Oh dang, I missed the partner bit - sorry Roxy. I'm from Australia, not the US and partner is much more in use here to describe one's spouse - defacto/married/same sex. I think because defacto partnerships are much more common and far less controversial (although there is still a whole load of pressure on defacto couples to marry). As for the California/San Francisco stuff, I'm kinda lost. I'm not imitating anything, I'm using the language I'm most comfortable with.