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post #21 of 27

Elisha -

I'm glad you posted and bumped your birth story. It was really inspiring, and you were one brave mama! Hopefully you will get your VBAC in the not-too-distant future!

 

post #22 of 27
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your story is so touching and well-written. I'm glad that you have your sweet Charlotte safely with you, and acknowledge the feeling of loss that accompanies the evolution of a planned homebirth to a surgical birth. No, your body did not fail. You worked HARD. And good job standing up for yourself (and women everywhere)and calling that OB on his BS.

Nice. An OB saves her life, and your comment is critical. I'm tired of the doc hatred on these boards.
 

post #23 of 27
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Originally Posted by herbanmama View Post

your story is so touching and well-written. I'm glad that you have your sweet Charlotte safely with you, and acknowledge the feeling of loss that accompanies the evolution of a planned homebirth to a surgical birth. No, your body did not fail. You worked HARD. And good job standing up for yourself (and women everywhere)and calling that OB on his BS.

Nice. An OB saves her life, and your comment is critical. I'm tired of the doc hatred on these boards.
 


Hey, lets not fight over my birth story please. Yes, an OB did save my life, but he also fed me a Bull Sh*t line that really really pissed me off. He was surprised that I called him on it, but also accepted it & seemed glad even. We (the OB & I) started off with nasty steriotyped prejudices about each other & in the end came to a place of mutual respect & appreciation for each other, which is great! (and probably not all that common in my situation.) And btw, incase you haven't noticed, these discussion boards are pro natural & home birthing... and allot of women on here have had some really traumatic experiences with OB's. I'v had bad experiences with other kinds of Dr.'s & wanted NOTHING to do with any kind of Dr. regarding my birth. (after all, it's NOT an illness, its a baby!) I am incredibly grateful to the Dr. who saved our lives & think of him with fondness & gratitude. I am also one of the 3% of necessary cesarian's, and it was an anomaly that is not likely to ever happen again. Just because of my last experience, doesn't mean I'm gonna go running to a Dr. if I ever get pregnant again. In fact, I guarantee that I wouldn't set foot in a hospital unless absolutely necessary! Just like I did before. So if your sick of doc hatred on these boards, then you might want to consider finding a more main stream discussion forum, where women aren't trying to stand up for themselves & their rights to birth how they want without having some hospital/clock/corporate policies/etc... dictate their birth. Yes, an OB did save my life, I am eternally grateful to him, I am also eternally grateful to the Dr. who spent 4hrs jigsaw puzzling my ankle back together with titanium last August. But you know what? I am still not a Dr. advocate, don't have allot of faith in Western medicine (aside from surgery, WM rocks surgery, that is it's forte, it is good at it & I am sooo grateful to have it!) But no, I don't believe that Dr.'s belong at healthy normal births, I don't believe that they are needed for things like colds & flu's. I feel like they pass out waaaaaaay too many prescriptions, in an abusive manner even, and I'm not talking just narcotic, antibiotics, any of it! Pills are not the answer to anything! Masking symptoms will never make any one healthy! So yeah, Dr.'s are good at surgery, I'm glad to have them for that & that alone! And btw, I'm glad I stood up to that OB, he was glad that I stood up to him, & I'm glad that other women are glad I stood up to him too! I'm not sure why you chose to be so negative to someone who was being positive, I really appreciated herbanmammas comment when she posted it (in case you haven't noticed, it's from like 2 1/2 years ago.) and it meant allot to me at the time! I see that you are pg at 40 & maybe having some faith issues with your self & your body. My advice to you would be that your body does know what it is doing, and no Dr. can do it for you. (Unless of course you schedule a c-section pre date like Britney Spears.) But honestly, I know a number of women who had their first baby around 40ish & had beautiful peaceful natural births, without a Dr.. Of course we all have different emotional needs, & if the presence of a Dr. will make you feel safer, then that is important. Feeling safe is critical to birthing. A doe will instantly stop full on labor to relocate if she feels threatened. I don't know if you noticed in my story, but when I walked into the hospital & was checked by the Dr. my cervix went from 10cm to 2cm! Thats pretty drastic! I for one, am not very comfortable with Dr.'s, felt threatened & scared, & my body reacted. Like I said, if a Dr. will make you feel safer, then it is important that you have one with you. But you don't need to criticize the rest of us who feel threatened by them, and prefer to deal with them only when absolutely necessary. My body's reaction speaks for my feelings. I wish for you the most perfect & beautiful birth in the way that you envision it. Blessings.stillheart.gif

post #24 of 27
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Elisha -

I'm glad you posted and bumped your birth story. It was really inspiring, and you were one brave mama! Hopefully you will get your VBAC in the not-too-distant future!

 



Thanks for the well wishes, but I'm done. No more babies for me, at least not in any foreseeable future! That has been a big part of my healing process, realizing that I don't need to have another baby simply for the sake of VBACing & proving myself. Right now I am perfectly happy with just my Charlie & I. I might feel different if I were happily married in a functioning & Loving relationship, but as it is, I am happily divorced & Loving being a single mom to my incredible little girl! Life is pretty darn good for the two of us right now & it is a beautiful thing to be just a mommy & daughter... love.gif

post #25 of 27

 I am glad to see an update on how you are doing. How far you have come in healing is inspiring. I am sitting here on my due date anticipating my vbac. I have planned a home birth with midwives I really trust, and am now trying to let it all go, and know what will be will be. I hope I am able to have an empowering natural birth at home, and learn even more about birth and myself in the process of two very different births, but I know all I can do is try my best, and surrender control to what will be.

post #26 of 27

Rivermama, I was just feeling exasperated when I wrote that (since I do know great docs who put all their heart and soul into it), but in no means wish to take over your thread. Overall, I feel more positive feelings from reading these boards than despair, so I keep coming back. Your thread is one of the fascinating ones. Congrats on your birth.

post #27 of 27
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First Time Mamma, congratulations on your imminent new arrival & amazing process of trust, faith & VBAC... much Love & many Blessings headed your way! joy.gif

 

pregnant@40, I too wish to apologize for my emotional reaction. A HUGE part of my c-section process was learning to have some faith in Dr.'s & western medicine, learning respect & appreciation for something that I had so harshly judged for so much of my life, and was not an easy lesson for me to learn. You are so very right, many Dr.'s do pour their hearts & souls into what they do, and are passionate about helping people... why else would they be attracted to medicine, or healing arts, in any form? Last August I severely broke my ankle (I'm talking grotesquely disfigured, really really bad kind of broken,) and on my way to the ER, I was Overwhelmed with this Incredible sense of Gratitude for western medicine, their ability to do things like put people back together with titanium, & my ability to have access to such things... a far cry from the scared, closed, apprehensive & angry woman who was wheeled into the OR less than two years earlier... I obviously still have judgments that cause emotional reactions, but I have come a long way... & think of so many Dr.'s with such fondness & gratitude now... we are so blessed to be alive in todays day & age when these amazing people are performing such incredible miracles in the medical world every day... Wow, we are so Blessed Indeed! stillheart.gif

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