hi. *update in post 1*

[Amandamanda]

i just got 2 positive tests.

my dd is 6 months old and i haven't even had a pp AF yet. I have the IUD in.

This was NOT planned and I am scared out of my mind. I really dont know how to deal with this. I am not happy about this at all. I am mentally, emotionally, physically sick about it.

I will probably be lurking for awhile until it sinks in. I guess I needed to post here to see if anyone could make me feel better about it.

edit- i wanted to thank everyone for your kind words. i am feeling a little better now that I've had a few days to process this, dh has also been really supportive, which is nice. i went for a beta yesterday, which was also obviously positive. i go in for an ultrasound on tuesday to be sure it isn't ectopic- which is apparently common in iud pregnancies. my last baby was a pill baby (although we were going to ttc 4 months later, so it was a happy early surprise) and part of me is hoping the iud fell out somehow so i don't lose all faith in birth control. i wish they would've told me my actual hcg level instead of just saying "its positive" so i would have some sort of idea about how far along i am. i haven't even had pp AF yet, so for all i know i could be 4 months. I'm pretty sure i am only 5 weeks or so based on symptoms. anyway, i will update again after tuesday.

[homeschoolingmama]

When my first was 7 months I got pregnant for our second. You may not see this now but it is a blessing. It is much harder having one because they constantly want your attention. My girls play together and are so close. They help each other out and keep each other busy.
Feel free to lean on all of us preggo's. We are here for you. Even if I am in Jan.

[no5no5]

I wish I had some real words of wisdom for you. But I have no doubt that after the shock has worn off you will make peace with your situation. I do want to say--at the risk of offending you and others--that if you truly do not want this pregnancy you should not feel obligated to continue it. That said, you may find in a few days or weeks that your opinion changes. You may end up being as thrilled to be pregnant as most of us on this board are. Either way, get yourself to a doctor and get that IUD out asap. Good luck, and I wish you all the best.

[channelofpeace]

There is probably nothing I can say to make you feel better, you will have to make your own peace with the situation and it may take time. Perhaps some consolation, my first two are 19 months apart and they are the best playmates. It was hard at first but I am really glad they were so close together.

[BlissfullyLoving]

I can only imagine how overwhelming and scary an unplanned pregnancy can be. I hope you can get all the support you need and want on here and in real life to make the best decision for you and your family.

As everyone else mentioned you need to seek medical care asap. An IUD during pregnancy can cause problems. You need to find out if it already has, for your health, and get it removed either way.

Wishing you all the best and sending you a big hug.

[annettemarie]

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[heatherh]

Amandamanda - Having not been in your position I can't imagine the stress you're under. First things first, see your HCP about if you should have the IUD removed. Take some deep breaths - you've got time to figure out what to do and how to come to terms with whatever happens.

[WeasleyMum]

Nothing I can say can make you feel better, probably, but huge s. Maybe things will start seeming better after awhile.

[PoppyMama]

Don't feel guilty for not being happy about this pregnancy. I was SO unhappy when I got pregnant with #2 when my first was 18 months old. I had planned on waiting for 5 years or so. I resented him and really just wanted him gone until my 3rd trimester. Something clicked at that point and I was at least ok with it. Now he is my 9 year old love noodle and I wouldn't trade him for anything and having children who were in a closer age range then I planned actually worked out for me. I don't feel at all guilty for how upset I was and my son has no idea. Just feel your feelings and go with the flow.

[maxwill129]

Originally Posted by PoppyMama

Don't feel guilty for not being happy about this pregnancy. I was SO unhappy when I got pregnant with #2 when my first was 18 months old. I had planned on waiting for 5 years or so. I resented him and really just wanted him gone until my 3rd trimester. Something clicked at that point and I was at least ok with it. Now he is my 9 year old love noodle and I wouldn't trade him for anything and having children who were in a closer age range then I planned actually worked out for me. I don't feel at all guilty for how upset I was and my son has no idea. Just feel your feelings and go with the flow.

This was me with our 3rd. Now I can't imagine life without him. I hope you can find peace with all this!

[groovynaturemama]

mama. i know how it feels to be pregnant and uncertain. dd #1 was conceived 4 months into my relationship with (now) dh. a baby was the LAST thing i wanted with a new relationship (17 mos. later i am glad i had dd and wouldn't change it for the world). of course, i realize your situation may be different, already having one baby who is still rather young. i have no helpful advice, but can sympathize with you for certain.

[boscopup]

A friend of mine got pregnant when her 2nd baby was 4 months old... her IUD had actually fallen out! If yours is still in, definitely go to the doctor ASAP so you can deal with the IUD.

But you will work things out, and you will probably find that the first year is hard, but after that it's so much easier because your children can play together. Sometimes things happen that we don't plan, but you get through it. You *can* handle it. Your first child will be a 15 month old at that point, and will probably be walking and maybe talking some, etc. It will be totally different from now. I know it's hard to imagine that when you're just holding a 6 month old right now, but it's amazing how much different they are 9 months later!

[chely7425]

Is it any comfort that we are in the same DDC again? Probably not... but you know how to get ahold of me if you need anything!! *hugs*

[surprisedmama]

I totally know how you feel. I felt really scammed by the BC company. I never thought the 1% chance was really a chance. This baby was not planned I was on BC pills and was really to enjoy the fact that my kids were big. But I am slowly getting use to it. These sneaky little babies must be really cool people who just have to join us now. Congrats and don't worry about all the nasty scared feelings I think they are normal. You will only be enriching #1's life with fun kid energy. Kids love Kids.

[warrior mama]

I just wanted to send you a hug.

[blumom2boyz]

It won't be easy, but then parenting never is. My second and third are 19 months apart (unplanned pregnancy as well with ds3) and I was so scared out of my mind at first, but then once I could feel him move in me, things just changed. We always knew that we wanted more kids, so what if the timing wasn't right. Things happened for a reason and I wouldn't change it for the world. Now my "little" guy is almost 3 and I cannot believe how fast those years went by! Hang in there. If I could do it, so can you!

[Tizzy]

Not in your DDC but wanted to offer hugs!
A friend of mine had her 2nd (planned) when her 1st was 15 months and they get along famously. #2 will be a year in December.

And mine are 18 months apart, I could totally go for 15 months after knowing just how independant a 15 month old can be.
My boys love on eachother all the time, they are learning to share from a very young age and will not know life any differently without eachother. The first few years will be the most difficult with closely spaced children but I know they'll be better for it

[Amandamanda]

thanks to everyone who replied. i updated post 1.