating for once instead of just inhaling things without thinking.

When I was loosing a lot of weight a few years back, I got to a point where I could tell every bite of food (every calorie, actually) that I put in my mouth in the last week (kind of extreame). The other extream is where I am now, where I couldnt remember what I had eaten while I was still chewing, basically. I'm hoping the no eating out thing will at least put some thinking back into my food choices.

But! I'll be going on a business trip for four days next week (Mon-Thurs) where eating out will be unavoidable. So I was wanting to have another food-related challenge. Any ideas?
post #46 of 51
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Hey! Sorry i havent been back to post. I actually get a little anxious before posting on this thread-- I don't know why... I guess it's just talking about my weight that gets my stomach tied up in knots.

I've been spying on your siggy TatianaTiger! Congratulations! You are making super progress! And it sound like you are on track with your eating as well. You should be very very proud of yourself. (And baklava is always worth it. I wouldn't worry about that).

I'm sorry that counselling is kind of rough this week. I know what it feels like when you have to give what more than your fair share. It sucks .

Cleaning out the kitchen with MIL was a disaster. I don't even think I can get into it because I'm afraid that my brain will catch fire if I think about it too much. Good news is that there is now room for the new calphalon pot set the hubster and I bought this weekend.

I feel kind of silly about the not eating out thing-- it is kind of arbitrary... dh was like, so we can eat on the border chips and salsa at home, but we can't eat it out? But it's nice to be actually making decisions about what I'm eating for once instead of just inhaling things without thinking.

When I was loosing a lot of weight a few years back, I got to a point where I could tell every bite of food (every calorie, actually) that I put in my mouth in the last week (kind of extreame). The other extream is where I am now, where I couldnt remember what I had eaten while I was still chewing, basically. I'm hoping the no eating out thing will at least put some thinking back into my food choices.

But! I'll be going on a business trip for four days next week (Mon-Thurs) where eating out will be unavoidable. So I was wanting to have another food-related challenge. Any ideas?
Texmati, How did your business trip go? Hmmm, a new challenge? How about drinking more water? Or a certain amount of vegetables a day? Or maybe only eating until you are 80% full like some Japanese people do? That's called hara hachi bu.

The extremes that you mentioned in your previous post sound really difficult. Neither one feels good I'm sure. On one hand, you are practically a prisoner to what you are eating, with the obsession of calories you're taking in. One the other hand, you're eating whatever you like and it makes you unhappy due to feeling you aren't respecting yourself. If only there was some place in the middle with some balance, where you can feel good about what you are eating but also still eating things that you like.

That's too bad about the kitchen cleaning being a disaster. That's cool about the calphalon pot set. That will be awesome to cook with. I know it's totally random, but where do you live? Are you in Texas?

Are you still thinking about ttc in the spring? I thought that you mentioned that before. I'm considering that too (if things are better with my dh). I was thinking the other day that spring will be here soon Ttc is exciting

Thanks for watching my progress. I'm happy with it, although I'd like it even more if it went faster I'm averaging about 1 or 2 lbs a week. I need to remember to be patient about it coming off. It took about 9 months for me to put it on, so it also will take some time to come off.

I started really limiting my sugar intake a few weeks ago. At first I really missed it. But, I have a really hard time with moderation and sugar/carbs. It is so hard for me to stop once I start eating. So, it's easier for me to just not eat any. Sometimes it's really easy to do this, other times I have seriously remind myself what my goal is so I don't slip up. I allow myself one treat a week though. I seem to do ok with that.

Things have been ok with dh at times and really hard with dh at other times. As I was writing this I realized that I haven't been binging. : I was so afraid to face my feelings before, but now I know it's possible for me to face them without using food to make me feel better. At times I still get the urge, like yesterday when I wanted to stop and get some Oreos. But, it seems much more manageable now. I really don't know why, but I'm glad it is.

Krisis, stop by when you can and let us know how you are doing
post #47 of 51
I'm doing okay. Not great but okay. I'm kind of going through extremes right now - last night I wanted to binge so bad but instead I kept telling myself "nothing tastes as good as thin feels." So I made it without going crazy, but I also feel like I was starving and I should have just eaten something... oh well. But I am down to 270 and I am hoping so hard that tomorrow I will be in the 60s. I at least want to be 265 by Christmas.

Today I actually MEASURED what I ate for lunch which is huge for me because usually I just guess. So I measured out 1 cup of chicken soup and 1/4 cup of sunflower kernels and I AM STUFFED. I am so full!! It feels good knowing that I am full but I ate well.

