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post #1 of 23
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Tomorrow night I am going to my first La Leche League meeting and I am very excited. : I'm really hoping to meet more naturally-minded moms in my area. When I called to get info about where the group was meeting, the leader was so excited to have a pregnant mom attend this month. I have to say that my dh is a little disappointed that he can't go.

Have any of you other first-timers attended a LLL meeting yet?
post #2 of 23
I'm not a first-timer but I've been attending LLL meetings regularly since my son was about 6 weeks old, even though we never had any trouble breastfeeding.

For me, I wanted to know the support was there if/when I needed it because I wanted to breastfeed as long as Oliver wanted to. Also, I've enjoyed meeting like-minded women and our leader rocks!

Now that I am pregnant again, the meetings have become increasingly important and I highly recommend attending LLL meetings to all pregnant women who want to breastfeed. They say it increases your chance of success.
post #3 of 23
I was going to go when I was pregnant with DS and start going at 36 weeks, but that was when he was born and I never got around to it.
post #4 of 23
Enjoy! I *love* my local LLL group, it's been such a huge source of support and wisdom for me. Not just about breastfeeding, but about parenting and family life. I weaned my son at a year because I wanted to start taking medication to help me get pregnant again...it was really hard for me, and the women there were so supportive. The leaders encouraged me to continue coming even though my son was weaned and I wasn't pregnant yet- they said it's good for new moms to hear weaning stories. And when I had first weaned, and tearfully talked about it at a meeting, I said that I still feel like a "breastfeeding mom" even though I wasn't BFing at the moment, and everyone heartily agreed. Now THAT is support. :

They also helped me a lot with my initial issues....latch, low supply, me getting freaked out because DS nursed 24/7. I can't wait to start bringing my new babe!
post #5 of 23
I'm not a first timer, but when I was I went to a LLL meeting about 2 days before I went into labor. I was SO glad that I had gone to a meeting prior to giving birth because when I needed help within the first couple days, they knew who I was, and vice versa. I felt much more comfortable calling them when I needed help, and one of the leaders came to my home, etc. It was wonderful!

So good for you! I highly recommend going before the birth!
post #6 of 23
Well I have to say, as a La Leche League Leader, I am very happy to hear that you're going while still pregnant!! We LOVE when pregnant moms come - we encourage pg moms to start coming in the second trimester if possible, so they can get to a full series of 4 meetings (at least) before the baby comes. But even 1 or 2 is waaaay better than none!! The moms who come while pg always come back saying they felt SO much more prepared (and more comfortable calling us with any questions after the birth). I WISH I'd gone myself when I was expecting my first!! So, hope you have a great time & meet some nice mamas!!
post #7 of 23
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Originally Posted by Nautical View Post
I have to say that my dh is a little disappointed that he can't go.
Why can't dh go? We have had dad's in our group before. The leader should ask the group if they are ok with him being there though.

As a new LLL leader, I am thrilled to hear you are going while pg. When I moved form NH to VT 2 years ago, LLL was the first place I went to make friends. Let us know how it goes!
post #8 of 23
ditto asking about dads being welcomed at that particular meeting. They like to keep it freindly for moms that want to NIP. They have specific meetings that welcome dads, though.

I hope you enjoy your meeting. I LOVE my group. I wish I had started with my first DD, but better late than never.
post #9 of 23
i was just thinking i should find a group near me even though the baby isnt born. i have already breastfed one kiddo very successfully but i really want to meet like-minded mamas in my city.
post #10 of 23
I went to 1 meeting after my son was born, and although there were some great moms, this one lady really creeped me out and she's a regular so I haven't returned. Luckily, I had a great LC and everyone I know BFs so I've had lots of support.
post #11 of 23
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I went to 1 meeting after my son was born, and although there were some great moms, this one lady really creeped me out and she's a regular so I haven't returned. Luckily, I had a great LC and everyone I know BFs so I've had lots of support.
i hope it wasn't me.

i have been going since my boys were 4 months old. we have a really active group now, with playdates a few times a month and enrichment meetings in addition to the series meetings. wonderful that you are going while pg. i wish i had.....(the first time, clearly).
post #12 of 23
I never thought of going while pregnant! I am grateful for this thread, I contacted my local LLL today and am going to my first meeting on the 21st. I'm really looking forward to it...thanks for bringing this up, Nautical.
post #13 of 23
About the dads - most groups are women-only. Not to exclude the guys, but a lot of times we're working with a brand-new mom who is already hormonal and stressed and nervous and we're sitting there with her shirt all the way up and our hands on her breasts trying to help latch the baby on correctly....while most of us eventually become totally comfortable NIP, a lot of first-time moms are not at first, especially when they're having problems. There have been moms at co-ed meetings who end up rocking their babies and using a paci and putting off nursing the whole time because there were men there. (There are also ethnic considerations too - some ethnic groups are less likely to nurse in front of someone else's DH, too).

