Ivy and I were verbally assulted - Page 3

[pastelsummer]

Ok i would be calling the police that is verbal assult and threats when she told you to
"slice my throat open and die" I would try to have a restraining order placed on the family as it sound unsafe to let you and dd be around them. And I would only let DD out when you could be with her.

[Cherry Alive]

Originally Posted by mamasaurus

Can you go somewhere else? A park or playground?

ITA. This sounds like a really good approach. Nature walks are really awesome and great bonding experiences. And at a nice playground, perhaps she could make healthy friends.

For days you are busy, could you enroll her in an afternoon camp at the Y? Ours have many wonderful active outdoor programs open to young children, and they are well-monitored.

[want2bmoms]

I'm so sorry you had to experience this. In order for a harrassment claim to be filed, you'll typically have to report it three times...

As far as how to deal with the situation, I have a script!!! "Excuse me, I'm sorry you are so upset. You seem to be having trouble controling yourself. I will not allow you to talk to me or my family that way. If you would like to have a calm and rational conversation at a later date, we can discuss your concerns; if you prefer to stand here and continue to yell, I can call the police. Either way, right now, I am shutting this door. Have a nice day." *shut and lock door.*


Verbal assaults like this are a little beyond the normal scope, I would just go down to the police station, so that you don't have to have them come out to your house, then ask to talk to an officer to file a complaint/report. If it would be more comfortable, you can also call the non-emergency number and request to have an officer meet you at a more comfortable location, so you're not on their "turf" and vise versa.

I would also be very clear that your daughter can NOT play out of earshot of you. "Mommy is worried about the scary neighbor and some of the things she said, so I want to be able to see and hear you at all times."

[MamaKath]

There was lots of great advice already. I would also suggest talking to the police.

We have had a horrible neighbor problem and got the police involved. We are so glad we did. My kids know not to play with so and so because it is not SAFE. I have gotten beyond the "good vs. bad" thing, they are not safe!!! My children are not allowed outside unsupervised now either (adult physically outside). The person who threatened us is no longer there, however the sentiment is still within the household of wanting harm for our family (yelled out, spoken, etc). I am still responsible for keeping the kids safe though.

A friend of ours recently had a similar situation. He did not get the police involved quickly enough. After many prior, unreported incidents the teenagers were vandalizing his property, assaulted him and he fought back. He is now fighting charges himself as well as fighting for his job due to the arrest.

Also keep a journal of any incidents, police responses, etc.

[uptowngirl]

Originally Posted by jeliphish

I would have done much more than this...

I would call the police and obtain warrants for assault. I would also contact CPS with the information that you have and explain the situation- that this is not a "malicious" complaint but just an example of the instability that goes on in their home. And btw- if they say it's not "enough" to go out on an investigation- ask if there is a prevention or ongoing unit that can look into it- because they are typically the units that can go out on complaints that don't rise to the standards of needing a CPS investigator in the home.

This. and I'm so sorry you and your dd are having to deal with such nasty people.