I started the 100 pushups program yesterday and I am sooo sore. Ouch. I was going to go to Yoga today but it was the first snow of the season and I haven't taken our car in snow ever so I skipped it (the class is kind of far and I was worried about driving.)

I also went off birth control this week. We're still not ttc but I do have an appointment set up with a high risk OB for Dec 31! At least then I will know for sure if it is safe to get pregnant again, ever. Although with how DS has been acting this week I'm not sure I want another baby, sheesh.

Texmati, (where are you going on your business trip?) I found this great site that has a lot of restaurant food so you can calculate calories. I don't know if that's what you're looking for, but I thought i'd throw it out there. I just started using it last night and it's been so helpful already! The site is http://www.myfitnesspal.com and I am little_wolfie on there if you want to join, you can friend me!

I've been using fitday.com for about 6 years but I like myfitnesspal better because it has a messageboard section. Messageboards are really helpful for me.

Tatiana, good for you for cutting out sugar. I still haven't gotten to that point yet... although yesterday I chewed 2 mini chocolate bars but I spit them out... so I didn't swallow any calories... yes okay I'm weird. I suck at eating to only 80% full but a vegetable challenge might be good for us or me at least... I am horrible with vegetables and I have had very little experience with them... the only vegetables i ate until I was 20 were corn, potatoes, and green beans. I didn't try broccoli til I was 20! Now it is my favoritest And squash. But most other veggies I buy go rotten because I don't know what to do with them.

Also I need to be brave and cut up my pineapple.. the other one I had to throw away because I didn't cut it and it went bad. I have to eat this one! I looooove pineapple, so glad I'm not allergic! And I found out the other day that I can eat tangerines too so I'm going to get some next week for snacking purposes
post #48 of 51
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Hi Krisis :

That is so cool that you are making such positive changes. It can be so hard to do these but it is really worth it. I love how you said:
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last night I wanted to binge so bad but instead I kept telling myself "nothing tastes as good as thin feels."
I've had experiences like that and it can be so difficult, uncomfortable, and scary. Times like that, I really have to just take life hour by hour and really focus on staying away from the food I want. That is a big thing to not listen to the voice inside that it screaming to binge.

I hope you are really proud and giving yourself a pat on the back for the progress you've made. I like the saying "The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step" You are really making a lot of steps
post #49 of 51
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I was doing so well with my eating, and then the holidays came : It hasn't been horrible, but not great either. I find myself eating stuff that I don't want to eat. I'm not sure if it's out of habit or what. Starting today, I'm going to keep a food journal. I'm hoping that will help me to make smarter choices about what I'm eating.

Things with DH have been good and bad. It's interesting because in the past few days we've had some major breakthroughs and things are really back on track and great. So, why then do I feel like binging and eating everything in sight : I realize that this is the same feeling that caused me to eat and gain all the weight in the first place. This morning I had such an urge to binge and I thought, "Why do I feel this?" After thinking about it I think that my fear deep down is feeling abandoned, of losing my husband's love. The more I depend on him, the harder it would be to lose him. I think that's why I have had these feelings of wanting to binge when things are going well between us and not wanting to binge as much when things were hard between us. I'm grateful for this clarity of why I want to binge. I just know it's going to be a challenge for me to resist the binges. I'm going to have to take it hour by hour. I really need to do this for myself and eat smart. I'm so tired of feeling fat and I want to get back to where I was when DH & I got together. I really want to ttc and I'm telling myself no baby until I lose it.

All right, I'm starting my food diary today
post #50 of 51
TT, sorry it's taken me so long to post. I just feel like my whole life is turned upside down. I've eaten so much during these holidays as well. For the first time, I've become one of the 'cooks' in my extended family. Tomorrow will be my third day straight of dinner parties that I'm hosting. We all keep inviting the same people over, and then distributing the leftovers... basically a whole lotta food.

I don't know if you read my other thread, but the MIL stuff is basically gone to hell. DH and I have been spending a lot of time talking and planning about what to do next, which is giving me alot of hope.

TT, I want to start a food diary too... I need ot get over whatever hangup it is that makes me thing that somehow I can't.
post #51 of 51
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I haven't posted in awhile, but things have been going pretty well in terms of diet and exercise. I've been keeping my food journal and that is helping me to stay on track. I also have been making exercise goals each week. The weight is coming off, but I wish it were coming off faster, hurry weight, hurry!

Things are meh with dh. I haven't been spending much time with him (my choosing). It just makes me feel better because then I don't expect anything from him and I'm not disappointed. It's really sad not to be able to count on your husband for anything

How are you Texmati? How is it going with DH & MIL?

Krisis, how are you?
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