Originally Posted by transformed
can you LDS women tell me something? I hope I am not stereotyping (please call me out if I am) but how does your faith govern your ability to make a home? Every LDS women/family I have ever met have been so extraordinary - well behaved, peaceful, clean homes, strong relationships, etc.
I am actually thinking of investigating the church to see if I would fit in because everything in LDS friends I have had is what I want.
I think its the Peace mostly.
A quick disclaimer this is NOT me
I wish it were but I'm more of this...
|What if you are LDS and you are just undisciplined and messy? Then what?
It's really not an issue to be undisciplined and messy as in you won't get kicked out of the church although I'm sure some LDS women wouldn't talk to you
Every religion has them! Don't think we're all that way. And none of us is 'perfect'. We're just here to strive for perfection. The point is the journey.
I'm about to go all over the place so please bare with me!....
My version of a clean, organized, beautiful, functioning home is much different then Sister So-and-so and hers is different then Sister Whats-her-butt. Contrary to popular belief both within and without of the church this isn't about being a perfect cookie cutter cut out of the Sister next door (the quintessential LDS homemaker). So we all need to find what we love in our homes and make it that.
We believe (and this might be the reason for so many LDS homes being peaceful and in order) that the family is seriously it- the center of being. Because we view the family and the home as so important we aren't "bogged down" by 'having' to make a home. To us it is a duty and an honor. I think when we change our perspective of keeping a home it turns the task into something more. In our society today staying home with your kids and/or washing dishes, etc is seen as less desirable. I think THAT is the problem. I know it's MY problem!
That and I have no idea what I am doing most of the time. But that only makes me want to make sure my children know what it is they need to be doing so they don't grow up like me suddenly have this home and family thrust on them and think "Uh, now what?"
Julie B. Beck- the General Relief Society President- gave a talk a while back. Mothers Who Know
has gotten a lot of flack but I think if we look at it and face our flaws and embrace it rather then choose to pick out the offense and cling to that it will be a lot easier to digest and can really be an aid. I know it smacked me across the face and does every time I read it but I know I NEED that. And with that it makes me feel like I am on the right track and that God is with me.
In my mind the natural order is just that- an order! Everything the Lord creates has an order to it right down to the ittiest of molecules. Structured, ordered, and even scheduled.