Anyway, some groups have occasional meetings where they do invite men, and some groups have decided to make men welcome at all meetings, but the rule is that this has to be advertised in advance so that the moms know there will be men there, and if it's going to be a meeting that's always open to men, then there have to be other meetings locally which are women-only so that people have a choice.
post #14 of 23
My LLL group has a once monthly meeting and a once monthly toddler meeting for just mom's then we do a once monthly family potluck for everyone. We started going when DS was 2 weeks old and I wish I would have gone before he was born. He was tongue tied and although we got his frenulum clipped at day 6 post partum and I had read enough to realize that was the problem. It took what seemed like forever to find the right resources to get his frenulum clipped. I called the pediatrician and they said I would have to make a newborn appt. then they would refer me to an ENT, which seemed like it would take forever. I finally called a leader who told me to take him to the breastfeeding clinic they have at the local children's hosptial here and we wer able to get him in but it was hard and would have been resolved earlier with LLL.
post #15 of 23
how was the meeting?
post #16 of 23
I began attending LLL when I was 5 months or so along with #1. I am pg with #3 and I became a LLL leader after the birth of my 2nd son. Having no one around me who had successfully bfed, my attendance during pregnancy was priceless. I learned so so much.
It's great that you have thought ahead! You are getting a great start with a great support system with not only your groups leader but with the contact with other moms. I too LOVE seeing pg moms at our meetings!
post #17 of 23
I went to my first LLL meeting last month (Sept), and I have to say. I wish I had gone sooner. I have met plenty of people who have been very negative about BF or APing or natural labor or me using a midwife and a birth center vs a hospital, etc. :
It was so refreshing to have someone other then my mom (a former LLL leader, actually) think that I wasn't being idealistic and would "change my tune" when the time came about everything! Everyone at the LLL meeting was so positive about everything, even their challenges. They actually seemed happy to be mommies!
BTW, there was another pg women there, due a week or two before me. And I second the asking about DH coming- I'm one of those people who's nervous about bf'ing in front of other people's DH, and Batman's not even born yet, lol. I'm working on that tho.
post #18 of 23
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Everyone at the LLL meeting was so positive about everything, even their challenges. They actually seemed happy to be mommies!
YES! This is a big part of why I love my LLL group and the friends I've met through it. I belonged to a mainstream mommy group when DS was a baby, and while I can vent with the best of them, it seemed like all they did was complain. "When is the baby going to sleep through the night? Why do they have to puke so much? When are you going to ferberize him? When I ferberized mine he cried for 22 minutes, it was awful." Bleh!

I mean, every mom needs to complain sometimes, but at LLL I feel like it's balanced out by a sense of joy and love for the baby. There are as many stories about something adorable or wonderful someone's baby did, as there are vents about a baby who wakes to nurse every hour. It's so much more healthy for me to be around. And it's nice to be around people who share my general parenting philosophy (if I had to hear one more ferberizing story at that old playgroup I was going to lose it!)
post #19 of 23
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Originally Posted by titania8 View Post
i hope it wasn't me.
It wasn't you for sure At the meeting I went to, there was a lady there with an older girl and a little boy/toddler who was still nursing. It was that mother and child group that upset me, but I won't post why here.

Perhaps I'll come out again when the new baby is here.
post #20 of 23
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Originally Posted by TefferTWH View Post
It wasn't you for sure At the meeting I went to, there was a lady there with an older girl and a little boy/toddler who was still nursing. It was that mother and child group that upset me, but I won't post why here.

Perhaps I'll come out again when the new baby is here.
i *think* i remember who you are talking about....they have not been there in a LONG time. come to think of it, there are only a couple moms that are still around from when i first started, and they don't actually come to meetings. plus they don't have girls, so i know its not them. come on back!! we're meeting on monday. i'd love to meet you (again--lol).
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