'Important' plans for June

[sunflwrmoonbeam]

Ever hear of the musical 'Rent'? If you haven't, you should look into it, it rocks.

I've been obsessed with this show since I was 14 (yes, I'm one of those), and ever since then had this dream/hope/fantasy of seeing the original actors reprise their roles, with a particular emphasis on Adam Pascal as Roger and Anthony Rapp as Mark. This has literally been my wildest dream, which I never thought would happen. Ever.

This past spring it was announced that Adam Pascal and Anthony Rapp would tour in Rent in 2009, much to my elation. I called up my friends, and made plans to see it in St. Louis in early June. 2-7th, specifically.

And now I'm knocked up, due June 8th (even if I haven't given birth yet DH won't let me drive 3 hours when I'm 9+ months pregnant). I think it's fair to tell my friends I can't go, but I'm paranoid about announcing, and considering my history with Rent I'd have to come up with an amazingly good excuse to not go with them. Obviously, baby is one.

Now, it is showing in Chicago in March, and I plan to get tickets to that, but my friends probably wont' be able to make that one.

What would you do? What should I tell my friends? I don't really want to wait till Thanksgiving, which is when I'm announcing this pregnancy. Thankfully Rent tickets aren't on sale yet.

[BlissfullyLoving]

I would probably not plan to have a 6 hour commute home the week I was due. I would definitely try to see the show earlier though, even if my friends could not make it.

As for your friends, if you are not ready to tell them I would come up with an excuse and deliver it not in person. Personally, I could not deliver a lie without giving it away on my face. Do you work? Could you say you or dh have something important going on with work? Family coming in? A wedding that weekend out of town? If you do feel comfortable telling them sooner then hold off as long as you want (if you want to at all). You do not have to change your plan to tell most people on Thanksgiving if you tell a few friends.

Good luck and have fun!

[sunflwrmoonbeam]

Thanks for the advice. I do totally fail at lying (not a bad thing, in my opinion), and I can't come up with a plausible excuse for missing this show. I guess this is what I get for everyone and their mother knowing I'm a gigantic fan. I may tell them if I see the heartbeat on Wednesday.

[maxwill129]

Are they friends that would keep the secret of the baby until you're ready to announce? I told my best friend and DH told his best friend about the baby already. They've promised to not utter a word...

[sunflwrmoonbeam]

Maybe...I'm a wedding planner and the one in particular I'm worried about is good friends with my client, whose wedding is June 20th. I'm oging to have to work out something with that, and I don't want to deal with it until the 2nd trimester, but my friend may feel an obligation to tell my client.

Life's complicated, isn't it?

[maxwill129]

Originally Posted by sunflwrmoonbeam

Life's complicated, isn't it?

Yes it is!!!

[Voltige]

Originally Posted by sunflwrmoonbeam

Maybe...I'm a wedding planner and the one in particular I'm worried about is good friends with my client, whose wedding is June 20th. I'm oging to have to work out something with that, and I don't want to deal with it until the 2nd trimester, but my friend may feel an obligation to tell my client.

Life's complicated, isn't it?

And I agreed last month to be the matron of honor at my cousin's wedding. She's my closest friend in the world and I can't imagine missing this! Her wedding is June 20th. My EDD is June 24th. It's a 6.5 hour drive in one direction.

I'm thrilled to be pregnant, but I can't believe the timing. I mean, really!

[BlissfullyLoving]

Originally Posted by Voltige

And I agreed last month to be the matron of honor at my cousin's wedding. She's my closest friend in the world and I can't imagine missing this! Her wedding is June 20th. My EDD is June 24th. It's a 6.5 hour drive in one direction.

I'm thrilled to be pregnant, but I can't believe the timing. I mean, really!

Me too! The wedding is May 31st, and I my edd is June 10...not as close as you, but still close.

[sunflwrmoonbeam]

Voltige, has the rooms been booked and all? Because if so, she might be willing to move the wedding for you, assuming you're really close friends (and being maid of honor, one would think so)

[because]

Hmmm... What would Sarah Palin do?

I would just tell the friends when they start to ask about buying tickets. I'm an early teller, though.

What a bummer on the timing! Will there be any other chances to see this cast?

[boscopup]

I would tell the friends, but tell them you aren't announcing yet, so they need to keep it quiet. And in particular, tell the one friend that you will talk to your client after you announce, so your friend is not to tell her and worry her.

Of course, most of my friends knew before my DH did, the day I took the test. : We're just not telling everyone at church until we tell grandparents.

[2in09]

personally, i would go. but i'm adventurous.


i saw rent for the first time in nyc when i was almost 8 months pregnant with ds. it was AWESOME. ds was jumping to the music in my belly, i'm pretty sure he was having a great time. and it turns out as a toddler he is very musical. i like to think that had something to do with rent.

i traveled all over while pregnant with ds. i ended up having him in a hospital 3states away with the local midwife. i wouldn't change a thing.

[Voltige]

Originally Posted by sunflwrmoonbeam

Voltige, has the rooms been booked and all? Because if so, she might be willing to move the wedding for you, assuming you're really close friends (and being maid of honor, one would think so)

Doubtful. . . she just picked the date about 3 weeks ago!!

I could tell her, but that would mean actually TELLING someone other than DH now. Hum. . .

Even a week earlier would be helpful. I'd probably do it then.